Dating Tips for Shy Guys

Over 800 people a month search for dating tips for shy guys and how to overcome shyness on the web each month. We know from the mail we receive that reading about dating tips for shy guys will benefit many  christian singles, both guys and girls.

There are many different reasons why people are shy when it comes to dating and romance. Being love shy is not only a problem for Christian single guys. The problem pervades both sexes equally, so the following tips will apply to both sexes.

Top 3 Dating Tips for Shy Guys

Gain Some Confidence for Dating

This dating tip for guys is simple: Confidence is appealing, plain and simple, because girls are attracted to guys who at least come off as being confident.

Learn How to Hold a Conversation

Perhaps the most  important of the dating tips for shy guys.

Don’t Be a Desperate Dater

This is a turnoff for both sexes,  Christian or not.

Dating Tips Podcast for Guys and Gals

This week’s dating  tips podcast come to us from Steven Furtik, of Elevation Church. Entitled, “Boy. Have You’ve Got a Lot to Learn.” This is a message about dating you don’t want to miss. Believe me.

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Love-Shy Singles: How to Overcome Shyness

Are you one of those love-shy single who doesn’t date because you’re timid? Wish you knew how to overcome shyness? If you do, don’t be bashful about it because you’re in good company. According to Dr. Phillip Zimbardo, a Stanford psychologist, nearly 40% of singles are shy about asking someone out on a date.

A single person who is shy is often anxious (some have even been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder) or uneasy around the opposite sex and dating situations. Many shy singles wrongly get tabbed as being “stuck up” or weird, when in fact they are simply lacking in self-confidence and uncertain how to communicate their feelings.

Many feel a love-shy single’s self-consciousness over finding a date stems from being afraid of rejection, which sadly is one of the fears that keep women and men single.

If you are a love-shy single Christian who has struggled with timidity in dating relationships, the following tips may help you conquer and overcome being shy:

Tips on Overcoming Shyness

Address the Origin

Understanding why someone is shy makes it easier to treat and heal, both clinically and spiritually. Although some psychologists feel shyness has genetic and environmental causes, many singles can trace their bashfulness to one or more embarrassing incidents that utterly ruined their self worth.

Think about your own past. Were you a shy boy? A shy girl? A shy teen? Was there anything that happened in your childhood that made you withdraw? Talking about these experiences with a qualified Christian counselor and/or understanding pastor can foster healing.

Imitate How Others Do It

Take note of how other singles communicate with the opposite sex. How do they introduce themselves? What topics do they discuss? What kind of body language is going on? Knowing how to have good conversation starter skills can help a love-shy person break the ice.

Enjoy Mixed Company

A low pressure way for a shy person to meet other single men and women is by joining clubs where people have a shared common interest, such as sporting activities, reading clubs, christian singles groups, etc. In this type of environment, dating relationships can occur naturally.

Remember It’s Not About You

Understand that shyness is, ultimately, a whacky form of self-centeredness. Instead of keeping your eyes on yourself, worrying what other people are thinking, practice taking a proactive interest in them: Seek out what they think, how they feel, how you can make them feel comfortable and relaxed.

It may be difficult for a shy person at first, so if you need to, pray for boldness in this area. If you do this, you will see your social skills improving, and find it much easier to converse with and meet others.

When we take our eyes off of ourselves, we can do amazing things with God’s help. Remember, Peter walked on water as long as his eyes were not on his own fears.

Consider Using an Online Dating Service

Many love-shy singles have found there are many benefits to using online Christian dating services like eHARMONY because they are able to meet a date in their own way, and at their pace. This can also occur in the safety of their own homes. For some reason people find it far easier to initiate conversations online rather than in person. Whatever works for you is what you should try.

If you are a shy woman or man who is interested in online Christian dating, this resource on how to meet more single Christians online may be helpful.

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