I meet so many Christian singles who have a distorted view of marriage and singleness. Somehow many singles have gotten it into their heads that marriage is THE biggest goal to achieve, while singleness is looked on as less desireable.
Unfortunately, a lot of Christians’ thinking about singleness and marriage is reinforced by our church culture. For example, while the greatest missionary in history, the Apostle Paul, was single, many modern day mission boards and churches exclude ministerial candidates unless they are married. Singlehood definitely takes a back seat to married life in the churches.
Of course, this line of thinking is completely assinine and unbiblical, especially in light of our Bible verses of the day found in 1 Coriinthians 7: 32-34:
“I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God.”
How Single Christians Distort Singleness and Marriage
Having a distorted view of singleness and marriage can cause you to lose your joy in the Lord, as well as your contentedness with life in general. What exactly is a distorted view of singleness and marriage? Honestly ask yourself the following questions to see where you stand:
- Do you feel you are incomplete or abnormal as long as you remain single?
- Do you feel that marriage, meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right, will solve all your problems in your life?
- Have you been so self-absorbed with seeking a soulmate for marriage that you have neglected friends, family and fellowship with other believers?
- In your singleness, are you pursuing marriage more than God? (Ouch!)
If you answered any of these questions in the positive, you have an unhealthy view of singleness and marriage.
As singles seeking the Lord over this issue, covenenant with Him in prayer to begin seeing your singleness and marriage as He does. The important thing to remember is that our Heavenly Father did not sanction marriage as the only way to live, or singleness as second best lifestyle.
Are you a Christian singles with a different view of singleness and marriage?