When I read your long comment in what Christian single guys want in a wife, it made me crack up, NOT because I am laughing at you, but because everything you said about not feeling comfortable with the online dating services or going to singles meeting at church where older people usually attend are thoughts I have had myself. BTW, I am a single, never been married, no kids, 34 yr. old MAN. I also would like for you to know that just like you think all the ‘good men’ are taken, well, I sometimes think that all the ‘good women’ are taken too. Let me tell you something that is giving me hope and maybe it will give you hope also.

All of a sudden, I am going to three or maybe four weddings this year. Three are family members and one is a friend, who is a brother in Christ. This friend(33), I thought, was wasting wasting his time with a long distance relationship. He found someone else and all of a sudden, he asked me to be his best man. Two of my three family members are cousins, one female(33) who I was worried she wouldn’t find some one and one male(36) who I was also worried about, because his ex-fiancee broke it off a few weeks before their wedding that never happened. Both or these cousins are Christins too. The third one is younger, in her 20’s, but I do remember she was an ugly duckling who became a beautiful swan.

Check this out, I used to pray for the older cousins to find a mate, and to be honest, I stopped after a while because I ‘thought’ God maybe wanted them to be single. Next thing I know, this year, I hear the news and I was like WOW, praise GOD!
I have faith that I will also be blessed the same way!!!!

and how to lose a guy in ten days and any other movie

we are NOT UNDER THE LAW
we are free in christ

I am a man i want to marry a woman
I want to have passionate regular sex with the woman i love
i want to go grocery shopping
I want to read the bible together make a snow man
garden together

but where are the woman that want to be married
to one man
have sex with one man
LIVE for god
have a family

I am so tired of crying tired of being alone
tired of being the persistant prayer man and saying to god
PLEASE GIVE ME MY OWN WIFE

i have suffered alot in my life
and even after all that
my strongest desire is to love one woman

why cant a christian man
find a woman that wants to be loved?

Robert

John:

Nothing is impossible with God. I know many couples who HAD a rotten sex life, and God turned it around. What you need to is honestly and lovingly communicate your feelings to your wife. Pray with her over the issue, seek counseling if need be. I know what you’re thinking, and that’s not an option. God bless.

David

Although, every where I turn, the guys I seem to like turn out to be married every time, which then leaves me feeling like all the good ones are taken. Then I know there are single guys that seem interested in me…but they don’t ever approach me to ask me out for a date. I guess I’m a little old fashioned and think it should be the guy who should ask if they’re interested. And I guess I shouldn’t have put my career ahead of my personal life for as long as I did…because now that I’m ready to look for my soulmate…the pickings are quite slim.

Needles to say, I’m getting rather discouraged and thinking I’m doomed to single-dom for the rest of my days.

I realize that the Bridget Jones movies are “R” rated…so please don’t judge me for watching them. Yes…there are things in the movies that I could do without…mainly the language and some of the content…but if you get passed all that, one of the reasons I like the movie(s) so much is because I can relate to the character of Bridget in many ways. There is a scene when Bridget has to go to a home of married friends and everyone else there is either married or there with a date. She arrives alone and feels like the 5th wheel…so to speak. I often feel like that in social situations like, for example, the company picnic. There are a few of us single gals just sitting around trying to fit in but feeling left out as the couples all group together and talk…or the families all go off by themselves to do their own thing, leaving the single person sitting there alone to twiddle their thumbs. Yes, some of single gals talk but needless to say…it’s still a little depressing and lonely.

Then there are the statistics that say…”If you didn’t marry early, chances are you never will”. Great. Thank you so much for that wonderful piece of information. You have greatly increased my hope of ever finding my soulmate (note my sarcasm).

I’m also a little skeptical about the Internet dating game because…well…I hate to say it…and I know it’s now a growing trend…but I still have this idea in the back of my head that says if I do Internet dating, it’s like I’m acting out of desperation and it’s no better than putting an ad in the local newspaper personals. Might as well put a sign on my forehead saying, “Desperate woman in search for a husband.”

And then I heard from someone else that attended the local Christian singles group say, “Don’t go there, they’re all old divorcees or widowers.” So I’m thinking, great…I’ll be the only 31 year old woman in a room full of 50-70 year old single men. Wonderful. I’d really like to find someone closer to my own age very much thank you.

I do pray for my soulmate to come into my life and I feel that if it happens…it will just happen like everything else has in my life and I’ll never see it coming. But right now I don’t understand why I have to go thru this time of lonliness. I don’t know if the Lord has me here in this place for some purpose. I’m sure there’s a reason I can’t comprehend, and perhaps in the future all will be revealed…but getting from point A to point B is quite discouraging.

Any advice you might give me that might brighten my day?

Sorry this has gotten so long…I guess I just needed somewhere to vent my frustrations.

Thank you for “listening”.