Masturbation and Christian Singles | Christians Who Masturbate

The bad thing about masturbation is that an orgasm was meant to be shared in marriage as a culmination of two people coming together(no pun intended)and masturbation actually twists that by isolating a person sexually. And as far as masturbating without thinking lustful thoughts–good luck!

ugh, I just wish I could have all of my hormones AND sexual organs removed. then I would just go to work and church, spend my money on bare necessities and give every cent that’s left to the church, then die and go to heaven.

I love to masturbate! I do it almost everyday. The problem is, it is almost like an addiction. I wonder if I should stop. Also, I wonder if it makes one gay. I would very much appreciate any insight as to whether masturbation is bad, and if it can cause you to be gay.

IMO, what makes a sin a sin? how about masturbation?
What’s the difference between habitually and once in a blue moon masturbation?

I believe the root cause of masturbation is due to the lack of faith as well as allowing the mind to idle and thus become perverse in thoughts then leads to masturbation.

Even for my unbelieving friends, they confessed that when they are busy with purposes to fulfill, job objectives to meet, they will not think the least of masturbation or anything about sex.

The fact that naturally we have all these hormones doesn’t negate masturbation from becoming not a sin. *aren’t we born naturally in sin? read Psalm 51 “in sin did my mother conceive me”

Although in the bible, there isn’t any explicit Thus saith the LORD with regards to the issue of masturbation. consider the case of if this act being revealed publicly, will it bring shame to Jesus Christ or will it glorify him? more of the shame than glory. Which is why i cannot accept the fact that it isn’t any less than a sin.

masturbation in my opinion is a very tricky issue because there is a thin line between right and wrong and so you need the holy spirit to minister unto you so you know when your right and when your wrong .i believe that if you feel the urge to masturbate do so if you know you are going to fall into further sin .Do not look at porn and then go and masturbate that simply means you are submitting to porn and God says we are over comers we are not honouring God with our eyes . GOOD LUCK GUYS I NEEDED HELP ALSO

so how exactly could one go about even getting errect without a lustfull thought???

wow in regard to masturbation, this is what i call being real guys. there is no greater way to dealing with an issue than talking about it and admitting its an issue.
truelly for most christians the “M” word is taboo. but i know we all have problems with it that why God’s grace is sufficient enough to save us all . And His love abounds forever.

Christ faced all the possible temptations any man could have faced and He overcame. to show us all that it is possible. and i know if any of us want to give up this act becuase it cost us. then we can do it. the holy spirit is our freind and present help. and all of us will have a testimony to share that will change peoples perceptions and views on this Topic.
WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS……

Hi

I am 29 going on 30, female,single and sexually frustrated to the point where i am going to pull my hair out. I can barely handle it. Usually It would happen now and again, but I have suffered this month..terribly. I dont know how to ‘live’ with this. i wish I felt nothing instead of this torture.

Wow, there are so many people who struggle with masturbation – and yes, because of how I feel and what masturbation does to me emotionally and spiritually I think it is indeed a sin. There are plenty of other sins that are not faced head on in the bible, and so my thinking is it’s an obvious sin and its also not too big an issue for God to handle.

I want to relate to LP’s post above, same here, honey. I’m 26 and single and am waiting desperately for my husband! I’ve masturbated since being a very young child without really knowing what I was doing. My mum caught me masturbating a few times, and that was when I learnt it was ‘wrong’. I found it very hard to be ‘good’ with my boyfriends because of it, and found that in spite of their good intentions I would drive them crazy, even though I didn’t really understand what I was doing. I had sex with my last boyfriend. It was so easy because I felt just the same way when I masturbated and there’s always that feeling of ‘it’s so wrong, but it feels so good’.

I finished with him because I couldn’t live with myself. I realised I need God more than I need sex, and I can’t live even one day if God isn’t in my heart. But somehow, masturbating is still an issue with me. Sometimes I can go for weeks at a time not even thinking about it, but then other times it keeps me awake at night. I try to resist and hold onto God, but if I resist one night, it comes back again and again stronger and stronger every time until I give in. That is what tells me, personally, it is a sin. It is an evil that seems like will never let me go. I have to have faith and trust in the almighty power of the living God that his arm is around me – the same arm that flung stars into space holds me unconditionally close and tight. He is faithful, and we all are in His hand, He knows us everyone, how we struggle and fight this. We have to set our faces like flint and press into the truth that He saves us to the uttermost.

LP in regard to masturbation, if you confess your sin, He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you of all unrighteousness. Don’t condemn yourself for something God doesn’t even know about anymore! You probably need to have a talk with your boyfriends, how far you think is alright during dating before things get that heated again. Work on the spiritual compatibility,first; then the mental/emotional compatibility. Wait on the marriage vows to explore sexual compatibility.
If you read what “same old same old” wrote and what I wrote to Claire, I would suggest the same thing. The more you know about your sexual feelings before marriage, the more you’ll be able to share with your spouse. The more uninhibited and enjoyable will be your experiences together.

saludos a todos con relacion a todo esto que hablaron es muy cierto en mi caso yo me masturbo pero no con mucha frecuencia. y cuando me masturbo es para sastifacer ese deseo enorme que llevo dentro mi no pienso en mujer no pienso en nada solo en masturbarme

no se si estoy pegando contra Dios pero yo creo que en uno no pensando en mujeres o viceversa uno se puede masturbar porque habemos persona que usamos este medio para sastifacer la necesidad pero hay otro que lo usan para corromperse y caer en el pecado.

In regard to masturbation: There are so many unanswered questions and from the begining The evil one has twisted the truth starting with Eve who was not present at the time when God instructed Adam to his responsibilities to the rest of the creation. To make this simple it is like this: The evil one told Eve a twisted truth; You will be like God; “Knowing the difference from right and wrong”. The wrong: Masturbation; The right: Confess our sins; James 4:17. The wrong thing to do is to deny our sin, the right thing to do is to confess our sin. Knowing that confessing our sins brings forgiveness is knowing to do good.

I am a 22 years old male. I have not a girl friend. But I wish I had my first and last, i,e a wife. I am tempted by masturbation most of the time. Sometimes my sexual zeal and passion makes me crazy. I pray to live a life so much far from this but I can’t stay more than a month. Please give me your precious advice?

I understand where you are coming from, i had the same view untill recently.. i actually had accidentally discovered i could.. orgasm by doing pull ups… and hey.. its not lust right? Well, it wasnt lust, but it was sexual sin, and after i realized it, i stopped.. but then i fell into masturbation.. still without lusting.. but let me tell you something… i have never felt so separated from God then when i masturbated… God didnt design us with our own pleasure in mind, he designed us to give our bodies to our spouses, and he never meant for us to enjoy sex.. with ourselves, that’s hedonism..
-thanks.. Greg

To Elijah,

I’ve been reading The Game Plan by Joe Dallas that may offer some help. You might want to get your hands on it for some advice/guidance.

First I would love to thank the Author of this great passage; You and what you’ve posted means alot. Bless your heart.

As a Christian, I would understand that masturbation is wrong, simply because it’s an act of sin. Prior to masturbation are sexual cravings which should be kept under subjection with the power and authority that God has given us over our minds and bodies.

As Christians, it is only foolish to perform and try to justify acts of sin. But rather let us strive to stay Kingdom minded, not so attatched to fleshly desires.

I love you all

Hey what up, I’m 18 in college and just left home, now i do feel sexually tempted but i’m still a virgin, but on the rare occasions that I tried to masturbate, I always felt ashamed or guilty afterwards and I was raied in a christian home. I think therefore that it must be wrong and that everytime we do so we are defiling our bodies with lust and impurity. However this doesn’t stop us from wanting 2 do it

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I too have struggled with masturbation for many years but it was only a year ago that I had lustful thoughts accompany the act. I feel certain that masturbation because of/during lustful thinking is a sin because in that way a person is taking and using the body of another that is not theirs.

But masturbation without lustful thoughts (I have done that repeatedly)? Even after reading all these responses (bless you all) and others I still am at an impasse: can masturbation be used to glorify God, extolling Him with the pleasures of this Temple He has given me and providing me with release? Or is it a singular, selfish act, a feeling that is only meant to be shared between a man and wife?

Human opinion will only serve to confuse me more, so I ask of anyone who reads this to please pray for me. Even if it is only once it will certainly help me. Thank you all.

Hi All. I’m a 23 year old “christian” female. I never ever imagined in the whole two years that I’ve struggled with masturbation that there are other young people facing the exact same issues. I’m a virgin, by definition, but it gets so hard at times…I havn’t really wanted to have sex out of personal choice even though I was presented with the opportunity,but when it comes to maturbation, it’s like a whole different force completely takes over all logic and sense. I love God, and I want to be clean, of this because it’s holding me back.It’s as though God refuses to remove this cup, I struggle with it dayly, there are weeks when it doesn’t bother me, because I’ve repented and I’m desperate for God’s forgivness, but than there are those days when it just takes over. It hurts so badly, cause I feel like I have no control over it…and it’s like i’m playing games with God, because I repent and ask for forgiveness and than a few days later i’m doing it all over again. I feel like I’m suffering from a terminal disease.The guilt is so immense and yet, I can’t stop myself.I really need help, because I recently feel the need to watch porn, to kinda get with the times, you know. I am the most terrible sinner and I hate myself for it, and yet it’s a cycle that dosn’t seem to end. I am so desperate right now, because temptation is looming…I wish that I could hold on to something, but I would die if anyone found out, because people see me as capable of no wrong, I want to scream out that I am the worst of sinners, and yet I can’t because I’m afraid of a tainted image. I live with different masks for different days, I’m so tired of it, I just want to be real, and accepted with this mess, that I caused…It’s such a relief to just be myself, and yet nobody knows who I really am, so it’s easy to write this…I just want this to end.Will it ever end? Or am I doomed to live in guilt and regret, and fear that I could die and go to hell at any moment…

Hi. I have been struggling nine years with masturbation. Sometimes I like it then sometimes I think I know it is wrong. I repented because I didn’t want to live filthy like the world but it’s very very very hard when you have those desires.

niteowl had earlier said this. “And as far as masturbating without thinking lustful thoughts–good luck!”

Not to bash the post- because it is a good warning-

However difficult, it is possible to masturbate without thinking of lustful thoughts.

It’s already sort of an empty act- so taking conscious thought out of it makes it a lot like absent-mindedly scratching an itch- or blowing your nose. Gets the job done with no harm done so long as it’s simple, quick, and alone.

Dear Janet and Chris (and all who posted),

I think we may have addressed this on another post, so forgive any repitition. Masturbation, as we know it, is not specifically addressed in the bible. Many Christians have different view points on the subject. We do know that the motivations behind the act are generally sinful. Lust or self indulgence can be destructive. The hormones that we have are pure and a gift from God. Please don’t feel ashamed of those. God doesn’t want you to supress the gift He gave you, He wants you to use them in the way they were intended. These gifts were meant to glorify Him, through our marriages on earth. The enemy uses these feeling against us until we end up feeling worthless and dirty. Ultimately the enemy succeeds in seperating us from God.

I must disagree with the last posting. God has no place for guilt. Guilt and degregation are the enemy’s tools that keep us seperate from Jesus. We are told to confess and repent and forgiveness is ours. There isn’t any place in the bible that tells us to confess, repent, feel the appropriate amount of guilt and then if God thinks it we have sufficiently suffered He may forgive us.

Jesus already paid our debt. Anytime you try to add anything to that equation, you are saying that His death on the cross wasn’t sufficient.

God made us in His image, a beautiful creation. It would be sad to think one of the gifts He gave us, being reduced to “getting the job done” (referring to another post).

It is never too late to turn a corner and change, It is the foundation for being born again. Pray for him to turn your eyes away from worthless things. (Psalm 119:37-39)

God Bless,

Jodi
Christian Singles Blog Moderator

In my opinion, masturbation is not always the response to lust or sexual fantasies. Although you must lust and fantasizes to fulfill the act. Yes, many times lust or the lack of ability to find control in that area have great impact, but is often not the root cause. However, sometimes lust manifest itself do to the absent of a ligitimate need. Lust developes when it exceed beyond what is natural. For example, we all have a ligitimate need for food, but we should not eat more then what is necessary. A person may have a ligitmate need for love, affection, emotional support and companionship. A my person may feel lonely or unloved, fustrated or hopeless and in their attempt to fulfill their litigitimate need for affection, help or support can sometimes lead to perversion. The body does have ligitimate needs: like the eyes have a ligitimate need to see, the ears have ligitimate need to hear. People have a ligitimate need for affection. This is no excuse for sin, but this is one of the reason, why, some people for short in this area. We all must pray and asked for God’s help in this area. The bible says in 1 Corinthian 7:8 it’s better to marry then to burn. Also, 1 Corinthian 7:1-2 says to avoid sexual immorality let every man have his own life. We all must walk in the Spirit and be led by the Spirit to put to death the misdeeds of the body. Some people have to find the strength from God and learn control in this area. For all wrong doing is sin.

i look at porn on the net and i really hate but i keep going back and i am single male. i dont know why really and i fast forward all them. then i masturbate and i feel sick about it. i am going to try and do my best to stay and i want to stay from this stupid crap. i understand that God forgives and i happy about that. i finally understand now and i need to move with my life and not do this anymore. Like what post said ” just because everyone is doing it doesn’t mean it’s right. She right so i am going to stop feeling guilty and let God lead my life instead of me leading it. Thanks for all your help and God Bless You.

Dear Joe,

God made you just the way you are. He gave you a healthy dosage of hormones, that he intended for you to use for His glory. He also gave you a heart to love Him, which you clearly do. The Holy Spirit is living in you and that is what makes you feel sick when you act on your human impulses. With God you can defeat the enemy at his own game. Pray for Him to turn your eyes away from worthless (Psalm 119:37)

God Bless,
Jodi

I stumbled across this website while looking for articles on purposeful single life. I’m a 32 year old single man and like many of you here I’m guessing, waiting patiently on the Lord to provide a wife. I have to say I found this discussion interesting and wanted to share my 2 cents.

Firstly, love should be a giving of self to another. A heroic act of dying to ones self to serve another. To give generously of yourself to another (your spouse). Intercourse is the ultimate and most intimate way of expressing that love and giving ourselves completely to the good and pleasure of the other. This is God’s plan for love and our sexuality!

With masterbation, is the misuse of that gift that God has given us, for our own selfish desires. So what was meant to be used in selflessness, is now used in selfishness. Not very good preparation for a future marriage! and I’ll tell you why. When a man or woman has an orgasm, they release a bonding chemical in their brain that bonds them to the person they are making love to. For a woman, this also happens when she has a child (to create a bond between mother and child). When you masterbate and have an orgasm, you are in effect bonding to the images either infront of you (pornography) or in your mind (fantasies). This inturn makes it harder to bond to your future spouse. God made us to bond to one person, our future spouse!

Masterbation is a selfish use of the sexual organs for your own gratification. You are the only one that benifits, not a spouse who was supposed to recieve that gift from you. One of the dangers of masterbating is that when you do get married you can carry in a mindset of self gratification into the marriage that has developed from masterbating and this inturn leads to the using of your spouse for your own “needs” and your spouse feeling unloved or used. I could go on and on about the dangers of masterbation….

My brothers and sisters in Christ, do not be fooled by the tricks and lies of the devil. It’s a sin. Whether masterbation is a problem for you or not we must still pray for ourselves and each other in regards to purity. I urge you to put your armour on (prayer) and fight the good fight! Pray for the grace to remain pure, fill your mind and heart with good things and good friends, get rid of sexually suggestive or explicit music, movies, websites, newspapers, magazines, friends, humor, social settings, You may not realise how much they subconsciously condition your thinking and distort your conscience and actions. Call on the grace of God because nothing is impossible to God!

God Bless you all

Okay seriously, if someone tells me that they have never masterbated I would call them a liar. I truly believe that due to the fact that many people are “waiting to be married” does not mean that your body is going to stop functioning. I am reading some of these comment and they are little silly. You are saying pray pray pray and have faith faith faith, but you are not addressing the core issue is that marriage is eluding so many christian women, esp. black christian women. Turning off your natural urges is silly. If God didn’t want you to have it He would remove those feelings until you are married. I am not advocating masterbation, but don’t beat your self up over it.

And to add more to the fire, we are seeing a huge number of pastor, minister, bishops and so forth falling like flies over sexual sins. They are being caught in some of the most disgusting forms of sexual perversion. Look at Haggard (i think that is his name), this guy was leading this huge project about transforming gays into straight human beings. Now we know he is a stone cold practicing homosexual. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! We as christians have got to give more practical advise to those who are having trouble with their sexual desires.

Hey I would like to ask everyone something… What do u do if u are a New Christain and u have not reached that level in Christ that other have… I know it is a sin to have sin before marrige but how do u work thru it. I just recieved the Holy Ghost and my boyfriend of 2yrs will not talk to me anymore because I won’t have sex with him anymore but I still am a woman and I just pray and pray and pray but the feeling moves inside of me…. that was a demon that I have been dealing with for a long time…. My boyfriend is the first guy that I have been with besides the man that malested me as a child…..I was dating woman for along time and never thought that i would ever have sex with a man in my life… So now that I have gaven my life to the Lord the devil has been on me hard HELPPPPPPPPPPP……………………

Techieperson, you said a lot of great things.

I think it’s nearly impossible or very very difficult to masturbate without lustful thoughts or self-gratification. And if you weren’t doing it for self-gratification, then what would be the point of you doing it in the first place? Some have said that they have overwhelming sexual desires. I’ll address that in a bit.

I used to be overpowered by masturbation. It was pretty much an addiction. It was a physical satisfaction and medically, society will tell you it’s ok to masturbate, it’s safe and there’s no risks for STDs, etc. Some will say it’s ok to masturbate as long as there’s no sexual thoughts or lust involved. That proved to be very difficult for me. The reason why I would masturbate is because a lustful thought entered my mind. That is what started the cycle. Just one lustful thought was enough to make me fall and it’s true for a lot of other people.
If it was ok to do, then why did I feel so far away from God after? I felt so ashamed, that I could barely pray during the period of addiction. I just felt like I couldn’t enter into the presence of God. I truly felt like He was displeased.
I would ask forgiveness and God would forgive me, but then after doing it again, I would just feel the exact same crappy feeling. Society said it was ok, but it was so obvious to me that spiritually it wasn’t. If it was spiritually alright, then why was it ruining my relationship with God?

Some time after that, I came to a point in my life where all I could do was put my trust in God. A situation happened that caused me to need to surrender my life to God. I rededicated my life to Jesus and began listening to a sermon from pastor greg laurie almost every night. Basically, I spent time listening to the word of God and surrounding myself with the word of God daily.
Everything else after that was natural. Because I was surrounding myself with the word of God by listening to a Christian message every night, those are the thoughts that filled my mind. There was simply not enough room for sexual thoughts that could lead to sexual desires.
It was no longer “how can I abstain from sexual desires?” but it then became “What can I do to please the Lord?” The difference in those questions is that the second one focuses on the Lord while the first one focuses on yourself. And of course, abstaining from sexual sin falls under the second question.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a sinner. I’m still tempted. But this is no longer a sin that controls me, no a longer a sin in which I feel helpless. Jesus saved me. You see, it’s all in the mind. What do you fill your thoughts with? Spend your energy and thoughts on serving the Lord! If you fill your mind with holy thoughts, thoughts of our Lord, holy actions will follow.

In closing, I’ll post a link to a christian message called “Love, Sex & the Single Christian.” It’s an audio of pastor greg laurie’s message.

http://odeo.com/episodes/24321839-Love-Sex-the-Single-Christian-I

Dear Lady,

Your situation is not an easy one and not uncommon either. Most important to know if that there is no “level” when it comes to Christ. There is nothing you need to do or strive for. As you continue your walk with Jesus, your faith will be strengthened. It is no surprise that the devil is on you hard. He just lost you and trust me he isn’t happy about it. Often the more we immerse ourselve in God, the enemy likewise turns up the heat to see if we can withstand it. We can! God will not allow us to be tempted more than we can bear (1 Corinthians 10:13)

I am sorry saddened to hear about your childhood experience. I will pray that Jesus fills up all the holes that were left in your heart.

It is difficult to be in a relationship where one person is a non-beleiver. It is especially challenging since yours started before you accepted Jesus Christ. Don’t equate his lack of acceptance with his feeling for you. Your boyfriend is feeling done wrong by. The rules have changed mid way through the game.

While he may not like the idea, he will have to accept it if he wants to remain in your relationship. I wish I had better news for you, but this may be the time to move on. This will be a constant struggle for you otherwise.

The fear I hear in your words is that you are afraid that it took you this long to heal enough to be with this man you will not find another.

You have a strength and power now that you haven’t had before. God will be your rock and your everlasting hope. Try picking up a book called “Falling in Love with Jesus” by Kathy Triccoli (you can look her up on Facebook too) Kathy talks about her own personal struggles with being single. She showed me how we can be complete in God, even without a man at our side. Once we realize that we are more complete and only then ready to share ourselves in a relationship.

God Bless!

Jodi

Lady on September 9th I understand you.When I accepted Christ my boyfriend of 3 yrs would not speak to me as I told him our relationship would have to have some changes(no sex..lol).He was not supportive and so we eventually parted.You have had a tough life and I pray that you will stay focused on God. Get some friends who love God who will help you go through this difficult period.Let the devil know he is a liar and you will not go back to your past life.You are a Child of God and if it means you may need to leave your present boyfriend so be it.Let God guide you in the way you should go. It is time to truly LET GO AND LET GOD do what he wants to do in your life. Jer 29 verse 11 read it.

I have been tossing this thought around for a little while now. I was married to the most wonderful man and He passed away on September 23, 2009. We were utterly devoted to one another and we had an amazing sex life…together.

I had enjoyed self pleasure since I was a teenager and it did not as it was said previously….”””This inturn makes it harder to bond to your future spouse. God made us to bond to one person, our future spouse! “”” I was so open to Stephen and we shared many glorious moments together.

Now..at age 36 I am the widowed mother of 4 children….I do not want another husband, I do not want to go out and ease this ache with some stranger…I want my husband..the One Man God made for me to completely bond with. I do believe with all my heart that Stephen was my soulmate.

So now that I am without Him..I am to deny the urges that overtake me when laying in our bed smelling His cologne on the pillow case I have yet to wash? Telling me that I am weak to want to feel that pleasure…they yes, I am weak…I love Him….The good Lord above knows my heart and hears from me somany times a day praying for strength to be strong for my kids..to keep my chin up as He was so fond of saying.

I am human…I am also a woman..I am also a Christian… am I sinning een if I am thinking of Him? Am I goign agaisnt God’s Holy words by finding a release that manifests itself in a sexual desire?

Yes, it does say in the bible to look upon and lust after is a sin, but is it still a sin to want the One You were devoted too, commited too till death you do part…which death has clearly parted us…

So tell me now…Now what do I do?

I believe mine started when I was young, I had such a fear of having sex or getting anything from sex I build a wall around myself and said this way I don’t have to worry about getting any sexual transmitted dieseases.

I dated when I was a teen and had sex a few times but didn’t care for it because I wanted to be married before I even started, so being young at that time I stayed to myself and away from masturbatation.

As I grew into adult I started dating again it had been 10 years I had not have sex or even masturbate, but as time when on in the relationship I finally gave into sex with my partner and I was so unhappy with it because he didn’t care about pleasing me just his self.

So I left that relationship and asked GOD to forgive me having sex before marriage and masturbation. In my opinion I felt masturbation kind of saved my life from having sex like crazy.

Finally I got married but later the marriage took a bad turn, my husband had a problem with sex with other women and I divorced him, he had 6 affairs on me and it was hurting.

Sometimes I use masturbation as a way to guard my heart from hurt because I want someone to really love me and not use me as a sex toy.

Yes sometimes I feel bad about it but I feel safe with it because I don’t have to worry about getting a sexual transmitted diseases.

I know we each have our own reason for doing it and i’m not saying i’m any better.

I know GOD have a heart and see us for who we really are and he know we love him.

I am a teen. I am a good girl. I make good grades. But, about 2-3 years ago, I started to begin to have raging hormones. I had a friend who showed me what sex was, on the internet. After that, I started to watch porn, because it made me feel something that I had never felt before. I didnt realize what I was doing at the time. My parents are big Christians, so they never discuss porn or the consequences. As I watched the porn, I would masturbate. It left me feeling dirty and gross. It lasted for about a year. I didnt tell anyone and I was not close to God in this dark time. I stopped watching porn and I fought my urges and resisted masturbation. It has been 2 years since I have watched porn and yes, it is a daily battle. But, my life is much happier without it.
I was not raised in a bad home, I just made a few bad choices.

But, in conclusion, my Savior, Jesus, forgave me for my sins. I realized that you can live without fufilling your sexual desires and I am so happy that I turned away from my sin. He forgave me and showed me the light. It was not all easy. I dont know if masturbation is a sin, but I know that I can live without it, and I can wait until marriage. Anything is possible with the help of God.
Bless you all
My Savior lives, My Savior loves

I’ve always believed that masturbation is an unsettled issue with me as a single male guy that’s 33 years old, but have as of recently felt a sort of conviction about it, in particularly when used with softcore porn. I have purchased a fleshlight and masturbate on that to images of porn, or inside the shower in the past. The premise of masturbation or porn is usually a hidden rebellion based on the perceived mis-treatment by women and essentially blaming them collectively that I have to resort to masturbation or viewing porn. The Bible, 1 Corinthians 7:2, was often used to show such unfairness in life. That is, if I had a gf, or a “normal life” where there were no issues connecting with women, then simply, this would not exist.

This week, I have been convicted about this on the issue and have just volunteered into music ministry at the church. I feel very strongly that if I’m a music minister, then my life has to be clean, or the annointing will not come through when I blow into that instrument.

My new position about it, right now, is that if I’m involved in a public ministry, especially a music worship ministry, then I will quit that post if I continue masturbating or looking at porn. Because, the type of masturbating (i.e. fleshlight and porn) seems too much like fornication and I’m uncomfortable with it. Also, if I’m worshipping God with a Trombone, then how can I worship God in total purity if I’m doing stuff on the side like that? How can the Spirit flow through my music and bless people if this is what I do? Then the whole thing is just vain.

God could also have a wife/woman just for me too, even if everyone else does not want me, since you only need one person to marry anyway. It’s just 1 Cor 7:2 plays with my head sometimes, because it seems to say that it’s okay to masturbate if you are not married to anyone and it’s confusing.

I am a Christian and a recent college graduate. I have dated only Christian girls. I don’t have a lot of experience in dating many women (I have dated only six), but our relationships have tended to turn sexual (mutual masturbation) fairly quickly. This is not my intention, but it happened. I have never had intercourse, and I don’t want to until marriage. I will only engage in monogamous relationships. I make certain that the girls I dated felt the same way. But we do wind up petting and masturbating each other. My current girlfriend and I have talked about this, and the consensus is that at our age (early to mid-20s), it’s virtually impossible not to be somewhat controlled by sex. This sounds like an excuse, but she has confessed her feelings to me (and I have to her also) and I totally understand because my feelings are very similar. Using the intensity of our sexual feelings as a reason for mutual masturbation sounds like an excuse, but we feel that the act of masturbation has improved our relationship. Once the act is complete, we are freer to enjoy each other’s company, and to go out and have fun without the sexual pressure. Because of our work schedules, we can see each other only about twice a week. But this brings sufficient release to make our entire week more enjoyable. And, yes, marriage is the proper remedy, and we are beginning to discuss this. We seem to be extremely compatible, and I believe that true love is developing between us. We are both cautious, but excited about what the future holds. We continue to feel that we are in touch with God and that He is guiding us.

why is masturbation a sin?

My convictions against masturbation are changing when I see other masturbators are being depraved and corrupt. I own a fleshlight sex toy and now I’m thinking of getting rid of it because I feel turned off by the moral depravity of other people who own it and think I’m sinking to their level. I see first hand as a child of the light not to have fellowship with darkness.
So, if I masturbate or think lustfully, or look at porn, it is not in the context that I’m rejecting or rebelling against God here, but that I’m struggling, confessing, and asking God to deliver me out of the particular struggle. I may feel bad to the extent I can blame the inavailablity or rejection by women so that I can get married and may allow that as an outlet of expression — but I refuse to identify with any of those antichrist masturbators, even if it means I have to give up masturbation entirely not to be associated with them.

Masturbation is fine. As long as you don’t beat it in a Burger King bathroom and have your whole life revolving around it. I am a Christian woman and I have to say I am tired of these ideals that single Christian women can’t be sexy in any way. It is so insulting to have other believers expect you to wear frumpy clothes and spend free time doing holier than thou activities while waiting for a so-called perfect Christian man that doesn’t exist bc no Christian is perfect!

Masturbation is far better than giving it away in the heat of passion. When I masturbate, it lessens the urge to do something stupid
because I am not constantly trying to suppress my sexual appetite.

Happy New Years and lots of wishes that you will find true love 😎

I have been masturbating to porn for roughly over a year now. Right from the beginning my soul felt vile and corrupted, doing such a thing and repeatedly asking for God’s help and forgiveness, and then just starting all over again the next day.

I have tried making promises to God and punishing myself if I do it again. But somehow just one wrong image is enough to push me over the edge and push me back into the quicksand of sin.

I still keep trying to stop, and I hold onto the hope that God will bring THE One and replace my lonely and lustful need for self-gratification with something, MORE. To Love, To Cherish, To Hold Onto Them, knowing that God has provided and that you no longer find yourself wanting.

Please pray for me as I continue to struggle with this nightmare. Bless you all, my brothers and sisters.

A.A

i really do not know what to say because i have read different people point of view but i really what us all to think about it when we all get to the gate of heaven what are we going to tell God about the way we lived are lives, remember in the bible God said let your body be my temple and at all times we sholud all learn to control your body. it is heard to keep our body but with God on our side all things are possible.

I was actually looking for another blog but Ill go ahead and comment on this after I read it all-
First of all I think its wonderful the discussion going on here. Thank you to the author and participants.
I’m a female, 36 yrs old and divorced. I had a crazy after divorce sexual lifestyle. Which included alot of masturbating. 4 to 5 times daily.
I grew up in church, my mom was a youth minister for over 20 years..so I knew the rules.
After recommitting my life to the Lord and seeking Him whole heartedly slowly and surely my “need” to masturbate or act out sexually has pretty much abated. I have been delivered from that bondage- thank you Jesus!
However, periodically I find myself masturbating although less often and many weeks and sometimes months inbetween times, it happens.
Whether or not its right or wrong I guess to me belongs to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. For those who are or have been in bondage of that typ..I believe that is something God would not want you to do because of the patterns it can bring back up in your life.
God can and will deliver and heal you of these things.
I honestly thought that I would never be able to purge this out of my life, but again, the more I seek Him, the more I try to make my heart and mind mirror His. The less I feel the need to do this..but thats me personally and Ive admitted that sometimes it still happens. Im foulable- humans err
The Holy Spirit convicts, Jesus heals… Man does not have the right to heap guilt on your head.
Take it to God, and take it one day at a time
God Bless and thank you all for being so brave and open and honest.

P.S to GrannySmith- and I hope that you still read this thread.. I feel you! Im having a horrible time figuring out how to be a “Godly woman” and “acceptable”
I dont know how to dress right.I hate frumpy clothes, I cant help the figure I have but Ive been told to sex it down..I dont dress provoctively but because of how Im built thats how it “looks” I dont date because I dont know how to date Christian men. I tried, and shockingly found that they are just as jerky and sex crazed as men in the world.
Enough of that..I just wanted to say, I identify with your post a great deal

Finally, some REAL christians.

Hey…I’m 19 years old – a female- Christian for 6 or more years of my life and never had I thought of masturbation before until July 09′ my boyfriend and I since we couldn’t be intimate physically because of distance and because of not being married he began to masturbate. It was a fun thing to do but I always felt convicted afterwards and so did he, and we’d keep asking God to forgive us of our faults but sure enough we fell again and again and again. We fasted we prayed we even took time off from talking to each other. We stopped for a while and began to focus more on God and on our spiritual growth together as a couple…and then we started to fall again and again and again. We stopped for a while and now we fell again .. I just Pray that God sees us through this roller coaster. We don’t wanna dishonor God with our bodies.

I can completely relate to most of you in regards to masturbation. For a while i was so addicted to it that sometimes i’d masturbate 4-5 times a day. I thought i’d never be able to stop and my excuse was that it kept me from having sex. I would feel convicted and really bad after i’d do it. I did everything to stop; made promises to God, outdoor activities, punished myself, ignored the urges as much as i could, none of this worked. It wasn’t until i got prayed for that the cycle was broken. Masturbation is not something pleasing in God’s eyes. When you masturbate what comes to mind? When i would do it i would think about naked men or see myself with someone else doing sexual things. Ephesians 5:3 tells us there shouldn’t even be a hint of sexual immorality in our lives. 1 Cor. 6:18 tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Masturbation is a form of sexual pleasure therefore we are sinning. I’m not condemning anyone but i am stating that masturbation is a sin and it can be overcome! We serve the creator of this earth, the King of Kings, nothing is impossible to Him! This is a form of bondage that needs to be broken! We shouldn’t accept it and keep doing it but ask the Lord to help us break the bondage so God can use us to our full potential! If you can’t do it on your own have a Christian spirit-filled pastor along with intercessors pray over you. you don’t have to tell them what it is that you do, just say it’s something you’ve been struggling with that you need to be delivered from. honestly, i truly enjoy not being in bondage by masturbation anymore! it’s great and i know it’s pleasing to God because i’m remaining pure until marriage 🙂 Praise God!

well im a 17 yr old male. i started masturbating when i ws 11. i didnt know what i was doing. it just felt great. i did it for years and about 2 years ago started dating this amazing girl. i eventualy told her about it. it really shook our relationship but we managed to hang on. i still struggle with masturbating. sometimes every day or even multiple times in a day. my girlfriend, well, hates it. she says it hurts her. im so confused. some people say its wrong. others say its no big deal. i myself dont really know what i feel. i feel bad but thats more because my girlfriend doesnt want me to do it. not as much the act itself. it in a way helps me keep my sanity. sometimes the sexual tension is unbearable and masturbating relieves that. it also helps keep me out of trouble with my girlfriend. but the question of right or wrong still persits. ive seen both sides of the coin and have to make a descision. but im more confused than ever. if anybody can help id really appreciate it….

Stats: almost 28, born again, female, single, virgin

I’ve been completely single for almost 9 years (yes, I heard you gsap out loud!) after ending my last relationship because I re-dedicated my life to Christ and my boyfriend wasn’t feeling the whole “saved” vibe. We were together for 2 years and did ‘stuff’ to avoid having sex ONLY because I insisted. But half-way in to the relationship, I started masturbating… well, he ‘introduced’ me to it and I took over after that.

From that time until a while ago, I masturbated regularly–every night for a couple of years. Sometimes I felt guilty, sometimes not; sometimes I thought about my ex, sometimes it was all about me. I was severly conflicted and would often stop for weeks, even months at a time… then I would suddenly fall back into the same habit.

That continued until I hit my breaking point at 26. Up until then, masturbation was just to take the edge off but I started to get crazy horny–one day, I had to drive home on my lunch hour to ‘handle my business! That was around the same time that I ventured into porn on the net. It was curiosity that drove me because I never let myself indulge although everyone around me was into it. Well, I had my fill of porn for about 2 weeks and then I realized that I was dealing with a serious demon.

I made a serious commitment of sexual purity to God and to myself, and there was no looking back!! He has been more than faithful–I have been ‘clean’ (from masturbation and porn) for a year and 4 months, now! I’m still working on the thoughts of sex, but Jesus has brought me a long way.

That long testimony was simply to let everyone know that we CAN do ALL things through CHRIST who strengthens us. Even though I’m still single and believing God for my husband, those overwhelming sexual urges are completely gone and the Holy Spirit gets me through the day to day stuff.

Because I’m not 100% sure if masturbation is against God’s will or not, I’m just gonna leave it alone. But my prayer for all of the Christians struggling with it is that you EARNESTLY seek God about the issue. Pray and fast on it–the Holy Spirit will never lead us astray. God bless!!!

CONTINUATION FROM JANUARY 27,2010
BECAUSE IT FEEL GOOD DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD DO IT. MASTURBATION IS A SIN BECAUSE MENTALLY YOU IMAGINE SEXUALLY THOUGHTS IN YOUR MIND THAT IS SIN. YOU MENTALLY GO THERE BEFORE YOU PHYSICALLY GO THERE (MASTURBATION). ]
MATTHEW 5;28 – BUT I SAY UNTO YOU. THAT WHOSOEVER LOOKETH ON A WOMAN O LUST AFTER HERCOMMITTED ADULTERY WITH HER ALREADY IN HIS HEART. LOOK UP PHILLIPPIANS 4:8

SOME PEOPLE THINK IF IT FEELS GOOD IT MUST BE ALRIGHT TO DO. THIS IS NOT TRUE THAT IS HOW SATAN TRAPS U MENTALLY AND THIS OPEN THE DOOR TO DEMONS ATTACKING YOU IN YOUR SLEEP. LOOK UP INCUBUS SPIRITS AND SEX DEMONS. THIS IS NOT A JOKE.

Very good previous discussions about this topic. It is a subject that most Christian singles have had to deal with and continue to deal with, me being one of them. To the fellow that dealt with the legalistic side of it, i commend you. And to the rest also because, IMO, all of your opinions are valuble.

i would like point out a scriptural reference that does not name it but hints at it.
2 Timothy 3
1This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2For men shall be lovers of their own selves.

There are others that have been mentioned in this thread and there are also others that are hinted at in scripture. For chapter and verse references, i will leave for another time because my memory escapes me.

Most people struggle with this from time to time and IMO Masturbation is wrong sometimes but never really right. Guilt is involved in most cases with some exceptions to the rule. If it is a sin, i do not believe it is the un-pardonable sin because who in the heck would make it to heaven if that was
the case?

I myself with opine later about this topic and God bless you all.

Rediculous. I am a christian and masturbation is NOT wrong. Sometimes you have to give your undercarriage a bit of a hows your father…or in my case…mother. God gave you hands, and he gave you private parts and sexual desire….it’s not rocket science. Honestly, I think people take the sin issue too far, or perhaps you will judge me and call me secular, either way…I don’t care. Why is it mine or your right to judge people for masturbating? Why should someone feel ‘dirty’ for touching themself? Thats like trying to deny your feelings when you are happy, or sad. God made us complex, and something else we feel is horny, along with happy or sad, why deny your emotions? Its not like you are hurting anyone. It doesn’t make you a bad christian. So if you’re single, even if you’re not single and the mood strikes….I think it’s fine to masturbate!!

(18, christian, female, single)
Island Chick,

Thank you for sharing!! I have a similar story, and am so glad to hear that I’m not alone. But I have a question, are you afraid that you’ve conditioned yourself to be pleased in a certain way from now on? That when God brings you a husband, it will no longer be ‘special’?
I’ve been trying to stop, but I keep falling down. It’s come to a point where as soon as I feel a satisfying arousal, everything just kind of shuts down (never reaching orgasm). I feel like my sex life is forever damaged. I know that I should accept God’s forgiveness and forgive myself, but I can’t help think that I deserve it, that no guy should have me because of who I’ve become.
I’m not sure if I should see a phycologist about this or not.

p.s. I believe my hymen has been broken during masturbation. Does that mean I’m not a virgin anymore? (I’ve never had sex with a guy).

I’m a guy (age 23). First off, I would like to talk from experience. Last February I fasted from masturbation for a month. I found that I was so full of hormones and thoughts about sex, that I had trouble living life near the end. As a matter of practicality, I think that not masturbating creates more sin over time.

Furthermore, medical science has shown that masturbating is healthy and can reduce the risk of prostate cancer if done at least 4 times a week.

As far as the Bible is concerned, Matthew 5:28 is talking to married men. This is very clear in context. Also, single men should not fantasize about married women. A single man fantasizing about a single woman is (by definition) not adultery.

Porn is wrong because sex is the consummation of marriage vows. Watching people have sex and fantasizing about being with them is similar to fantasizing about a married women even if the people in the videos are not legally married. (John 4:16-18)

Also, Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.” is often misused. Job was married! (See verses 9 & 10 “If my heart has been enticed by a woman, or if I have lurked at my neighbor’s door, then may MY WIFE grind another man’s grain, and may other men sleep with her.”) His “covenant” was to not look at other women because he was married.

Two last thoughts:
1.Note that in Leviticus 15:16, an “an emission of semen” makes a man unclean. Unclean is not sin (although it is used as a metaphor for sin). Unlcean = unhygienic. Remember that a woman on her period was unclean. We don’t tell them to stop their monthly cycles (LOL)!

2. Some in the Catholic Church argue that you should only have sex to create life. They say an emission of semen for any other reason is a waste and should be avoided. By that logic, every father should tell their daughters to start having sex after their first period in order to prevent the “waste” of a potential life.

I hope that these words remove some unnecessary guilt and help you to live the Christian life!

This is a very interesting topic that has piqued my interest. Okay, I’ve been masturbating for years, I did not feel guilty about it, when I had confessed to the lord I needed a savior and wished to be saved then I felt he did it, but I did not stop masturbating ( I still didn’t feel guilty). As the time went on I had run across this comment some where talking about how masturbating was wrong and it means your unclean, it means our father is upset and not happy with you and that you give in to the devil by masturbating. Well then I started looking around trying to see why this person would think that.

Soon I found myself on several christians sites where they just believe it is the ultimate sin, how it is a terrible thing to do and they think god would turn his face away when you do things like this. Well I honestly think what was said caused a problem in my life, because I felt that since I was new at being saved I didn’t know any better so I began to feel uncomfortable about it, I cried and beat myself up over it when ever I did it, because their words kept coming back to my head, over and over again. This is where the problem begins, I felt that I was unworthy of our father’s love and in feeling this way I felt that I did not deserve his forgiveness for continuing to do it after what I read. I felt conflicted for a while, I did not feel at peace. Soon I began to feel as if I was distancing my self from our father I did not feel close to him over because of how I began to feel.

Here’s the other problem, I tried to stop myself from doing it, I laid up at night crying and restless trying to figure out if what I was doing was wrong, because until I read what some christians thought about it I did not have a problem with masturbation, I felt close to god even though i did it, I felt I could go to him and ask him of things, knowing it would get done in a matter of time. I did not feel worried, but It was only until I read those things when I felt at war with myself, I felt unworthy, I didn’t want to pray because I felt this was my punishment for doing the things I did.

For a while I felt lost, I felt like for the things I did he would not hear me, so i asked him to turn down my sexual desires, and you know what? he did it, he turned it down so well that I can actually feel the difference. I feel lighter when I went back to him and told him to just handle it because I couldn’t do it myself. Thats a big problem with people trying to handle it themselves, trying to punish themselves, but I say take it to our father and let him be the one to handle it for you. It’s alright, it doesn’t mean your a bad person for masturbating. I think that was the conclusion I had to come to, because I still masturbate, do I feel guilty now? no. I feel at peace again, personally I think all this guilt is the devil because I realized thats how he got me to stray away and distance myself from god, guilt. Guilt that I wasn’t worthy, that didn’t deserve his love, his blessings, that it was cheapening his grace by continuing to masturbate and going to ask for forgiveness only to turn around and do it again.

My advice, don’t beat your self up over this, know that you will be forgiven because there is a reason why god sent jesus to die for our sins because he knew we couldn’t get to him by ourselves. Haven’t anyone heard it’s not by your works, but by your faith that you will be saved? To me your trying to work by trying to stop masturbating as a way to prove to god that you are worthy. When all he really wanted was for you to believe his son died on the cross and believeing he died for your sins, nothing more, nothing less. Because i’m sorry to tell you but….we’ll never be able to be sinless like his son. We are sinners. Let’s just admit that, put it all on the table, show all your cards and not beat our selves to death for our sins. Someone already did for us, let’s just be grateful he did because we would be screwwwwwwwwed if he didn’t, don’t let a sin have power over you and cause you to move away from god. I am full aware I sin, I am fully aware I may not deserve his forgiveness and I’m still praying his reduce my sexual desires, but I will not let this or anything else try to get me down again, it felt terrible

It happend to me and I think thats whats happening to many others. Ask him for advice as well or ask him to handle it, many here are punishing themsevles for what they do, someone else has already been punished for you. Our father knew all of things we were going to go through, do you think our sins surprise him? He knew us before we were in the womb, he knows how we are now. Let’s just be glad he’s not sending balls of fire and lightening bolts down upon us to strike us down, because yes we do deserve it lol. God loves you either way, if he didn’t he wouldn’t have sent jesus to die for us.

If you really want to stop masturbating then by all means go to father, he’ll handle it, he’ll work on you. I admit I’m still being worked on, but I just wanted to share my story and of what i thought. Do I think masturbating was wrong? I found it has kept me from doing stupid things, especially to this one guy i went to school with. I know to this day that if I had been some where alone with that guy a few months back before i asked to be saved, I’d probably be pregnant right now. I have no doubt in my mind about that, now I don’t know if it was because of porn ( which I’m still working on, I so far have been porn free for some time now) but all I know is that i was obsessed with that guy, I couldn’t understand why. i was so confused as to why i wanted to have children so bad during that time, I mean it was a terrible time. I know he wasn’t the best guy out there, he did things I do not approve of, but It’s like i was willing to ignore that all if he would just impregnante me. It was scary, it was like I was in heat. it was on my mind all the time every day, in my dreams, I was afraid of my self. I also must admit it wasn’t the first time I wanted a guy to get me pregnant, but with him it was more intense, almost extreme need. Even then i had to pray that the lord would help me and he did, he took away the maddening desire during those months, do i still think that guy looks good? yes but I recognize him for what he is: temptation, and the devil almost got me. Even to this day i know i have to stay away from this guy, because I’m sure he could still talk me into doing something I know I promised myself i wouldn’t do until marrige. Anyways i hope I don’t fall away and end up back to the way I felt before except with another guy. Pray for me on that as i will be praying for you all on this.

Sorry for the long comment but i felt the need to share with you, I hope you all are having a nice day! =]

It makes me so sad to see so many people who are otherwise totally dedicated to God beating themselves up over the so-called sin of masturbation.

I was raised Christian and accepted the Lord as a young child. I started masturbating even earlier, and I can promise you that there were no sexual fantasies attached to it because I didn’t even know what sex was. It was all about discovering that a certain part of my body felt good when I touched it in a certain way. So I had no guilt over it and didn’t struggle with it. However, I knew it involved my “private parts,” so I instinctively felt that there was something private about it. Not sinful, not unclean, not perverted. Private.

When I was about 12 or 13, I heard about masturbation for the first time and realized that it was what I’d been doing. But still I didn’t know it was considered a “sin,” and I had no feelings of guilt about it. Then, finally, I started reading Christian material that informed me it was wrong to masturbate, and–voila!–I felt guilty.

It’s clear to me now that I had to be taught to feel this guilt. There was nothing in my heart or my spirit, no still, small voice that whispered to me that I was angering God. Eventually, I realized that the guilt was artificial. It wasn’t based on anything in the Scripture. It was culturally induced guilt.

My personal belief is that masturbation isn’t a sin. I believe those who feel guilty about it feel guilty because they’ve been taught to feel guilty, not because there’s something inherently wrong with masturbation. Think about it: If everyone you respected told you it was a sin to listen to classical music or go jogging or speak Spanish or whatever, you’d believe it. And the reason you probably feel embarrassed about “admitting” masturbation to others is because it’s private. It involves your private parts and a private kind of pleasure. Be honest with yourself. If you’d just had sex with your spouse, would you really want to broadcast that to your neighbors, or would you also feel embarrassed to share that bit of info with them? Of course you would! And that’s not because sex with your spouse is wrong. That’s because it’s private. Well, masturbation is private, too.

God created us to feel pleasure in certain parts of our body. In terms of sharing that pleasure, we’re only supposed to do so with the one person we’ve committed to forever. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to enjoy those God-given feelings on our own.

It’s interesting to me that sooooo many people do battle with this supposed sin, yet it’s never explicitly mentioned in the Bible. Sure, we’re told not to lust after another person. But plenty of people masturbate just by focusing on the feelings. Others create an imaginary person to think about, and while this is more iffy in terms of what’s right and wrong, it doesn’t seem to hurt anyone since the person isn’t real. Seriously, if God hated masturbation, don’t you think He would have given us a firm word on this subject since just about every single person engages in it?

If you ask me, everyone should learn to separate the true voice of the Holy Spirit from false guilt instilled by others, spend some more time in the Word, and then decide if it’s really something to be ashamed of or just something you want to keep to yourself because it’s SUPPOSED to be private.

My name is Jon I am 29 and single. I desire very strongly to have a wife but this has been a difficult search for me, as I seem to be alot like that sock everyone has that doesn’t quite have a match. I was given somewhat a large sex drive which I feel was given to me by God, so that I may procreate a decent/large sized family with the right woman. I am fairly inexperienced with women a few relationships here and there nothing really serious or with marriage potential, so have spent a great deal of time single.To deal with my urges and avoid invasive lustful thoughts, I do masturbate to thoughts of my future spouse and/or things unrelated to sex. I try and abstain from using porn whenever possible and at this point can take it or leave it and prefer the latter, and try and keep lustful thoughts out of my head when masturbating and can indeed manage this. Once I’ve finished, I feel a sense of relief and those invasive lustful thoughts and desires disappear I can then resume my normal activities without being bothered or distracted by them. I only feel that the act of masturbation itself is wrong/unnatural/sinful when I am told these things and think about them, if I dismiss them from my mind I don’t feel as though I am doing anything wrong. I consider myself to be “too old.” to be single but, like I said I can’t really find the right woman. Ideally I feel as though I should have found and married the right woman by now and this would be a non issue if I had.

I, too, struggle with this issue. It’s particularly embarassing for me. I’m a young man, and have found it impossible to completely stop since I first started, eleven years ago. The longest I’ve gone without this particular act is six months; and, by that time, I was having embarassing dreams, which excited me so much that I had to fight to control the consequences. It gets to the point where I don’t have to stimulate myself manually; if I happen to see certain pictures, I… well, we all know what happens. I try to stay away from these pictures, as much as I can. I know that the activities portrayed therein are senseless, and hedonistic. Still, I can’t seem to remain strong enough to resist permanently. In fact, I gave in to temptation just before I came to this article. It’s a shameful thing to me, and I’m struggling with it every month… almost like clock-work. I need prayer, and pray for God to forgive me, in Jesus’ name. Please, withhold my e-mail address. I have posted my name as “Withheld”.

to the above person (Emily) or others who…

DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?

DONT GIVE UP.

every time you or someone else falls, get back up or help them back up. Dont give up or quit. God knows everytime you commit to Him again.

–In my weakness God is STRONG.—

Nice to read all the stories, I am a 24 year old male. I have been addicted to pornography since I was 15, and masturbation followed. I was raised in a catholic family and my parents never really talked to me about it, but I am sure my dad knew I was doing it. As I got older I completely lost faith in god and I was masturbating on a daily basis. Its like a drug addiction you cant break free from it controls you. But looking at it now as I got hooked more and more, the pornography got worse and worse and it was like a drug, to get the same High you must experience new content, I know the road I was taking was leading me to nowhere. So a few months ago I almost died I overdosed on energy drinks and prework out supplement and I almost went into cardiac arrest as I had only 30% oxygen left inside of me, as I was in that hospital my heart beating 200 times a minute I ran to god for help in a long time. Its been 3 months now and I am fighting this war I have read the scripture many times over and I have relapsed a couple of times but I have not looked at any porn in weeks and I am still masturbating but now the span seems to get longer, it was daily, now its like once weekly when I cant take it no more or I am going to do something stupid, then I give in.
Everyone suffers from this especially men, its something that all of us keep inside.

I read some more posts…

Masturbation is a form of fornication wich is as sex outside of marriage. Very simply figure what what and why God created the organs. For married people to use within marriage for enjoyment and to have children. Check Song of Solomon on the enjoyment part.

Incubus and Secubee are sexual spirits that attack people during sleep, depending on the sin they are in…look them up with Google.

If you are single and look upon another single person with lust in your heart, it is not adultry, but fornication, and lust and fantasy lust.

If you are married and look upon another married or not lusting in your heart it is adultry. If you are single and look upon a married person with lust in your heart it is adultry.

If you masturbate while married looking upon pornography it is adultry.

If you masturbate while single looking upon pornography it is fornication.

Okay things that are in the the heart and not acted upon are still sins. The heart must be dealt with. Remember when Jesus told the pharisees they were white washed tombs. It was because the outwardly attempted to do and act holy, and never dealt with the sins in their heart which I discussed briefly in the other two posts earlier.

Fantasizing about anyone is sin, sex must come out of a real love first relationship where you are married and the sex is a by product of the love for one another. If anyone becomes a taker then love is not operating. Further the wife and teh husband are to give each other due benevolence. Which means our love must come from God alone individually and we give it to each other without expectation. Then there are are no expectations in which we grow bitter…the sex addiction can go into marriage and if one is a taker or both have a sexual addiction that is a form of defilement in the marriage bed.

Something most do not know about virginity is when both are virgins and they are married at the act of consumation, blood is released from the hymin as it is broken. This is a now a marriage with a blood covenant. Mercy, grace, and love, if you are not a virgin and looking to get married don’t be condemned, God knows we live in a fallen world and He will forgive us, and though we may not get the deal from virginity he will restore things. Gods intention was two virgins, man and women marry and form a blood covenant by the consumation under Him, and the very first dopamine release occurs and when it does the two were with each other and had that wonderful feeling together and they connect in it and it creates a bond that would normally empower them to always be faithful to each other. Unless of course one or both of them carried a generational spirit of adultry and lust. I have one set of grandparents that were the exception and lived that.

Hope this helps and will hang out on this site for a few days…

Matt

I too struggled with masturbation and pornography and I know well the physical urges that drive toward them. But, I hope what I’m about to share will help you in your resistance to such temptations, because I’ve come learn the consequence they bring.

Like most Christians, I prayed for a long time that a godly woman would appear in my life as I felt a deep sense of loneliness. Believing that no one was watching me, I started to experiment with masturbation, which led to pornography. They seemed like drugs that gave temporary satisfaction. However, as time dragged on, I became desensitized to sexuality. My views of women started to change and my desires for sexual activities only grew stronger. The sinful nature of porn became less and less obvious in my mind, and my resistance to it became weaker and weaker. Then, I met a godly woman, who was smart, beautiful, and funny. We had great chemistry, and she wanted to keep her physical purity. Things were going great for a while. But, my mentality was changed so much by pornography that I started to demand things in the relationship that I would not ever have. Out of lust, I pressured her and said things to her that greatly hurt her feelings. Soon enough, I lost her at a time when I began to fall in love with her. It was sudden and devastating to me. But God used our break-up to show me my sins and the consequences that they bring. Brothers and sisters, make no mistake, you reap what sow. Sin spreads like a yeast in the most subtle ways, starting from what seems like harmless fun. For those who are serious about faith and desire a Christian mate who is faithful to God, please know that masturbation and pornography will change your perspective towards relationships, sexual purity, and intimacy in ways you will not expect. It is for your own good to avoid them, and I say this because I don’t wish anyone to experience the regret and grief that sadden my heart. I leave you with Ephesians 5, not out of judgement but out of love, and I hope this post will help you not to make some mistakes I’ve made.

I’m 19 year old male currently taking an online school. The struggle of not looking at porn to masturbate or any sexual stuff online is hard enough since I’m in my room on the computer a lot.
But what works best for me is taking one day at a time, even if you have to pray every five minutes to God not be tempted and think lustfully, do it. Fighting sin is not easy but if you give yourself to God he can make what you think is impossible possible.
I know thinking lustfully and looking at porn is a sin, but I still don’t know wether masturbation is a sin. I’m just praying every time I’m tempted God will speak to me and give me the strength to get through it.

I’m an 18 year old woman who struggles with masturbation…
I’ve never told anyone, even typing this is difficult for me, but I need support.
I love God with all my heart and have been struggling with this guilt for 5 years. It frustrates me so much. I can go for a long time without committing this sin, but then I crash one day and feel horrible.
I feel desperate. I long for a husband, I long for a pure sexual relationship. I’ve never had any sexual relations with anyone… only myself. I feel disgusting by saying that. I feel mad at myself.
I hate being human. I want to honor God and live for Him. He has my everything, I’ve been baptized, my life is in His hands. So why do I still struggle??? It’s maddening.

God, forgive me.

The posting on February 14th, 2011 at 3:56 pm says it all. After reading most of the other posts I just couldn’t find the right answer to my situation. I have struggled with this subject ever sine my wife of 40 years decided that she did not want sex in our lives anymore. Being an elderly Christian man I decided that going out and finding sex elsewhere just wasn’t the thing to do so I turned to masturbation. After masturbating I always felt guilty like I was cheating on my wife. Now after reading this post, doing some real soul searching, and praying about the subject, I feel my quilt is gone and God understands that what I am doing is okay. Thank you to God and the poster for helping me with my problem.

Im not sure if this has been mentioned yet or not. But there are God-given herbs out there that can be taken to balance out the hormones when one is feeling exrtremely aroused sexually. Licorice Root being one of my favorites, works everytime for me. A chinese herb Dong Qaui is another.

Just search online for anaphrodisac/antiaphrodisiac herbs.

Masturbation, not mentioned in the bible…this is so confusing. most times i wonder why God decides to be dormant about such an issue that is eating almost every christian youth up. well, after masturbation guilt struck, this is the reason why we must avoid it as christians

In my opinion, masturbation is OK. However, not in EVERY circumstance. I’ll explain. God wants us to save our virvinity for that special someone with whom we want to spend the rest of our lives. Still, it is a constant struggle, and every Christian person will agree with me, staying pure. This is because we are HUMAN and have HUMAN NEEDS. Anatomically speaking, masturbation is a necessity. Just like you when eat when feeling hungry, you respond to your sexual urges when they arise. AND THAT’S OK, as long as you DON’T have perverse thoughts while doing it. Now this, you must be thinking, is the hard part… and it is! Personally, it is hard for me to do it without thinking of my boyfriend, but I HAVE done it without doing so. Just try to think of it as a physical necessity, rather than something forbidden by God. God gave us this body, and He wants us to keep it as “neat and tidy” as possible for marriage. However, you would agree with me in that no matter how hard you try to abstent from masturbating, sexual impulses will arise very often. This is how our body works. This is supposed to happen, because this is how God created us. The problem is that there is a very thin line between what is sexual immorality and what is not. I believe that as long as you do it just for the sake of satisfying that physical need which WILL NOT LEAVE (no matter how hard you try of keeping it away from your mind), God will not be angry at us. But, if you watch pornography while doing it, have someone else to do it for you or have “nasty” thoughts when doing it, you ARE commiting sexual immorality. “What difference can it make? Masturbation is masturbation.” you might be asking yourself. Oh, a big one. Having mutual masturbation with a partner is sin, in my opinion, because you two are OBVIOUSLY engaging in sex-like actions and sex-like THOUGHTS. Therefore, you are doing it out of lust, not necessity. In porn’s case, it is simple seeing why it is a sin. First of all, the act of making porn is morally wrong. Two, three and sometimes even more people fornicating on camera for money and/or pure fun? I mean come on. Also, watching it is TOO morally wrong. Why? You are supporting it by watching it! If you think it is wrong (the porn industry), then why would you give in to porn and, worse, masturbate to it?
Again, my friends, there is a fine line between what is right and what is wrong. I do not believe God thinks of us as sinners for masturbating. Doing it in excess and doing it in the circumstances explained above, is what could be considered sin. Let me provide another example to prove my point. Eating is a necessity. Eating in excess is gluttony, and gluttony is a sin (Phillippians 3:19). The same goes for masturbation. You cannot and will not EVER be able to control your bodily needs. HOW you respond to those needs is the essential question, and only YOU have the answer to it.
P.S. Praying can help a lot when struggling with this. In my case, I pray to God for clean thoughts. Also, when being in “that” situation and I’m having unpure thoughts, I try to think of God, and I swear that it’s an instant turn off because I imagine him going “tsk tsk”. Just some advice. Good luck!

Here’s my problem – I have been struggling with this problem for years and simply, I don’t want it anymore. I have bought porn, went to websites, paid and saw girls perform live acts online. It deeply disturb me and I have had enough. I don’t want it anymore! It’s killing me! There were days when I should have brought food for myself and stuff I needed for my life. What did I do? I bought porn! I hate myself and I beg God for his forgiveness,

I have kissed a girl, however, I have never dated a woman. I wait for my future wife that God has promised me. He has promised me many things and I know they are definite. However, this promise for a girlfriend-to-wife was made when I was in the eighth grade. That has been over a decade. The wait is killing my soul. All I wanted was happiness from God in the form of a woman ever since I was a boy. Today, I am still that boy begging God for his one and only. God loves me and I love him so much, I just need him to come through for me before it’s too late,

And to those who say theres nothing wrong. I bet you feel ashamed knowing, that your spouse doesnt please you anymore coz you masturbate. You feel ashamed that you dont have a man. You feel ashamed that the causes could be from the pain of lonliness and rejection you faced as a child.
I could go on and on, but masturbation evokes shame and low self esteem even subconsciously. Dont act like you dont know.

I just want to tell you all there is HOPE! JESUS, He is so AWESOME- God is good! I had that issue as a child & fought w/it into my 30’s. Through the help of the holy spirit By the time I started reaching that age, HE DELIVERED ME! I have been free, it is an awesome feeling! The enemy will try & attack in the sleep-dream state, BUT GOD is stronger-YOU CAN OVERCOME-But only thru HIM! Keep searching, keep loving Jesus, do focus on HIS word, HE IS JUST & RIGHTEOUS in ALL HIS ways! Know that what you struggle with, HE knnows & HE wants you FREE! HE WILL SET you FREE! I am living proof of that! There is nothing I hate more since 29-30yrs. of age than porn. When the enemy comes in like a flood- The LORD says I shall RAISE up a standard against him. Keep up the GOOD fight of faith, keep on loving Jesus, HE knows what is in your heart, PRAISE HIM for the deliverance, whether your circumstances-symptoms show different, JUST KEEP ON THANKING HIM PRAISING & before you know it you will be FREE in HIM! I have been free for 11 yrs. You can be too, there is HOPE in HIM! The Psalms helped me in many ways as I prayed day & night for freedom. I wrote to God about the monkey I could feel on my back, HE answered thru HIS word & SPIRIT. So each of you hang in there, FREEDOM DOES COME, & when you see That FREEDOM don’t ALLOW ANY possible doors to open @ all, embrace that FREEDOM which HE freely GAVE. This would have been difficult to write long ago, because I understand judging, trust me……..& it kept me in fear of a walking living breathing AWESOME testimony GOD gave me FREELY thru JESUS……I don’t live there anymore. It feels so good, to say “NO, I HATE porn & masturbation & DO NOT please myself, for it is not GODLY.” In the world you have to also stand up & state your life for JESUS, I do not fear the convo anymore, I enjoy telling others when they ask or talk about it. Many will also tell you it is alright, no it is not. When you are TRULY saved you know when conviction hits you, or you wouldn’t be here asking for answers, seeking freedom..Conviction is GOOD, it is a way for us to know that GOD is there! When you do not feel that conviction for what you are doing that is wrong in Gods eyes– IS when you should ask yourself some tough questions about your faith in HIM. God Bless & Know that HE is ABLE & HE IS THERE-HE hears the cries of HIS children & HE DOES ANSWER! Love in Christ Jesus Our Lord & Saviour!

When I was 16, I was an impressionable, credulous teenager who was lonely. I was taken in by a Church near to my home who introduced me to the Bible and to Jesus. They taught me the doctrine of hell, and the idea that if I became born again, I would be saved from it. A sign that I was reborn, I was told, was that I would no longer feel the need to masturbate.
By now, my hormones were raging. I would pray, in my terror of hell, that Jesus would deliver me from masturbation, but the urges persisted with a vengeance. I attempted to suppress those urges with pain by mutilating my arms with a razor blade, but it was futile. I lost sleep at night thinking that if the urges were still there, that meant I wasn’t ‘born again’ and so I was bound for hell. I wanted to commit suicide but was afraid of doing so for fear of going straight to a place of eternal torture. I petitioned God to reach back in time and prevent me from ever being conceived so that I would never have existed in the first place.
Ultimately, I suffered a nervous breakdown at the age of 17.
When are you going to stop doing this to yourselves and others? Masturbation is a response to involuntary hormonal activity and carries with it so many health benefits. I no longer believe that this god even exists, but clearly you do. I have studied the Bible in depth, and discovered a truly horrific deity – one who sanctions slavery, torture, infanticide, genocide, rape, animal cruelty and torturing people eternally simply for daring to disagree with him. And yet you say he is a god of UNCONDITIONAL love? Ask yourselves, even if you are merely trying to avoid ‘hell,’ – why would you want to spend eternity with this cruel entity?

On the issue of Matthew 5:28, (I feel you have a right to at least know this, because your pastors certainly won’t tell you!) this passage is often quoted as the endorsement of criminalizing sexual thoughts, but in its historical context, it is actually a re-iteration of the tenth commandment (Exodus 20:17) – do not covet your neighbour’s property (his wife – included among land, oxen, maid-servant, slave and any other chattel.) The word ‘lustfully’ as it appears in Matthew 5:28 is actually a fraudulent mistranslation found in more recent editions of the Bible. The passage is actually referring to ancient Jewish proprietary rights and the objectification of women and has no relevance to twenty-first century teenagers masturbating to pornography. In our civilization, we no longer view women as property, just as we don’t accept slavery as moral (as Jesus apparently did: Colossians 3:22.)

I implore you all – leave the Bronze Age behind and find the power of reason.

@P.D.
“And yet you say he is a god of UNCONDITIONAL love? Ask yourselves, even if you are merely trying to avoid ‘hell,’ – why would you want to spend eternity with this cruel entity?”

Reading your comment, it is clear that despite what you were told by your church, you never knew Him. The picture you paint is one-sided and false: you plainly have not “studied the Bible in depth”.

I suggest that you repent humbly and ask His forgiveness — if your repentance is genuine, He will not turn you away. …And neither will He magically remove your sexual desires (if indeed that is what your church told you).

Thank you for inviting me to speak my mind.
When I was 16, I was an impressionable, credulous teenager who was lonely. I was taken in by a Church near to my home who introduced me to the Bible and to Jesus. They taught me the doctrine of hell, and the idea that if I became born again, I would be saved from it. A sign that I was reborn, I was told, was that I would no longer feel the need to masturbate.
By now, my hormones were raging. I would pray, in my terror of hell, that Jesus would deliver me from masturbation, but the urges persisted with a vengeance. I attempted to suppress those urges with pain by mutilating my arms with a razor blade, but it was futile. I lost sleep at night thinking that if the urges were still there, that meant I wasn’t ‘born again’ and so I was bound for hell. I wanted to commit suicide but was afraid of doing so for fear of going straight to a place of eternal torture. I petitioned God to reach back in time and prevent me from ever being conceived so that I would never have existed in the first place.
Ultimately, I suffered a nervous breakdown at the age of 17.
When are you going to stop doing this to yourselves and others? Masturbation is a response to involuntary hormonal activity and carries with it so many health benefits. I no longer believe that this god even exists, but clearly you do. I have studied the Bible in depth, and discovered a truly horrific deity – one who sanctions slavery, torture, infanticide, genocide, rape, animal cruelty and torturing people eternally simply for daring to disagree with him. And yet you say he is a god of UNCONDITIONAL love? Ask yourselves, even if you are merely trying to avoid ‘hell,’ – why would you want to spend eternity with this cruel entity?

On the issue of Matthew 5:28, (I feel you have a right to at least know this, because your pastors certainly won’t tell you!) this passage is often quoted as the endorsement of criminalizing sexual thoughts, but in its historical context, it is actually a re-iteration of the tenth commandment (Exodus 20:17) – do not covet your neighbour’s property (his wife – included among land, oxen, maid-servant, slave and any other chattel.) The word ‘lustfully’ as it appears in Matthew 5:28 is actually a fraudulent mistranslation found in more recent editions of the Bible. The passage is actually referring to ancient Jewish proprietary rights and the objectification of women and has no relevance to twenty-first century teenagers masturbating to pornography. In our civilization, we no longer view women as property, just as we don’t accept slavery as moral (as Jesus apparently did: Colossians 3:22.)

I implore you all – leave the Bronze Age behind and find the power of reason.

Masturbation is tuff to quite. Porn, hjs from somebody and lust r sins. It is a bad habit. And I’d be lying if I said I never struggled. I’m just saying it is better than burning with lust. Take care of it in a healthy way an it isn’t wrong in of itself.

Hi. I am very confused by the answers on there that say it’s ok to masturbate as long as you don’t have lustful or perverted thoughts. Firstly, how on earth is this possible, as by nature sexual desire if not a pure desire out of love for another person, is lust…in other words, to have pure and holy sex it must be only out of love for your spouse. What do people class as lustful or perverted thoughts? One person’s perverted is another persons normal. But the lustful thoughts thing… I’ve read this before in an article by Nicky Gumbel of the Alpha course… I just don’t understand how on earth you are supposed to masturbute without having lustful thoughts. It’s those thoughts which make you feel that way… we are programmed as men and women to have physical desires towards the opposite sex (unless yo are gay and I’m not going into that here), to desire their bodies and sexual organs, and getting “horny” happens quite spontaneously and those desires come into your mind…probably with vivid imagery, but depending on how imaginative you are as a person. There are certain times I just can’t stop thinking about sex and the opposite sex. I wouldnm’t even feel those desires normally without those thoughts happening first… though sometimes sexual feelings can arise from other things, but the thoughts and feelings go hand in hand… otherwise what are we feeling sexy about anyway? Sexual desire comes from a basic desire to have sex… masturbation is the way of expressing this when on your own and not having a spouse to do so with (not that the spouse would necessarily always want to do it when you do either… marriage is about two people who have their own minds…) Anyway, I am a Christian who struggles with knowing if it is a sin or not. I’m not married and not likely to be so, fed up with having to feel guilty all the time.

MASTURBATION Is NOT A sin in the Bible.
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Masturbation is clearly described in the Bible in Lev 15:16-20 and clearly NO SIN OFFERING IS REQUIRED.

Meaning under the most strictest ceremonial Law in the Bible, Masturbation is clearly NOT a sin at all. That would also include the normal loving sexual fantasies that go along with sexual enjoyment.

No other Bible verses in all the Bible descride masturbation and clearly show it is NOT a sin of any kind but it clearly a wonderful gift of God for all to enjoy with over 50 benefits.

Leviticus 15:16 – 18 is the only piece of scripture that relates to masturbation/act of sexual self stimulation which specifically target male practioners only! Males who had an emission whenever by sexual intercourse or self-stimulation must bathe in water/get a wash-up & be unclean until nightfall which includes every clothing, animal hide accessories, and/or the female he had sex with.

Leviticus 15:16 – 18
“And if any man’s seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the even. And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water, and be unclean until the even. The woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of copulation, they shall both bathe themselves in water, and be unclean until the even.”

Note: Leviticus 15:16 – 18 never ever talked to women sexually self-stimulating themselves, Pissing, emission of feces, and usage of sex toy usage whatsoever at all!

Overall, These verses does not (I repeat “does not”) constitute cumming/ejaculating on sexual genitelia and any part of the body rather than inside the uterus, masturbation/sexual self stimulation, and mental thinking of sexual fantasies as a wicked act towards the Most High which is punishable by death, a sinful act that is heavily discouraged, or requires a sin offering.

BTW: Ejaculation outside the female uterus, in the contextual way of me saying this phrase, is “Facial”, “Ejaculation on the body”, “Ejaculation in mouth”, “Anal Creampie”, and so on.

To direct Lev 15:16 – 18 to say that ejaculation outside the female uterus along with mental sexual fantasies and/or ejaculation outside the female uterus is a sin = Violation of The 10 commandments of God on 9th commandment “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour” by doing the wicked act talked about in Deuteronomy 4:2!

The condemnation upon sexual self-stimulation, ejaculation outside the female uterus, and sexual fantasizing is not only 100% wrong & 100% based on deception, but within the realm of “borderline psychotic”!

Genesis 38:8 – 10 is where people get the wrong idea on Masturbation/Sexual self-stimulation! On the opposite:

Genesis 38:8 – 10 is Onan not honoring his father’s wishes which Exodus 20:12, Exodus 21:15, Exodus 21:17, Leviticus 19:3, Leviticus 20:9, and Deuteronomy 27:16 is more than enough evidence to show how dishonoring and/or rebelling your father or mother is a crime worthy of death.

PS (to nail the point accurately):

Unclean said in Lev 15:16 – 18 is Strong’s H2930 – tame’ which defines uncleanness in either in the sexual sense, religious sense, or ceremonial sense.

In the case of Lev 15:16 – 18, semenial ejaculation made the man “unclean” in the ceremonial sense where he can’t enter into the tabernacle of the Most High/God as the same with…

-Women who give birth to children (Lev 12:1 – 8)
– People afflicted with leprosy (Lev 13)
– A Leper (Lev 14:1 – 57)
– A man that had a running issue out of his flesh (Lev 15:1 – 15)
– A Woman in her menstrual period (Lev 15:19 – 30)
– A person who ate meat of an clean animal (Lev 11) either died by itself prior to being eaten or consumed by carnivorous animals (Lev 17:15)
– A Person who ate or touch the carcass of any unclean animal (Lev 11)
– Anyone from the sons of Aaron who has a blemish, has blindness or lame [check lameness in wikipedia or lameness in humans], multilated face, a limb too long, a broken hand or foot, crookbackt/hunchback, a dwarf/midget, a defect in his sight, have an itching disease, scabs, or crushed testicles (Lev 21:16 – 24)

To avoid being executed for trepassing into The Most High’s Tabernacle while in the uncleaniness state (as stated above) described by Leviticus 15:31!

hi,im 37 thanx for this page im one of those who goes for sometime and be sure that ive overcomed yet the same feeling comes back.sometimes i have to watch the porno.i know is wrong but hard to get my mind out of it.but after i become so worried and confused.its hard to pray with this guilty feeling.im praying hard but i cant be sure that is done while still single.but God is great lets keepon praying with confesion

Mastrubation is clearly a sin.
The sexual act can only be practiced within a husband-wife relationship, as a covenantal act of love and unity. There is a unhealthy spiritual connection to yourself and to different unseen evil spirits, as well as to the person you imagine while commiting the sin.
I was addicted to it, as a man who grew up without a mother. I wanted to get what I was lacking and overcome women, to take vengance on my mother. It became a fleshly desire, and you feel free to have authority over any woman you wish, mentaly. Today I am free of that sin, my life has become holy, I feel steonger in the Lord and His anointing is stronger over me. And my mom, she is with the Lord today too.
It might cost you some dedication and overcoming power, just like being freed from any other addiction, but with the Lord Yeshua it is possible. Set your priorities.
Get married and have a wonerful life in Jesus. Be healthy spiritually and physically, you have to die to your flesh though, that’s also your cross.
If you will have children, may they not say Daddy or Mommy touches himself or herself. There is holyness, pursuit it in Jesus.
Supporting mastrubation is a bad act dear author of this article. You might cause long-term damage on the people, whether knowingly, or unknowingly. We believers should stop watering down the truth of the Gospel of freedom in Jesus. Let’s stay awaike and totally leave the world with it’s ways and walk in God’s ways.

I think it’s a sin, because you can feel good after .it hurts you emotionally. you feel lonely more and you grief it . it’s also an anger feeling of why you don’t have a loved one in your life and a complaining attitude to God so it affect your relationship with God. Sin is any thing harm you. And when Bible says you can control your body ,you should obey God . God’s words stays the same always.

I have prayed about this and asked the Holy Spirit. Im a woman who husband keft me young with our child. I have masterbated off and on for years. I can do it without thinking lustful thought with my toy. I dont think of anyone. I have hormones problems taking meds to get hormones with the change of life. Now i wish to have a husband but dint. I prayed for a husband but im getting older mid 50s. My x left and cheated. I was a virgin before marriage. Holy spirit told me it is ok. I have no guilt about it. I do not watch porn. I do not think about any person. I look at it like a massage. Now i also think if i dont know how to make myself feel relaxed how will a husband when i finally get married know how to make me feel good. When your married your husband owns your body. But when your single the Lord and you own that body. There are endorphins release in your body and this is healthy for your body. Married people in loving relationship tend to live longer. So no i believe it is not a sin and can be done without lusting. Ernest Angely a miracle minister after losing his wife said its not a sin and he masterbated. and Pat Roberson 700 club i heard him on his program say no masterbation is not a sin.

First I would like to point out that English is not my mother tongue. So please understand that I eventually use one or the other vacabulary/expression which may not be quite appropriate.

I am German, 48 years old and just got separated. I also struggeld with masturbation before marriage and I am struggling again with it after the seperation. Going through almost every comment on this website it seems like there are two parties – the ones who are practicing it with feeling guilty afterwards and the ones who hold up the Bible telling (proclaiming) that it is sin.

However, what I actually miss (dispite some rare exceptions along the comments) is a true and thorough discussion about the root cause of masturbation. I think that if it is possible to figure out the real motivation for masturbation or the leck of strength to withstand masturbation one is much closer to handle with it in an appropriate way.

By the way: in my understanding most of the Bible quotes listed above by editor of this blog are completely taken out of context and therefore can lead to one-sided understanding of the topic. But this is just my opinion.

I have discovered that lonliness is one major factor when it comes to masturbation. For sure it is not the only root cause. The reasons for lonliness are a different story again. I don’t know what it is like for females, but for males in particular lonliness very often is compensated by sexual intercourse if a partner is “available” simply because the intercourse is the most intense and closest feeling/perception of being NOT lonely. So if there is no partner or no intercourse is practiced because the relationship is in troubled waters for a long time the temptation to masturbate increases significantly.

So to me the question actually is not: Is masturbation sin? The question should be: What is the root cause of masturbation (here: lonliness) and do we deal with it in an appropriate way which is blessed by God? At the end of the day it is also not a question if we sin or not. The question is how we deal with it. I strongly vote for pushing the curtain of masturbation to the side and try to look what is behind. This could be a good explanation why the Bible is silent about masturbation because God knows that the actual problem is of a different kind.

How do I deal with it? I am about to learn that everytime when I feel lonely to remind myself of Jesus’ promises that he is always with me. Every second of my life. And his love and his grace is everything I need (2. Corint. 12, 9). This doesn’t necessarily stop my body from producing hormones, but it helps to reset my mindset. And every action I do starts in my mind (heart).

And if it comes to argue somehow in a “biblical way” why we shouldn’t masturbate or if it is ok nevertheless I would like to highlight 1. Corinth. 10, 31. Everyone can judge by him-/herself if he/she praises God by masturbating or not. And the answer to this question is maybe not so straight forward as one might think. I found out that it is possible to masturbate without having any woman in my mind’s eye. What if it was possible to masturbate and to thank God through this because one reminds him-/herself that God has created us with this great gift to experience sexual excitement? Very provocative, isn’t it?

Don’t get me wrong. I rather tend to say for myself that masturbating is something I shouln’t do. However, I don’t judge anyone who is practicing it and maybe even enjoys it.

@Oasis Singles
Thanks for your feedback. Yes, I live in Germany.
One other reason for masturbation which strikes my mind at this moment is revenge. Revenge in the meaning of if your former partner is in a new relationship and enjoys sexual intercourse then you may say to yourself: “Ok, he/she has sex. I also want to have it. Since I don’t have a partner I do it to myself. He/she betrays me with a new partner. I betray him/her.”
I know that revenge is not really the word which describes this precise enough, but I think it is close. This has also the tast of missing out something which could be regarded as a single cause also.
Then I also agree with the aspect of pure biological reasons for practicing masturbation. The male’s prostate doesn’t stop working only because there is no female around. Every now and then it needs to be emptied. Period. Females can’t control their menstruation either.
Now, this comparison may lack of some logic. I know. Females don’t provoke(!) their menstruation. However, males don’t necessarily provoke a stiffy either. Particularly during nighttime in some “certain” dreams it just happens. What I want to say is that there is kind of biological caused pressure which needs to be released.