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Stress Reducer #4: Create a Daily Routine
In line with what we teach in parent education classes, having a daily routine is a great stress reducer for you and the kids. This is especially true for the children if you have recently gone through a stressful situation like a death of a loved one, divorce or even a move to a new town. Daily routines put normalcy and safety into stressful lives.
Stress Reducer #5: Be Consistent with Parental Discipline
Kids need to know the rules and boundaries of the household. They also need to know that their parents will uphold the rules. Children living in single parent homes with no clear or consistent rules are often stressed out, maladjusted and rebellious.
Stress Reducer #6: Live and Let Live with the Other Parent
Many times single parents have ongoing disagreements with the other parent over custody, visitation or child support calculations. As a person who has worked in Family Court for over two decades, I know this is a major cause of stress in a single person•âs life. However, you can reduce your stress in this area by coming to a mediated custody/support agreement with the other parent. When the parents are united on custody related issues, the kids also suffer less stress related ailments.
Having a successful mediation means you can avoid court, additional legal fees and keep your kids from getting into the middle of a stress mess. Doesn•ât that make you feel less stressed already? Well, here•âs one other bit of good news: Most Family Courts offer some form of free mediation to their clients. Before spending wasted money on an attorney, contact your local jurisdiction to see what the options are.
Stress Reducer #7: Take Care of Yourself
You do your children no good if you are stressing, and having no joy in your life. So pencil in some free time (don¡¯t laugh) for yourself to enjoy some activities you like. If that includes dating, make sure you understand the issues of single parent dating with kids in order to avoid additional stress.
In addition, we all know that eating right and exercise can greatly reduce stress and release anxiety-killing endorphins into your bloodstream.
Overall, we have just touched the tip of stress reducing ideas for single parents. If you have any other stress reducer tips, please help other singles lessen their stress by making a comment.
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