Posts from September 2024

Ever wonder how to take care of your mental health as a Christian single guy or gal? I’m not about to give you a 10-step routine to add to your ever-growing to-do list (you already have “be a functioning human” on there), but what I do want to chat about is mental health. Yeah, I said it—mental health. The thing we all know is crucial but sometimes feel too busy, too awkward, or too tired to take care of. So,…

Ah, the classic conundrum: meeting Mr. or Ms. Right at what seems like the wrong time. We’ve all heard it: “I met the right person, but it was the wrong time.” Or, if you’re a Christian single, it may sound more like, “God sent this amazing person, but I’m just not in the right season to receive it!” Cue the dramatic sigh, longing looks at the sky, and perhaps a prayer asking, “Why, Lord, why?!” But let’s take a moment…

As a Christian single, it can feel like you’re constantly navigating a sea of advice and pressure about finding “the one.” Friends, family, and even pop culture might tell you to hurry up, settle down, or lower your standards because “nobody’s perfect.” But here’s the truth: You should never settle for less than what God has planned for you, especially when it comes to something as sacred as a life partner. Waiting for “the one” can be a challenging, emotional,…

Have you ever thought about whether or not you have the “gift of singleness?”  You’ve been praying, fasting, and maybe even sent up one of those emergency “God, if this is really your plan, please send a very clear sign because I’m not seeing it” kind of prayers. Yet, here you stand in the land of singleness, and you’re wondering: Could I actually have the gift of singleness? Let’s take a deep breath, laugh a little, and explore some reasons…

Why is searching for available singles so difficult?  As a Christian single, let me tell you, the search for that special soulmate can feel like a scavenger hunt where the map is upside down, the compass points nowhere, and everyone else is sprinting ahead with a partner in hand. It’s funny how in a world teeming with people, finding the right person feels more complicated than solving a Rubik’s cube while blindfolded. Why does it seem so hard to find…

As a Christian single, you’ve probably found yourself at a crossroads more than once. Maybe you’re facing a significant decision about your career, moving to a new city, or discerning if someone you’re dating is the right person for you. Whatever the situation, one thing is for sure: It can be confusing and overwhelming to figure out what God’s will is in these moments. Should you settle for less? But don’t worry—you’re not alone in this! Even though it might…

When you’re dating someone who has been sexually abused, the relationship requires deep levels of compassion, understanding, and patience. As Christians, we are called to love one another deeply (1 Peter 4:8), and that love extends to helping our partner heal from past wounds, especially those as profound as sexual abuse. This journey can be challenging, but it is also one of profound grace, and your relationship can grow stronger through Christ. Let’s talk about the biblical approach to dating…

Ah, societal pressure—the invisible weight that somehow finds its way into our holiday dinners, church pews, and even Facebook comments. If you’re a Christian single, you probably know the drill. “So, when are you going to settle down?” comes right after “Pass the mashed potatoes.” Society seems to have this unspoken checklist: graduate, get a job, get married, have kids—and do it all before 30! But what if God has other plans, or maybe you’re just not rushing? Here’s a…

Looking for Christian dating advice for college single college students?  Let’s be real—college dating is a wild ride. Between classes, late-night study sessions, and figuring out what to eat that’s not ramen, adding dating into the mix can feel like juggling fire. Now, throw in your desire to honor God while dating, and suddenly it feels like you’re navigating a maze in the dark! But hey, don’t panic—I’m here to help. As a pastor on the campus of Rutgers University…

I get this question asked a lot: Why Do I Keep Getting Attracted to Unavailable Guys? As a Christian single girl, navigating the complexities of dating can be a perplexing journey, particularly when you find yourself repeatedly drawn to unavailable guys. This pattern can be emotionally draining and spiritually challenging. Understanding the underlying reasons for this tendency can shed light on healthier relationship paths aligned with Christian values. This article explores why some Christian single women might repeatedly find themselves…

As a Christian single, struggling with habitual sexual sin can be a heavy burden. The guilt, shame, and frustration can feel overwhelming, especially when you love God and want to live according to His Word. You might wonder if He’s even willing to forgive you after falling so many times. Here’s the truth: God is always ready to forgive, no matter how many times we fall. His grace is deeper than our failures, and His love is unconditional. But asking…

Life as a single Christian can feel like walking a tightrope at times. There’s an unspoken pressure, especially from ourselves, to live up to certain standards. Whether it’s about relationships, purity, or just being the “perfect” believer, we often set the bar impossibly high and end up being our harshest critic. And when we fall short of these expectations, self-forgiveness can feel like a mountain we don’t know how to climb. So, how can we forgive ourselves, especially when we…