Posts from 2019

Posts from 2019

learning how to argue and fight fair

Learning How to Argue and Fight

The best dating tip we could give Christian singles is learning how to  argue and fight. That may sound like whacky dating advice unless you know that the top reason both dating and married couples break up is a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution. This is very important, so let me reiterate this dating advice a different way: Learning how to fight and argue successully is the best way to a lasting and happy dating and/or married relationship.…
When to dump a dating relationship

Dating Advice: When to Dump a Dating Relationship

Most Christian singles dating advice experts suggest that the primary purpose of a dating relationship is to determine whether or not the relationship is a match that will lead toward marriage. The problem is that many singles stay in potentially harmful dating relationships they should have ended long ago.  When to Dump a  Dating Relationship Whether the single people involved include a senior dating couple, single parents or college students, the top three reasons daters give for overstaying a romantic…
christian single girls

What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

What do Christian single girls look for in a single Christian guy when contemplating a soulmate or marriage partner? This question always seems to percolate in any singles groups I have ever attended or led. We found some online surveys about Christian single girls (ages 18-70) you may find quite interesting. Single Girls and Men Okay guys, so you’re no babe magnet? Don’t worry about it because the good news here is that single Christian girls of all ages appear…
How to Survive Holiday Blues

How to Survive the Holiday Blues as a Single Person

Are you single person wondering  how to survive the holiday blues as we enter the 2019 Christmas season? Join the Holiday Blues club!  As  single women and men dreading yet another holiday season alone, you’re probably struggling or thinking about: Where you’re going to spend the holidays to avoid depression and  loneliness How unfair it is that another Christmas is coming, and you’re still single What you’re gonna tell or do to those  annoying relatives who ask you again why you’re…
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Body Language Flirting: How to Know When a Guy Likes a Girl

How do you know when a guy is flirting with you? Understanding body language flirting is essential for Christian singles. What exactly is body language flirting? It’s basically a collection of all the nonverbal clues a guy (whether he be a Christian or not) gives out when he’s interested in woman. Just to be clear, not all body language flirting is a conscious decision on the part of the single guy, but may in fact be a subconscious behavior. Therefore,…
anger and Singles

Why Christians Singles Date Less Due to Anger Issues

It seems like everyone is so angry nowadays. Everyone seems to have a beef. Democrats hate Republicans: Republicans hate Democrats. This anger we see in the culture even permeates into the dating world. Nowadays dating profiles from sites like Tinder to Christian Mingle, often have an edge of anger to them.  Lately, I’ve read more than a few profiles from Christian singles who state on their profiles: “If you are a Trump supporter please don’t contact me!” Really? Has it…
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First Date Do’s and Don’t’s

Need a brush up on First date do’s and don’t’s? Going on your first date with someone you met though one of the online dating services like eHarmony can be fun and exciting, but also a little scary. Let’s face it, the primary purpose of a first date is to assess whether there is enough chemistry to spend even more time together. There are a number of first date “do’s and don’t’s” questions to consider: What will we do on…

How to Find God’s Will for Your Life?

Looking to find God’s will for your life? I think most of us would admit that we are a little confused when it comes to finding God’s will for our lives, especially when it comes to finding  Mr. Right or Ms Right. The following podcast from Oasis-Church-NJ.com examines, the roadblocks that keep Christian singles from discovering God’s will in our lives as both single people and married people. Hope for the Future Christian Dating Podcasts Christian Dating Sites Home https://media.blubrry.com/oasischurch/p/christian-dating-service-plus.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Christian-Podcast-52719-6.44-PM.mp3Podcast:…

Christian Dating and Idol Worship: Making an Idol Out of Your Relationships

Christian dating and idol worship. I know what some of you are thinking: What in the world does my dating life have to do with idol worship?  Maybe nothing. But maybe everything. Idol Worship Definition An idol can be can be ANYTHING  in your life that you put before God. That includes your dating life with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s something that takes the glory that God alone deserves, including your time, attention, and money, and transfers it to…
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Free Online Dating Advice Podcast

Getting into a dating relationship is easier than ever since there are so many decent  free online dating advice sites out there, including, Christian dating advice sites like Oasis Singles.  However, keeping that dating relationship growing will be almost impossible without good conversation starter skills. Free Online Dating Advice On Listening Skills In fact, most couples, whether they are married or in a dating relationship, give lack of communication and listening as the major reason for breaking up. These relationships…

How to Deal with Bitterness as a Christian Single

Today we’re going to deal with bitterness as a Christian single. Many of us today are hiding a bitter spirit. Maybe some of us feel bitter because we are still single. If you came here today feeling bitter because you are still single, you’re in good company. People are bitter about many things. The good news is that whatever junk is in your hearts Jesus can change all that if you really want Him to. How to Deal With Bitterness…
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Dealing With Addictions as a Christian Single

It’s a shame but true. Many Christian singles, married and divorced people have addictions and strongholds in their lives that hold them in bondage. Although dealing with addiction is essential if we are to enjoy our relationship experiences and life to the fullest, many are in a pickle over how to exactly conquer drug and alcohol use and abuse addiction. Dealing with Addiction Podcast If you are in this situation, or you know of a Christian woman or man who…
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Dealing with Rejection as Singles

If you are a single Christian waiting on God for your soul mate, dealing with feelings of rejection can be very difficult! In a previous article we already mentioned how difficult it is getting over with unrequited love.  I was recently talking to a young man, who after months of searching for a potential Christian dating partner online using eHarmony and Christian Mingle to no avail, developed strong feelings for a young woman who had recently started going to his church.  They…
dealing with past relationships

Dealing with Past Relationships as Single Christians

Fact: How people deal with past relationships is a great predictor of future success in other relationships. Many Christian singles I know are in bondage to the past hurts through cheating, disappointments, secret sins and  relationship breakups of the past.  Under the weight The emotional  relationship baggage of the past, many singles gals and guys fail at their attempts to form positive dating relationships How To Deal With Past Relationships The great news about our following Christian podcast from Oasis-Church-NJ.com…

Free Christian Singles Advice on Dating

Did the title Free Christian Singles Advice grab your attention? you know there is a lot of free Christian singles dating advice on dating on the internet today, and most of it is totally unbiblical or just plain sucks.  To counter this problem, each week we search the web for the best free Christian singles podcasts advice out there for our thousands of listeners. Free Christian Singles Advice Podcast This week we have a free Christian singles podcast from Elevation…

NJ 2019 Easter Sunday Church Services

  Join Oasis church for Easter Sunday Church service on April 21 2019 at 10am and 12 Noon at our great new meeting place at  2 Denman Ave in Clark 2019 NJ Easter Family Friendly Church Services If you reside anywhere in the NY or NJ and are looking for contemporary, non-denominational Easter Church Services, come check out Oasis Church NJ, the creator of this singles blog. We serve the following nearby NJ towns with our  contemporary,non-denominational church  services,  experience: …
managing transitions

Managing Transition-Making the Most of Change as Christian Singles

Making the most of changes and managing transitions in our lives is often a difficult thing to do, but essential if one is to prosper in this life. How do you manage transitions in your life? Life’s transitions and changes can be a great opportunity, but also a threat. Managing Transitions as Singles If you are having a rough go managing transition and making the most of change, you are not alone. The fact is singles go through more life…
living alone

Living Alone and Lonely as a Single Christian

As a single person, have you discovered the key to living alone without being lonely? If loneliness is a daily struggle, know that many others are going thought he same thing. In fact, according to our ongoing singles survey, one of the worst things Christian singles find about single life are the lonely feelings that go with the territory. Dealing with Living Alone After scouring the web for a church podcast that addresses the subject of being lonely, we came…
signs of physical attraction

Signs of Physical Attraction

Do you know the signs of physical attraction? Experts tell us that there are certain signs of physical attraction that gives away a girl likes a guy, or  when a dude is attracted to girl. In fact, if you were to go and Google “signs of physical attraction”, you would find a whole boatload of relationship advice on how to tell when there is a spark. Signs of Physical Attraction Podcast This week’s church podcast on signs of physical attraction…
christian dating tips

Christian Dating Tips Podcast

Our Christian dating church pod-cast of the week takes us to Bloomington, Minnesota (MN). Here pastor Chris Reinertson, of the River Church at Mall of America, speaks about the journey of Christian dating. If you are a Christian single presenting in a Christian dating relationship, or simply interested in dating, this message covers it all. If your church, Christian singles group or college ministry has a singles related message they would like pod-casted to thousands of singles for free, please…
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Single Chat-Hope for Singles

Single Chat? No, by using the term “single chat” we are not talking about the many single chat rooms out there on the internet. What we are referring to is single chat message for single Christians regarding the trials and tribulations of single life. It’s not easy living alone as a godly Christian single in today’s world. Many of us feel pressure on all sides. Others have written us telling of their heartbreak, guilt and discouragement. Well, the following “single…
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Information on Single Parenting Hood

Need information on single parenting hood?  Many single parents are seeking information on how to balance their Christian dating lives with raising their kids properly.   There is a lot of information on single parenting hood  on the web. However, not all that info is good for Christian single parents. Information on Single Parenting  Hood Tips Raising kids in a single parenting hood environment is very difficult. However, if you are even thinking of dating as a single parent we…
christian dating advice for men

Christian Dating Advice for Men Seeking Marriage

This podcast is all about Christian dating advice for men seeking seeking to get hitched.  A whole lot of Christian men and woman for that matter  seek Christian dating advice on spiritual relationships soul mates, and what makes for good marriage material.  Many people feel the best determining factor in determining a successful marriage (or dating relationship for that matter) is how close the couple is spiritually.  Studies show that those couples who experience close spiritual relationships  with each other…
christian dating tips for men and women

Christian Dating Tips for Men and Women

Are you looking for Christian dating tips for men or women? I have to say the following Christian dating podcast for guys and girls is probably the best and practical  we have put on air. Pastor Marc Driscoll  gives out dating tips for men and women in terms that are both funny and informative Christian Dating Tips for Men and Women Huh? Yeah, I thought so too, but here is what happens: During his message on Christian dating people were…

Christian Debt Consolidation for Singles

As we mentioned previously singles stress out over money, so that is why we are talking about Christian consolidation debt today. I meet a ton of Christian singles who would like to learn about Christian debt consolidation and ways of avoiding debt, but simply do not know where to begin, Christian Debt Consolidation Podcast In answer to  to all the debt problems singles suffer money worries, our Christian podcast for the week deals with this issue. Christian Podcasts Christian Dating…
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Best Sex Tips for Christian Singles

Sex tips and tricks for Christians? Well, okay, maybe the words in the title “Sex Tips and Tricks” is a little bit over the top, but but I happen to know Christian singles are desperately looking for some straight talk on how they can balance the fact that God created them to be both sexual and holy beings. Best Sex Tips  Christian Podcast Without a doubt our Christian podcast of the week from Pastor Tim of Liquid Church is the…
relationship compatibility

Relationship Compatibility Test for Christian Singles

Lately I’ve been reading about the relationship compatibility test.  Just Google “relationship compatibility test” and you will get hundreds of sites where you can take a test. While most of these relationship compatibility love tests are bogus, there a few interests ones out there that test dating couple on the physical, emotional and spiritual levels Relationship Compatibility Test Podcast Many Christian singles write to us wondering what makes for a good Christian dating relationship. The answer in a word is:…
fear of intimacy in relationships

Fear of Intimacy in Relationships

Many Christians and non-Christian, single or married,  suffer from what we call fear of intimacy in relationships.  Wearing a mask is not God’s idea of being transparent and vulnerable. Fear of Intimacy in Relationships for Christians Unfortunately, many of us walk around not “being” the person God has called us to be because we fear other people getting close enough to see the real us. When we do this, we not only cheat ourselves out the fulfilling relationships Jesus wants to…
singles and stress

How Singles Deal With Stress

How to deal with stress while being single is a much talked about topic among singles whether they Christian or pagan. Stress is in fact one of the biggest “joy robbers” of singles. In fact, we recently wrote an article on what single Chrsitians stress out about most. Dealing With Stress Podcast Well, todays’ Christian podcast about how to deal with stress comes from Liquid church, and if you’re singles and dealing with stress in your life poorly, this will…
single parents and prodigals

Single Parents and Prodigals

We already mentioned how difficult it is to be a Christian single parent. Being a single parent of a prodigal son or daughter is even more difficult. Our following single parenting podcast takes a biblical look on how parents should deal wit their prodigal kids. Single Christian Parenting Category Other Singles Podcast: Christian Singles  Relationship Advice Christian Podcasts Christian Dating Service https://media.blubrry.com/oasischurch/p/christian-dating-service-plus.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Prodigal-Son-Luke-15-David-Butler-Oasis-Church.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe Android | Google Podcasts | RSS
Unique Valentines Gifts

Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts for Singles

Well it’s time again to think about Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts for those special Christian singles in your life. If you need some help thinking about some unique Valentine’s day gifts for your sweetheart, the following list will give you some ideas. The unique Valentine’s day gifts with an asterisk next to it would be appropriate for those singles who maintain an online or long distance dating relationship: Top 5 Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts Unique Valentine’s Day Gift #1- Online…
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Love, Sex and the Bible: Christian Dating Podcast

Love, Sex and the Bible. These are topics nearly all Christian singles find most interesting. Well, we have good news, This week Dave Butler, the  founder and pastor of Oasis Singles, brings us  our Christian dating podcast featuring the message, “Love, Sex and the Bible”. Today we will be in the Song of Songs, which has a whole lot to say about courtship, love and sex.  While some scholars feel this scripture (it was really a song) is allegorical, most…
Compatibility Love Test

Compatibility Love Test-How Compatible Are You With Your Date?

Many romance sites have a compatibility love test on them. For those of you who don’t know what a compatibillity love test is, it’s a set of quiz questions that’s suppose to determine if your love interest is compatible with you. Quite frankly, most of these compatibility love tests are bogus, and should only be taken tongue in cheek. That being said, compatibility does play a huge role in how successful any dating relationship will be. While the old saying…
I feel lonely

I Feel Lonely Podcast for Singles

Do you ever get the “I feel lonely’ blues? Although surrounded by people I still feel lonely at certain times. The fact is there are many lonely hearts out in the world: Lonely single moms, lonely men, lonely teens. As singles loneliness and feeling lonely are all part of the territory. Worse yet, as we approach Christmas, dealing with the holiday blues as singles often means fighting that “I feel lonely” and empty feeling. How to Deal with Loneliness the…
how to mend a broken heart

Broken Hearted: How to Mend a Broken Heart

How to mend a broken heart for singles who are broken hearted? Almost everyone has had their own “broken heart confession” of a lost relationship. A broken heart is a broken heart, whether that relationship was in a dating context or a marriage. All I can say is it’s one of the most painful things I’ve ever suffered. While mending a broken heart takes different amounts of time for each person, the following points on how to mend a broken…
purposeful living

Purposeful Living-Finding Your Purpose as a Single Christian

Looking for Purposeful living? Whether single or married, most all people desire to find purpose, to discover where they “fit in” to this thing we call life. It’s so sad that there are so many people out there who are not living with purpose, and have no reason to get up each morning. Would you fall into this category? Purposeful Living  and Finding Your Shape The great news today is that God created each of us for a mission in…
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Codependency Relationships and Christian Singles

Are you in a codependent  dating relationship? Whether you are a Christian single or not,  codependent relationships can happen to anyone. What qualifies for a codependent relationship?  If you are in a codependent relationship you will feel like  that famous 60’s song line: ” Can’t live, if living is without you…” In addition to those feelings, another sign of a codependent relationship in dating is that the one or both daters will be seeking constant approval from the other, and…
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Christian Dating Without Losing Your Brain

Don’t you just love that title? I do. Christian dating without losing your brain. Now there’s a novel thought. How many Christian dating singles have acted irrationally in pursuit of their perfect date? From Christian single girls who date bad guys, to dating mistakes by both guys and girls, it seems many need a little help in this area. And it’s especially the case with internet dating. Well. here’s some good news: in our Christian dating podcast of the month,…
debt advice

Debt Advice for Christian Singles Worried About Finances

After looking for a mate, getting some good financial  debt advice is next on the “to do” list for many Christian singles. For example, we get lots of folks looking for debt advice geared Christian single parents, or college aged singles looking to eliminate debt with their financial school loans. That’s right,, Christian singles worry more about getting some great financial debt advice than getting dating or relationship  advice. Can we be real here? Financial debt is a big turnoff to…