Our church pod-cast of the week has an interesting twist on the subject of singleness and the single life, that may change your concept of singleness and dating. Pastor Bill Lloyd of White Stone Fellowship in Stuart, Florida (FL), speaks on singleness, dating, mating, love and marriage, all from the from the perspective of Adam and Eve, the first single guy and gal. Did you ever look at this couple in that way?
Singleness Equals Incomplete?
Many Christian singles and certain married couples in the church equate singleness with incompleteness and discontentment. If your view of singleness is in line with this view, this message will be encouraging and helpful to you.
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So how much contentment do you have living this Christian single life? Does your single life consist of daily drudgery, loneliness and boredom, or do you live with joyful contentment and a positive expectation of what today may bring? If we were honest, most of us would say it’s pretty much a “mixed bag” of both extremes.
Recently I spoke with one of my single Christian friends. She stated earlier that day she had experienced lots of contentment, just lounging in her backyard, and worshiping the Lord for all the beauty around her. Yet, less than four hours later as she was walking on the boardwalk with friends, the mere sight of a dating couple walking hand in hand caused all that contentment to ooze out of her.
As my single friend recounted the incident she stated: “I immediately started getting these negative thoughts like, ‘What could he possibly see in her?’ and ‘It’s just not fair; when is my turn coming?’ I started the day in such a contented mood; I returned home that evening a discontented and depressed single woman, thinking I was doomed to be a childless old maid.” Does this sound familiar?
In the Scriptures Paul writes: “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content”. (Phil. 4:11) Hello? The guy was in jail when he wrote this. Is that remarkable or what?
So just what does it mean to be content? The gist of this word means to have a sense of sufficiency and contentment with one’s lot, regardless of external circumstances. Wow! I wish could I could have the kind of contentment Paul spoke of, but too often I allow circumstances to choke it out of me.
Like my single friend with her story, many Christian singles, men and women alike, also tend to struggle in this area as they wait on the Lord for a mate. When we don’t see anything happening externally, we fret and worry. Yet, our Lord desires us not to react to every single twist and turn of life, but to proactively step out in faith, expecting His grace to be suffcient for us.
Contentment and Single Life Tips
If contentment is a touchy issue for you, here are some practical points that may help:
Don’t worry what others have, or what they are doing.
In John 21, Peter made this mistake when he looked at John’s life. “Hey, Lord, How about this guy?” Jesus’ response? “Don’t worry about John. You follow me.” When we stick close to Jesus, and stay focused on Him, He’ll take care of your every need.
Be thankful in all circumstances (1Thes. 5:18)
It’s really simple:You can’t have discontentment and be thankful at the same time.
Remember, contentment is a learned response. (Phil 4:11)
It’s a mindset you need to practice, so don’t beat yourself up when you fall. It didn’t happen over night for Paul, it won’t happen for you.
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