BBW Dating for Christian Singles

You’re right, there arent any BBW Christian sites…so how about someone starting one? Being a BBW myself, I find it tiring to sort through all the guys who want “Average, slim slender athletic” and not wanting to be rejected by men who do not see the beauty in BBW’s. If I knew how to start a site for us, I would. AND it would be FREE!

I totally agree. It’s so hard to find a nice guy on the dating sites who aren’t into one night stands and/or living together arrangements. We really do NEED a Christian site for BBW’s. There must be a way to do one free. Plenty of Fish is a free site, but non-christian. If they can do it, why can’t we. We need to get our heads together and do a little research here gals.

Ok am I the only one? If you go to the Christian Sites they are all slim and average. If you go to the BBW sites they all say they are Christian, but are asking you if you wanna hook up. Come one. Christian means you love Christ. Not something cute you put on a profile because you don’t want to put none. AHHH. I am s looking forward to a Christian BBW site.
What is involved in being a moderator?

I await the day when Christian websites are filled with people who are willing to have a relationship as our Lord instructs. I am a BBW and when I fill out my information I state up front no sex unless I get married. Guess how may replies I receive? …. and that is ok, because My new Husband will know how to treat me with respect and will honor the Lord with me in our relationship. Dating website or not, I CAN’T WAIT to see who the Lord selects for me!!!Blessings to all. I kow Valentines Day can be a hard day for singles, but focus on the agape love of Christ..it is the perfect love.

I agree with all of the ladies on here. On any BBW site I’ve tried, I get responses for one night stands. On the Christian sites I try, I’m sad to say that I haven’t received any responses since I am not Hollywood’s version of beautiful. I know there are Christian men out there who look beyond the what society says and sees the true beauty in all of us, but the hard part is just finding them! I would love to join a Christian site that works for us too, if anyone knows of any!

My prayers as a BBW are often that God will send me my perfect life partner, the mate he wants me to be with. I get very discouraged at times as many of us do when we assert ourselves and try to meet a Christian men who will love us for who we are, just like Jesus Christ does. It’s very hard and hurtful at times. Yes, please someone create, screen the participants and monitor a site for BBW dating people who are sincere in wanting to meet decent, honest,true Christian individuals. Amen to that!

Oh my! Was I glad to find this post. I have tried several dating sites and those that focus on BBW don’t hold the values of Christianity. And I have found that it is rare to find men that are interested in BBW on other sites that consider your spirituality.

I would love to have a comfort spot for professional BBW to find Christian men for their lives. I get tired of all the other crap that you have to go through to find someone who likes BBW and have an intellectual and soulful head on their shoulders. If you know how to start one please do!!!!

In regard to BBW dating, I don’t think there is anything more that I can say that wouldn’t echo all the comments already made. I have tried the BBW sites and got nothing but sexual advances;I’ve tried Yahoo and Eharmony and get no where when they see my size. But I know that I am beautiful, inside and out, because that is how God made all of us. Why is it so difficult to find that one person who will look passed the size and into the soul?? And the rejection from those who can’t just make it harder to be patient….

Hi, I would be very interested in a Christian BBW dsting site. I like many other gals are tired of the endless propositions. I just want to find someone that is ‘real’. Alot of the BBW sites have the same guys on there with several different profiles and looking to scam you. Please let me know when this site is ready, I’ll be one of the first to join.

Hi all, I’m a 40 something BBW. I’ve been a Christian all my life yet I’ve never been on a date w/a Christian man because none have ever asked me! I had 5 marriage proposals but never married because none of them were Christian. Aren’t there any Christian men who like BBW’s? WE definately need a dating site for Christian BBW’s. Men are always saying they want women who are faithful,loving and sweet yet so many overlook BBW’s. There are so many big beautiful Christian women … and we’re beautiful inside & out!

I am a 45 yr old, overweight Christian woman with herpes. I am not very optimistic.

I started a Christian BBW/BHM Club online, and nobody wanted to join it because it was Christian.. See I had it where we could Praise the LORD together, and uplift and encourage one another, and people say one thing but do another.. I just closed the site yesterday, because nobody is serious about they’re walk with the LORD or finding a mate in the LORD..

It is funny, the GAYS are running to the altar, but the Christian’s are not… Hmmmmmmmm…

Respectfully in Christ Jesus,Tracey

I just finished my only experience with a BBW website and it was really awful. I truly believe that most men on these BBW websites are there for fantasy/perversion type relationships. I very clearly said in my profile that I am a born-again Christian, on staff at a church and that I expect whomever contacts me to love Jesus more than anything. I can’t BEGIN to tell you the responses I got and will not repeat what some of them said to me. I was excited to meet a man who said he is a Christian and was happy to find a Christian woman on the site. We started talking and two days into our conversations, we talked about premarital sex. His comment was, “Well, I have my own opinions about that… don’t go throwing verses at me.” As Charlie Brown says, “ARRGGHH!!” But I dated a man for several months from a CHRISTIAN website who believed that everything short of intercourse was OKAY. Where are the TRUE GODLY SINGLE MEN? It’s discouraging to say the least. I’m just going to let JESUS be everything to me and if HE blesses me with someone – that’s great but if He doesn’t, I’ll be like Paul and BE CONTENT! Blessings to all! Cindy

I am a Christian, a person of color, and a BBW. I have had inconsequential experiences with several BBW sites. Not all the men were looking for one-night stands, but it seemed that most of them view BBW’s, especially black BBW’s, as a fetish or fantasy to pursue. And of course, most of these men claimed to be “christians”. It’s rather discouraging….but anyway, I would love to join a site where REAL Christian BBW’s were able to interact with REAL Christian men who have a genuine interest in Christian BBW’s.

And whoever said something about the men not reading profiles is 100% correct ! The men who fail to read your profile have NO genuine interest in you as a woman. I am a part of a couple of BBW sites at the moment, and a good screening tool I use is to totally IGNORE messages from men who have not read my profile. From the criteria that I meantioned on my profile in terms of what I am looking for in a mate, I can tell by the guy’s message to me whether or not he read my profile and also whether or not he has a genuine interest in me. For example, A guy sending a “You’re HOT” message is not trying to really get to know me.

Someone else mentioned being able to set your profile so that you only hear from guys that meet your criteria….well ladies, I have found that to be a pipe dream lol. I have NO interest in dating men with offspring, and I have that on my profile, yet it’s like I attract men of all races who typically have at least one child. So, I say just push on and keep at it. When God wants me to meet my husband, he will certainly let me know.

I am looking for a BBW Christian woman who is ready for a serios relationship.I was married to the wrong woman she was into drugs but i got divorced 5yrs ago .I have not really got time to find someone but i heard about this place and i thought of coming here and drop a comment .I have a very good heart .I am looking for a woman i can love for the rest of my love .
mr_allibu@yahoo.com send me email we can talk and know each other better .

It is so comforting to find I am not in this boat alone!! I have been on several paid and free websites both regular and BBW and begin to feel like a loser because so often it seems like nobody takes time to get to know the person inside and gets humg up on the packaging. And I can top all the one night stand offers…I got asked to be a guy’s mistress thru Plentyoffish….a Christian BBW site would be awesome!!!

This is to Marcy, It is good you acknowldedge your pain for that is the begining of your healing. Your problem is neither men nor your size but your self etseem is too low. the comment ‘my body got ruined and deformed from when I had children… to the wrong person when was very young..’ means you hate your self and possibly resent your children for ruining your body. Men usually love women that love themselves but a man cannot give you inner satisfction like the one the lord can give to you. Besides most men alreaday have messed up lives,(like addiction to pornography) expecting them to make you happy is asking too much from them because it is only God that can make you happy.
so what sh’d you do?
Pray and ask God to change your attitude towards yourself. I have met happily married large women with the sweetest hearts you can ever imagine. And their husbands love them anyway, bcause they love themselves too. You don’t need to apologize to any body for your size Take care of your self for health reasons.
May God bless you.
Huggies
Stella

You know, this is something I would join myself.

Let me start by saying that I am a guy, I love all women including BBWs and I love god. I’ve read all the posts here and I feel really bad for you women who have had bad luck with trying to find the right man.

Someone said on here that they have a hard time finding the right man who loves both BBWs and God. I understand what you mean, I’m 20, yes I am still young, and I still haven’t found a good women who is genuine myself, so don’t feel too bad, it happens on both ends of the spectrum. I have met women too who are only interested in one night stands, it’s quite depressing.

It would be great if a genuine site existed where people who are truly looking for love can find it instead of finding lust.

Thank God for a forum to write about this topic. I am a lovely, strong and caring child and adult of God. I am also a BBW. Looking at the physical body and making judgements is typical of all of us human beings! We judge each other and ourselves constantly.

Recently had a date with a man who had not seen my picture….that’s always a “bad thing”. This gentleman, and I use the term loosely, and I had written to each other for several weeks and shared many interests. Yes, folks, it’s the same old thing, the emails can fly forever at warp speed, but it’s the in person face to face that counts. Men and women are highly invested in having that society’s blessed “attractive person on their arm”. I believe that I am a good person, working on getting healthier and better as God’s child and adult. I believe that my hygiene and sense of style is nicely reflected in my appearance.

Further, I believe that because I carry xx amount of extra pounds, that (as the previous writer stated) I relegate MYSELF to a quiet life without male companionship. The quiet life is good, I would enjoy the company however!

This is something that I keep turning over to God, and taking back! Many of my women friends in my age group are no longer interested in dating, relationship or marriage. I am not in their boat yet!

At 62 with an active body and brain, I pray for God to show me what to do with my interests in the relationship area. I don’t want to fade out in this department like a dimming light bulb!
I have made a contract with God that I will be involved with Christian men and no sex till marriage. I’m old fashioned at this point in my life. I just think it’s the way to go!

My actions re this include lots of prayer, meditation, and doing things like a Christian woman would do. Am working on a healthy exercise and food plan as well as my spiritual life. Volunteer work, teaching, church, helping others, 12 step meetings. Maybe God is giving me lots of time to think and learn. Have been single since 1998, and that’s okay today. I don’t need a man, just would enjoy one. After all they are “just desserts” in more ways than one.

Folks, just remember, that older people have most if not all the same thoughts and feelings as younger people. We are not dead yet!

Would really appreciate others’ thoughts about this. Thanks for listening.

My finance and I met on a plus sized dating site. We are both Christians. We are working out the details to begin our site as I write this.

www,bbpeople.com a great site for Christian plus sized women looking for Christian men. There is an area for search with Denomination etc. I have been there and although I have not found someone yet, I have met many nice men.

I’m a super queen size woman looking for a man who will accept me for me, and see all the beautiful things inside me. I’m honest,God loving,and only want someone who really wants me and will stay with me till death do us part. Today it’s so scary to find a person who’s geniuly God loving and treats others the way God intended us to be. Someone who believes in marriage before sex.I’m a BBW and I would love to see a “BBW Christian Dating Service,” if it’s free, and hopefully local.

for crying out loud, there are enough responses here to start a dating site! holler for our nerd friends!… I like nerds :)) just saw a so called christian bbw site and it is affiliated with one iof the most lasivious bbw sites ive been on, and echos the morality, encouraging hook-ups etc, calling admirerers chubby chasers… bleecch!! who is out there to stop dragging a@#e! let me know when you do! Cheers! and blessings beautiful people!

OK So who’s going to start a site. Some one out there must have the capability. i’tss pretty appalling when I go on some sites and the idea is a bbw is someone who is desperate, kinky, will take anything, wants sex and we all know that’s not trure. Sex is for my husband who the Lord provides for me after I am married. So anyway who’s up for starting a site? and by the way Ladies we have to be the ones to uphold our image. don’t give up and fall victim to being easy, kinky, promiscuous, etc. I was married for 11 years and am divorced and was a BBW then and am a BBW now, so it’s possible to find a true relationship.

I posted a comment here…5 YEARS ago. I’m a 37-year-old virgin now. Excuse me while I channel my righteous anger into something constructive–which is God’s purpose for that emotion.

If so many want this fat Christian dating site so badly, why does it not exist? Why does no one want to be a moderator? Well, do YOU want to start a project that’s going to take up all of your free time, yet pay nothing? If you said yes, you’re a communist, and YOU can LEAVE. Now.

Okay, everyone with common sense: while this is still America, let’s admit that ANYTHING OF VALUE IS WORTH WORKING FOR! When you sacrifice for something you value, its value INCREASES! Getting something for free actually decreases its perceived value.

If we EVER want this dating site to happen, we have to let potential website creators and moderators know that we are willing to compensate them for their time, energy, and whatever skills and talents are necessary to make the website as GOOD as it can POSSIBLY BE! I don’t want to wait one more YEAR for a crappy free site. If it’s a GOOD site, run by talented, motivated, HONEST people, I’ll pay for it, because I VALUE IT!

The job market is terrible, and it’s only going to get worse. There is SOMEONE OUT THERE with the skills who can’t find work, or who only has a part-time job but needs more income. That person has something WE want, and WE have something THEY want. Let’s find each other (somehow) and do what God intended for us to do in this situation. Let’s create jobs!

Yes I do think that BBW is becoming a phrase describing large women, large butt, large chest, hungry for gross sex, pornography, drunkenness, orgy etc… There’s so much material out there now 100s of BBW naked women magazines and probably millions of BBW sex websites and no strings clubs all over the world. A sad state of affairs for such nice women .