Posts from June 2017

Posts from June 2017

Fighting Temptations as a Single Person

A significant part of the Christian single life consists of fighting temptations. When we think of fighting temptations as a single person, many of us think of battling sexual impurity. But fighting temptation as single Christians is not just about sex. Fighting Temptations: The Top 5 What are you fighting temptation against today? According to our informal survey, here is a list of the top areas singles find themselves fighting temptations: Sex Sin Fear of Commitment, Vulnerability Food Fear of…
female commitment phobia

Female Commitment Phobia |Commitment Phobic Christian Women

Is there really such a thing as female commitment phobia? As I teach in our single parenting seminars, commitment phobia is usually a guy problem. However, with over 49 million single women in the US alone, female commitment phobia is rising sharply. Why is this? There are many fears that keep women single but some feel this increase in female commitment phobia is coming from those who have been through a past troubled relationship, such as a divorce. For example,…

Single Parents Podcast-Hope for Single Parents

Single parents, especially those with joint custody, can often feel discouraged and stressed out when thinking about their daily dose of responsibilities. A Christian single parent friend of mine says she sometimes feels like “a gerbil running round and round on a wheel, with no end in sight.” If you’re a single parent reading this article, do you ever feel this way? A Message for Single Parents If you’re a single parent feeling a little pooped out at the moment,…

Dating After a BreakUp

Dating after a breakup  of a serious relationship can be tricky experience for any single, Christian or not. Self esteem issues, rejection and the ever lurking possibility of a rebound relationships are things singles need to be cognizant of after reentering the the dating world after a breakup. Do you think you are ready for dating after a breakup? Most experts in the field suggest daters wait at least a year after you break up, whether you’re thinking about dating…

Second Date Tips

Woohoo! You made it to the second date because you didn’t blow it on the first date. So just what would one constitute a successful second date? The following second date tips come from several folks who have been there. Your first date is really to see if you would like to keep seeing that person. Your second date is the time when the two of you start to open up and reveal your self to the other person. On…

Christian Dating Guy Sounds Off

The following article is from Eric, a Christian single and one of our Christian Dating Service PLUS! readers addressing why nice Christian single guys have such a hard time finding a nice Christian girl. Respond as you wish: Though I feel that what I have to say might be taken as offensive, especially to those of you who were given the gift of being a female, I hope to offer it as perhaps a different take on this issue. My…

Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women

The following article, Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women, was written by a single Christian woman who is also a mental health professional. The writer thought it important that single Christian men, in their fight against lust and quest for sexual purity in dating relationships, understand how the sexual feelings of Christian single women work: I just want to say to all the Christian men who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do –…

How to Be a Sensible Fool in Love

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love means never having to say you’re sorry unless you don’t heed the advice you are about to read. Don’t be a fool in love!  My friend David runs this site and I asked him if I could pen (who pens anymore in the age of computers?) an article for his readers. Fool in Love Advice In my professional life in the court system, I have observed these 10 truisms many times over the…

Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart

How to mend a broken heart for singles who are broken hearted? Almost everyone has had their own “broken heart confession” of a lost relationship. A broken heart is a broken heart, whether that relationship was in a dating context or a marriage. All I can say is it’s one of the most painful things I’ve ever suffered. While mending a broken heart takes different amounts of time for each person, the following points on how to mend a broken…

Control Freaks in Dating

Have you ever dated control freaks? While we’re on the topic, are you a control freak? Yes, even Christian singles can be control freaks. Control freaks can be both male and female, and at first can come across as quite appealing. However, as the dating relationship progresses a control freak will intensify his or her acting out until it becomes overwhelming for the other partner.Control freaks make for horrible Christian marriage partners. Unfortunately, it’s very difficult to spot “a freak”…

Christian Singles Secrets

Many Christian singles walk around with the burden of carrying personal secrets bottled up deep in their hearts. Whether the secrets are unconfessed sexual sins, painful memories, regrets, shame-filled experiences or totally whacked out thoughts, God did not design us to deal with such raw issues by ourselves. From the Garden, the Lord created mankind for intimate fellowship with no room for secrets. Adam’s hiding from God after eating of the fruit is the Bible’s first recorded secret. Do you…

How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

Ask ten different people how to ask someone out on a date, and no doubt each person’s answer will be a little different than the next one. The following dating tips on how to ask someone out seeks to put together the best from what we’ve accumulated from other Christian singles. How to Ask Someone Out on a Date Advice How to Ask Someone Out on a Date: Practice But Speak from the Heart Asking someone out on a date,…