Thinking about dating a friend? A Christian single guy wrote us asking if it’s a good idea if best friends date one another. So what do you think? Should friends date each other? I know the cynical among us may agree with that line from When Harry Met Sally, “that a man and a woman can’t really be just friends.” But that’s the topic of another article. Let’s get back to the issue of whether or not friends should date.
Dating a Friend-No Easy Answers
One of the driving forces behind friendship dating is the saying that “the best of friends make the best of lovers.” Yes, there are no easy answers here. But if you are planning to take the plunge and date a friend, you should at least be cognizant of the following:
- Dating a friend changes the complexion of that friendship forever. If it doesn’t work out, there will be awkwardness even if you attempt to remain friends. If things do work out, your platonic friendship (which does have unique benefits) has moved to a different level. Sooo…., you need to contemplate whether you’re willing to risk that great present friendship for uncharted waters that may lead to disaster.
- Remember, while you may actually love that girl or guy, there is always the possibility of unrequited love. 🙁 When your friend has different expectations than you do, dating that friend is probably a bad idea from the get go.
Overall, please don’t get the idea that we are dissing dating a friend. We are not. Dating a friend, if things go well, can be one of the most exciting and thrilling things happen in a relationship. While some friends who date are ideal soul mates for each other, most of these relationships do not last. Just be willing to count the cost.
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Bible Verse of Day
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.