Christian Singles Girls Being Unequally Yoked

The following article on Christian single girls being in an unequally yoked dating relationship comes to us from Tracy:

I thank the Lord for this site. After choosing to live in sin for the past two years, the Lord has been merciful and has forgiven me, and filled me with his Holy Spirit once again. I was angry with God for being “alone”, and being a single mother. I rebelled, and decided that I was going to be in an unequally yolked relationship, and that “I” was going to enjoy it. For 18 months the relationship tore me to pieces! I had gotten so deep into sin, it appeared as though I would have never gotten out. I did everything I knew was against God’s word. I got into a relationship with a married man, he left his wife (he had already planned to leave if it wasnt me it would have been someone else). It was love and romance for two weeks, and then hell for two weeks. The cycle was like this for 18 months. I was filled with torment, anguish, and a loss of control. I resisted going to God b/c I wanted things my way. I wanted to believe that I could make it work, if I just changed a certian way. But it was NEVER meant to work. So, for the first time in my life I got into divination in order to keep the man, taro, and horoscopes. The devil had me as his puppet. I spent tons on psychotherapy, blamming myself for everything that went wrong in the relationship. Believe it or not, for the first time I even tried a drug to escape the pain…this nearly caused me to completely loose my mind. But thank you Jesus, because of his mercy, there were moments in the midst of this evil that I was able to cry out to Jesus for help and he heard me. I knew that I was not strong enough without his power to get out of this sickness. God heard me and he answered me. After dozens of breakups (I was the one always getting dumped and accepting him back) the man finally dumped me for Good. I believe that he found someone else, while with me (no suprise), God worked it out to where I caught him flirting and I confronted him on it. He said it was the last straw. Thank you Jesus! Thank you for my mind, thank you for your holy spirit. Thank him for forgiveness and mercy, and goodness. The devil came to destroy me. And I was helping him to do that all the way. But if it had not been for Jesus, I might have been dead today. Its just not worth it getting into an unequally yoked relationship when YOU KNOW that you shouldnt. The devil comes to rob kill and destroy, and he will use any opportunity. Its worse when we know, and willfuly go into sin. Ive had bad experiences before, in unequal relationhsips but obviously didnt learn. This experience was to really teach me and seal the deal to live for Christ. Emotionally, the loss leads me, at times, to miss the man I thought I loved, but what I have to remember is that this man was never good. He is a sinner, and has no desire to know God. Satan is a seducer, and so he presented this man as good on occassion to keep me in as long as it would take to destroy me. When I feel that sadness, or loneliness come on, each day I read my bible, and pray and cry out to the Lord about the pain my disobedience caused. And each day, I desire to get closer to Jesus b/c he is all I have and he loves me for real. The filling of his spirit makes me feel like I can get through this. I also pray that God fixes that part of me that led to my desperation to need a man so badly that I would be willing to go all out to go to hell. There is a problem in my flesh that needs healing. Im happy I had a chance to share. There is so much that I could share, but for sake of space, Ill cut it short. Thanks for reading.

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Christian Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys

Most Christian single women and men we surveyed feel that many girls seem to prefer to date “bad guys”. Yup, hands down most single girls (Christians included) would rather date Jack Sparrow, the pirate, than Richie Cunningham, the Happy Days all-around good guy.

One depressed single Christian guy (I’m assuming he’s a good one) lamented: “I just don’t get it. Here I am, a sensitive, passionate Christian with a caring heart and a good job, but I can’t find a date if my life depended on it. Yet, some strange dude on a Harley pulls into town, and he gets any girl he wants.” Some we spoke to even went so far as to say that girls are addicted to bad guys.

So what exactly is a bad guy? One single girl put it this way: “A bad guy is a guy your parents and friends would freak out over. He’s also someone you know in your heart is bad for you spiritually, emotionally and possibly even physically, but you just can’t resist him.” Does that sound like a vampire attraction thing, or what!

Christian Single Girls On Bad Guys

Single girls who prefer bad guys described them this way:

• They are exciting and unpredictable

• They are bold, brash and extremely self-confident

• They are strong and protective

• They are sexy and dangerous all at the same time

• They don’t come across as needy and desperate like a lot of other guys

If you really think about it, some of the qualities listed above are decent things to look for in a guy. So why are bad guys so bad for girls? The problem lies in the fact that even though bad guys’ collective qualities make them not boring, they also make them self absorbent. Some would also label them “jerks“, or possibly even abusive daters.

The bottom line is that this kind of single guy is unable to meet all of the things Christian single girls want and need in a guy. They may offer a girl protection, but be unable to provide financial and emotional support; They may make for a sexy and exciting date, but lack the consistency and communication skills necessary for a longterm relationship and/or marriage.

Help For Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys

If you are a single Christian girl on the verge of dating or presently dating someone you believe to be a bad guy, finding out why is the first step toward saving yourself more pain. Ask yourself the following:

• Do you feel you don’t deserve any better relationship?

• Do you continually feel a need to change guys for the better?

• Do you fear emotionally intimate relationships and commitment?

• Do you find yourself repeating a pattern of abusive relationships?

Finally, seeking advice from close Christian friends, good a Christian counseling service or pastor, may help guide you toward making better dating decisions in the future.

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Christian Woman-Biblical Advice on how to be Attractive

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What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

What do Christian single girls look for in a single Christian guy when contemplating a soulmate or marriage partner? This question always seems to percolate in any singles groups I have ever attended or led. We found some online surveys about Christian single girls (ages 18-70) you may find quite interesting.

Okay guys, so you’re no babe magnet? Don’t worry about it because the good news here is that single Christian girls of all ages appear to put physical attraction behind four other qualities that you may have. If you don’t have any of these, you may want to consider becoming a eunuch.

Top Dating Qualities Christian Girls Want

Here are the top five qualities single Christian girls look for in a Christian single guy:

1. Christian single women want a guy who is passionate about his Lord. Nothing is more attractive to a single Christian girl than a guy who is in love with Jesus, and passionate about following Him. A guy sold out for Jesus lets the single Christian girl know that he is not afraid of big commitments as in, ahem…marriage. I can’t believe I just wrote the “M” word.
2. Christian single girls put a high value on a guy who can honestly share feelings. She wants to be able to trust that her potential husband is a man of his word, and faithful to her. It also doesn’t hurt that he is not afraid to cry while watching sad movies. Look, most of us have been burned by fakers and liars, and it hurts big time. For some of you guys who do have a problem in this area, I suggest listening to that old Billy Joel tune, Honesty, and doing a Bible word study on the word.
3. Christian single girls are attracted to a guy with a good sense of humor. Life has lots of bumps in the road, and a sense of humor will help her keep perspective on what is really important (Col. 3:1) when the going gets tough. Plus, these kind of folks are just fun to be around.
4. Single Christian girls are looking for a guy who can provide a stable environment. Translation: A single woman finds a man appealing who has a steady job and loving relationships with his immediate family members. This shows the single Christian girl that the guy is dependable, consistent and able to provide for a family. This issue of provision is extremely important for a any single woman looking for a mate. Look, we’re not talking Donald Trump here, okay? As my one Christian single girlfriend says, “If he has an operating driver’s license and a job, that’s good enough for me.”
5. Coming in at fifth place is the issue of physical attractiveness. Christian single girls relay that it’s important (but not most important) that they be somewhat physically attracted to the man they marry. In other words, when a single Christian girl looks upon you, she should find “something” appealing about you physically. You may not be a Brad Pitt, but you almost certainly have at least one feature that is above average in appearance.

Well, guys, there you have it. Whether you meet someone through an online Christian Dating/Matchmaking site or church singles group, what Christian single girls want in a guy remains the same.

Are you a Christian single girl or guy with a different take on the issue? Feel free to submit your dating comments.

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