When God doesn’t make sense to you because all your Christian single friends have met someone, but you have not, does your faith waver? As Christian singles, maybe it’s a Christian dating relationship that’s gone awry, or some other event in your life that’s got you thinking about “the why” of it all. Why did God allow this? What’s God’s plan? Where do I go from here?
Navigating the treacherous waters of singleness can often leave one feeling like a ship lost at sea. When days turn into years, and you’re still waiting for that special someone, it’s easy to feel frustrated, isolated, and overlooked. The big question for many of us is: “God, why haven’t I met the love of my life yet?” When our prayers seem to be met with silence, it’s natural to feel that God’s plans don’t always make sense.
God is Good and He Always Makes Sense
As I write this I am sitting in the pediatric intensive care unit waiting room of St. Peter’s Hospital. I have been visiting parents of very sick children, seeking to encourage them and uplift their spirits. Many of these parents (some of whom are Christian single parents) have been struggling trying to figure out what sense it makes that God is allowing their little ones to suffer. Hmmm. That’s a hard question to answer.
I use the term “visiting” loosely because I am also a patient at the hospital. This has been my fifth trip to the hospital in 2 months, and up until I met the parentsÂ of these poor little kids, I was wondering why God allowed me to come here again.Â These people, more unfortunate than myself, needed help, and for His own reasons, I was the instrument He wanted to use.
Now I just want to say one thing: You would never have found me ministering in this way because hospitals give me the creeps (some minister, right?), so God figured out some other way to get me here. In so doing, He has helped me get over my fear of hospitals in a mighty and powerful way while helping folks at the same time.
Whatever you are going through today as a single Christian woman or man, I want to say to you that God has a mighty and powerful plan for your life. Yes, it may be God’s ways just don’t make sense to us as we go through them, but his ultimate goals are always loving and good.
Sometimes God allows bad things to happen to us, to discipline and guide us onto a right and better path. Sometimes, it’s to make our faith in Him grow. Sometimes, like in my situation, He puts us in a fix for us to conquer our fears and help others in the process.
Ultimately, we may never know the “whys” of it all, but we can be assured of who it is that is leading us along the way. He is the Risen Saviour, our God, and King! Â Since He is the God who raises the dead, is anything too difficult for Him?
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God’s Timing vs. Our Timing
We live in a world driven by timelines and schedules. Our society emphasizes certain milestones, suggesting that by a specific age, we should have achieved particular goals: marriage, children, and a flourishing career. It’s easy to measure our worth by these standards. However, God operates outside of our human-conceived timelines. His focus isn’t on the ticking clock but on our growth, character, and ultimate purpose.
2 Peter 3:8 reminds us, “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord, a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.” This verse underscores that our perception of time and God’s can vastly differ. Our impatience and urgency might not align with His perfect plan.
Lessons in the Waiting on God
The pain and frustration of waiting can feel unbearable. Yet, the waiting season isn’t just a long corridor with a closed door at the end. It’s a journey filled with lessons, growth, and self-discovery.
Being single can be a gift, offering an invaluable time to build a solid foundation in your relationship with God, cultivate self-love, and pursue passions that might be harder to focus on once married. This season also teaches patience, resilience, and trust — virtues that are essential for a successful marriage.
The Mystery of God’s Plan
It’s easy to misinterpret singleness as a sign that something’s wrong with us or that God has forgotten us. But consider Isaiah 55:8-9: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
God sees the complete picture – from our past, present, and into future. While we might desire something now, He might be saving us from a relationship that wouldn’t be beneficial in the long run. Trusting in God’s wisdom, even when it doesn’t align with our desires, is a testament to our faith.
Seeking Comfort and Guidance
It’s okay to pour out your frustrations to God. Like David in the Psalms, we can lay our raw emotions, doubts, and questions before Him. Surrounding ourselves with a supportive Christian community can also offer solace. Sharing our struggles, seeking counsel, and immersing ourselves in fellowship can bring a fresh perspective.
Embracing the Journey
It’s essential to live fully in the present rather than constantly yearning for the future. Dive into your passions, travel, volunteer, and embrace opportunities to grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you’re preparing for a relationship founded on mutual respect, understanding, and shared values.
Bible Verse of the Day
~ But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him, we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us,~ 2 Corinthians 1:9-10