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Christian Singles: Making Peace With Your Past

Many Christian singles can’t get over the past. Several years back, I went on a Christian singles retreat, where the topic at hand was making peace with your past. Christian single after Christian single shared their sad stories of how a bad past experience, a soured relationship or a sexual sin had held them back from living victoriously in the present. Although many Christian singles there that weekend desired a serious dating relationship leading toward a Christian marriage, few were…

Christian Marriage:How Singles See It

I officiated an awesome Christian marriage ceremony this past weekend during National Singles Week. How ironic! Many attendees were Christian singles who were also looking forward to their own Christian marriages someday. I suppose that’s a good thing since God sanctioned marriage from the very beginning: “For this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and join to his wife, and the two become one flesh.” But I guess what really bothers me is that many Christians and…

Christian Singles, Singleness and Marriage

I meet so many Christian singles who have a distorted view of marriage and singleness. Somehow many singles have gotten it into their heads that marriage is THE biggest goal to achieve, while singleness is looked on as less desireable. Unfortunately, a lot of Christians’ thinking about singleness and marriage is reinforced by our church culture. For example, while the greatest missionary in history, the Apostle Paul, was single, many modern day mission boards and churches exclude ministerial candidates unless…

Christian Teens, Dating and Sex

Christian teens love dating and Myspace, and they also have sex just as frequently as their non-Christian teen friends. Ouch! Like salmon swimming against the current, Christians teens who are serious about Jesus are also in battle for spiritual survival. The bottom line here: Christian Teens struggle just like adult single Christians. Christian Teen Advice Lacking One of my friends who ministers to Christian Teen girls and boys recently lamented: “Christian teens are confused. They get preached to endlessly about…

Christian Matchmaker, Make Me a Match, and Soon

Friends tell me I’m a virtual Christian matchmaker service. No, I don’t offer the kind of Christian matchmaker services they have on the internet (although we do review them here). What I do is simply introduce Christian singles to one another in nonchalant ways. Here’s an example of what I do: “Susie, this is Johnny. Did I tell you that he lives right in your dorm, and plays the same instrument you do?” The rest usually takes care of itself.…

Sex Life of Christian Singles

John is a thirty-something Christian single whose sex life is a real mess! After just promising God through tears that he would clean up his sex life, and not have sex again with his Christian girlfriend, he ended up in the sack this past Saturday night for the umpteenth time. John is now depressed over his lack of sexual purity. He also knows his sex life is out of control, but doesn’t know where to turn. He is afraid others…

Anxiety Attacks and Being Single

Single people who suffer from anxiety attacks know how much it can affect their dating relationships and self-esteem. I should know because I used to suffer anxiety attacks for years myself. I remember one night being at the movies with my new date, when a terrible anxiety attack came over me. I started sweating, and my heart felt like it was jumping out of my chest. Because I was too embarrassed to let my date know what was going on,…

Sex as Intimate Communication

The Bible talks about four basic purposes of sex: procreation, recreation, release and intimate communication. Does it get any better than this? Regarding sex as intimate communication, our Bible verse of the day is found in Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Most Bible expositors teach that the “one flesh” spoken of in our verse means the amazing blending of body, spirit,…

Keeping Perspective as Christian Singles

Dear Brothers and Sisters: Since I usually write at least 3 Christian Singles articles a week, some of you may be wondering if I dropped off the face of the Earth. I haven’t. However, I was hospitalized with what doctors feared may have been liver cancer. I thank Jesus for having mercy on me, and for helping me regain perspective on what’s really important in life. Thought: As a single Christian seeking your soulmate, is your perspective Christ-centered or self-centered?…

An Online Christian Dating Wedding

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban got married this past weekend, but I chose to go to a best friend’s wedding instead. Margaret met Tom, her husband, through one of the online Christian dating sites we list on this site, and had a two year long distance dating relationship before tying the knot. It was the most unlikely of circumstances that these Christian singles even crossed paths online, but our God has a way of doing things like that. As I watched the…