Comments on: What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

By: CadyB

CadyB — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 05:54:17 +0000

Hi Cyndi,

I’m sure that the other people on this site will have a lot of insightful things to say to you. But I can tell you by experience that things will probably not get better with this guy. It is just a matter of whether to break it off now, or let it go on until things get worse.

In short, if he really loved you, he would not WANT you to compromise yourself. You have to make a decision that you are more valuable than he thinks you are, and break off the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I know that this is not an easy thing to do. But Cyndi, I can tell you as a sister in the Lord, you are definately worth more to God than how this guy is treating you, and it is extremely important that you not do what this guy is begging you to do. Keep in mind also, although you may love him, he is doing none other than the devil’s work in your life. In this way he is not loving you back.

Please take a moment and read Psalm 139, which says “I am wonderfully and fearfully made.” This Psalm will help you to see what an incredible creation of God you are. You are worth waiting for, and when the right guy comes into your life, you will be so glad you didn’t give yourself over to the wrong guy.

I will pray for you about this. Please let us know how things go.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 02:32:13 +0000

In regard to Christian single girls, I totally agree with the 5 principles. I am currently in a relationship with a not-so-Christian guy who cannot accept the fact that I am no longer sexually active. We have been goin up and down about this sex thning and it’s about time that he just get it through his head that No means No. Hes says that he understands but continues to ask for it. What’s Wrong?

By: abby

abby — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 19:54:25 +0000

i think christian women want a man who genuinly loves Jesus, a man who is disciplined in his walk with the Lord but also not too legalistic, holy, seperated unto God balanced and humble…

By: Tony

Tony — Sun, 04 May 2008 01:27:24 +0000

Do relationships between Christian men and women who attend different churches work, despite the fact that many men satisfy the requirements that Christian women desire in Christian men?

By: Matty O

Matty O — Fri, 02 May 2008 11:53:45 +0000

regarding Christian single girls,I think in large part, Christian single women have no idea what they actually prioritize, and are largely informed by their culture much more than their faith community. The high value on security is a very western and largely american value to hold. The reality of God’s sovereignty never really touches on women’s sensibilities. Safety and Security are relative. If a guy is really passionate about the Lord, he is probably going to be doing work that is a) not very profitable in the eyes of the world (Galatians 1:10) b) worth being persecuted and even dying for, and certainly c) worth living in a way that favors simplicity and dependence over materiality and independence (1 Peter 4:12-13, Acts 2:32)
I’m not saying it’s wrong for a Christian to financially successful at all, but to do so in the pursuit of comfort or safety is kind of putting the cart before the horse. Job was probably the richest guy in the world, but in one horrible day he lost it all.

By: aien

aien — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 03:02:16 +0000

Wow, I can’t believe this!!! I saw this site and found the EXACT top five things i want in a man. I’m praying for that kind of man…I hope to meet him soon…

By: Eric

Eric — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 04:24:57 +0000

Noted, Thanks

By: Eric

Eric — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 04:16:14 +0000

Eric
You must replace sense of humor with Prayer, “Those who prayed over came” goes the saying. There are lots of good people with a sense of humor but they them self struggle inside sense of humor could be considered as an extra thing, these are not the qualities Christian single should look for. When a man or women is connected to God by Prayer , reading the word of God their life change & you know what to do in what direction to go because God’s hand is on you. The fact is when you do a survey People come up with so many suggestion such premarital sex etc.. They will say (If she is great in bed you will put up with a lot of bad behavior on her part) and most of it sounds true appealing to you flesh but at the end none of it works. The Bible is the ultimate book in Psychology it tells you about behaviorism and how to live life, it’s the source/foundation from which we derive what we say and do and in it you get the proper qualities a single Christian girls & Boys should look for when choosing a sole mate. First of all go on your knees and pray & you will not go wrong.
Eric

By: fisher woman

fisher woman — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 00:14:17 +0000

Christian single girls:the list seems to me quite guessed right. For me the 3rd point must be the 2nd important one, I love the men with sense of humor. And sincere, that is very important.

By: Even Steven

Even Steven — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:50:33 +0000

Reality check for Christian Single GUYS. Women want a sensitive Christian single guy TO A POINT. Keep your mouth shut when it comes to doubts about things in your life or feelings of insecurity. Get with your pastor or some sort of trusted mentor on this. Talking to your Christian girl is like trying to make her your therapist. She is not equipped for it. She will file these shortcomings in her “OMG he is weak” POP-UP folder, and never forget. Confidence in you is a perception for your girl. Relax guys have fun, make money, trust that God will put that girl in your path. And you have to work that path, be on guard for women who Talk the nice Christian wife role , but can’t live it. i.e. If she is questioning how you plan a date and does not thank you for your efforts. Get ready to move on. Until you find your wife candidate I strongly recommend NO EXCLUSIVE DATING.
And I know you do not want to hear this but no sex, it will only lead to clouding your judgment about her. If she is great in bed you will put up with alot of bad behaviour on her part. Weak women use this as a trap, knowing this fact. STAY STRONG SINGLE CHRISTIAN MEN, CHOSE WELL WHO WE BREED WITH . WE ARE NEEDED MORE THAN EVER. Amen