Do you have dating anxiety, or social anxiety disorder (SAD) when it comes to your Christian dating life? As Christian singles, there is enough stress in life besides the added addition of dating anxiety. For those fortunate ones who don’t suffer from this ailment, dating anxiety includes developing a social anxiety disorder when you think about going on a date or even thinking about love itself.
Here are some good tips to help conquer dating anxiety:
It isn’t a good thing to keep all of your nervousness bottled up inside. Many people try to hold in their dating anxiety whenever they are around their date. However, keeping all that nervous energy inside will only make the situation worse. When you feel anxious around your date, don’t pretend that you are perfectly fine. Instead, tell your date how you feel. Say ” I apologize if i appear to be nervous, but I am very nervous right now.” Your date will understand and they will appreciate your honesty. You will also feel relieved after you let them know how you are feeling.
If you ever have a dating anxiety episode during a date, don’t let that make you more anxious about the next date. Also don’t put yourself down because of how you may have acted. Instead, you should relax and give yourself positive affirmations that build your confidence. If you have acted in a certain way on a previous date, remember not to do that on the next date and instead think of a positive way to act. Take control of your thoughts and actions and you will do much better next time.
If you happen to have dating anxiety attack during a date, then what you need to do is take a minute alone to relax and regain your thoughts. Excuse yourself from what ever you are doing and take some time to walk around, breath, and relax. Once you regain your confidence and thoughts go back with your date and apologizes for your absence.
Above all else, Pray. Ask God to give you courage, strength, and peace. Trust in God and he won’t let you down. He can and will help you overcome your dating anxiety. Don’t be embarrassed by this problem because everyone at one time or another suffers from some form of anxiety.
Bible Verse of Day
~Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God~ Phil 4:6
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3 Comments
Tim W
I have social anxiety and it has kept me from dating and forming relationships.
Some people have told me that God gave me social anxiety disorder because he wants me to never marry and be single for life.
I’m not sure what to make of that idea. I think it sort of flies in the face of the Christian concept of overcoming life’s obstacles.
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Dating anxiety is very common specially with the first timers. It happens specifically with a blind date. Also when you are not confident about your looks.
Best way to relax yourself is to think that you are the best. Some natural anxiety remedies to look into are St.John’s Wort, SAMe, L-Theanine, and Tryptophan. There’s also cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and programs like Panic Away and The Linden Method, to name a few. Hope this helps!
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I think that God puts in each and every one of us desires that we want. I, for one, have a desire to be in a relationship. I don’t think that God would give you a disorder so that you will live the rest of your life single. I’m sure he would use other means if that was the case. I’m 21, with social anxiety disorder, and I’ve never had a boyfriend. But I haven’t lost hope. Everything will happen according to God’s plan. And God’s plan for his children is always GOOD. I for one know very well how hard it is to be single in the world that we live in with people telling us what we should and shouldn’t do. And being condemned for being different. But being different is not always a bad thing. If you think about it, the world encourages us to do mostly things that are bad for us. I don’t want to be what the world wants me to be, I want to be what God wants me to be. And that means being content in whatever situation I’m in, trusting that God will work it out.
Stay encouraged all my fellow single brothers and sisters! God has a plan for us, He has not forgotten.
Great article by the way. Very uplifting!