How do you know when a guy is flirting with you? What’s his body language when flirting? Understanding body language flirting is essential for Christian singles.
What exactly is alpha male body language flirting? It’s basically a collection of all the nonverbal clues a guy (whether he be a Christian or not) gives out when he’s interested in a woman. Just to be clear, not all body language flirting is a conscious decision on the part of the single guy, but may in fact be a subconscious behavior.
Therefore, the more a woman knows how a guy flirts with body language, the greater her chances of picking up when a guy is actually interested in her. Of course, knowing how to tell when a guy is flirting is an important skill to have, especially if there is mutual attraction.
Top Body Language Flirting Signs
Of course, none of these body language flirting signs will be applicable if you are using an online site like Christian Mingle. But let’s say you’re at a Christian singles group gathering, and there are a bunch of cute guys (Hey, we can dream, right?) in the room. Here are some body language flirting signs to look for:
Body Language Flirting Sign #1: Smiling
When a guy flashes you those pearly whites, (well, we hope they’re white) that usually means he’s pleased to have you in his company. Just make sure he’s smiling at you, and not the girl behind you. Have you ever done that before?
Body Language Flirting Sign #2: Modeling
What? Well, behavioral scientists say when someone is body language flirting they subconsciously “model or line up” with the behavior of the person of interest. Examples here could be having their feet pointed in the same direction, crossing or uncrossing their legs, blinking, cracking knuckles, etc.
Body Language Flirting Sign #3: Making Frequent Eye Contact
Two simple points here: First, all guys (including Christian guys) are attracted by sight, and have a healthy appreciation for the female attributes, including a woman’s eyes, face, and figure. If a guy denies this fact, he’s a liar and probably not the kind of guy you want around anyway.
Secondly, the eyes often give away the heart’s intentions. There are different types of eye contact you should look out for, depending on the personality of the guy. If you have a sweet, shy guy on your hands, he may attempt to sneak a peek at you without you realizing it. Then when you turn in his direction, he may get red-faced, or quickly look in a different direction. The second kind of eye contact is the kind a guy with confidence and boldness will practice. He has no problem making extended eye-to-eye contact. Do you know the type?
Sign #4: Grooming Self
This sign includes doing such things as fixing collars, pulling up socks, and straightening ties. This is the male ego’s way of preparing himself for the hunt.
Body Language Flirting Sign #5: Strutting
The guy will stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out. Some single gals I know refer to this ritual as the “Peacock Strut”. Some girls out there are saying, “Yep, I’ve seen that before.”
Well, there you have our top five body language flirting hints that guys will do around girls they like. Being aware of these may help any Christian single girl who is in “the market” for a nice Christian guy.
One disclaimer here: If a guy exhibits only one or two body language hints, don’t jump to hasty conclusions. Make sure you interpret these cumulatively, not individually. Otherwise, you may misinterpret a man’s intentions, which could put you in an embarrassing situation.
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37 Comments
HonestGuy
Hi there. I have a body language flirting comment with regard to your point about “Eye Contact”. I believe that making eye contact is also a sign of respect and openness, even if I have no interest. i suppose there is a difference between “normal making eye contact” and “frequent eye contact”. Perhaps you could clarify this for our readers. My girlfriend sometimes thinks that when i make normal eye contact with strangers, especially with females, that i am body language flirting with them, and that is definitely not the case. Please help as i do not know how to explain this to her, as she always points me to websites like this and statements like yours about body language flirting could be doing damage to our relationship.
MarriedWoman
Honest Guy- In regard to flirting signs you are absolutely right that eye contact is a sign of respect. I work in the wedding business, and so interact with “young couples” regularly. I make a point of keeping an even amount of eye contact with BOTH the men and women, to make it very clear that my attention is theirs but my intentions are open and honest. The “eye contact” referred to in the article is definitely of a different kind (flirting signs) and you would know if you were participating in it. There is a very big difference between flirting and the other stuff that should be obvious to your girlfriend. If not, insecurity on her part is the issue.
mysterygirl
Ok so i have a question about body language flirting.. i have this psychotherapist, and I want to know if he is flirting with me and interested, because all my friends say he is and alot of the body language flirting signs point to yes. He’s always fixing his hair in front of me, looking at himself in the mirror, giving me late appointments when we’ll be the only two people left, making me laugh and always asking about my days and how work has been and always smiling. When i lay on my stomach and look in his direction he tilts his head and smiles and cracks little jokes about how “short” i am. Also, when he asks a question and i answer he leans in closer to listen and he remembers everything i tell him. He also laughs a lot about like almost every little joke i say even sometimes if its not meant to be a joke. Lately he’s been asking my weekends and what i’ll be doing for the weekend to come and whatnot. Also, when i do exercises for my back and neck, he shows me how to do them but by touching me; meaning that he’ll put his hands on my or hold them and touching my face. what does this mean?? HELP!
Curious
My husband is fully aware that a mutual friend “wants” him. He claims he has no interest but due to smoking ban, I often find him outside smoking alone with this female. Isn’t he feeding into her desire by being alone with her? WhenI go out they are giggling lie teenagers and then stop when they see me. Curious!
Rona davidson
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mary
hey,i have this guy he does a lot of these signs does that mean he likes me or just being mean….
i like this guy named jordand and he does #1 alot i mean every day but he is dating someone is that good….
Intrigued
Small question, strictly out of curiosity. there’s a boy who sits behind me in my pre-calc class. i think he’s flirting with me (i’m definitely flirting with him) but i’m not sure. he pokes me alot (i’m VERY ticklish) and seems to always be interested in talking to me. we joke around and there have been a few incidents that have left me puzzled.
He doesn’t do any of the things mentioned above (except for smiling and eye contact, but he’s a friendly guy) but my parents seem to think that he’s showing interest in me.
Any ideas?
-Intrigued
Alicia
I think that almost all guys are diffrent and a lot of guys look at me a lot and talk to me but i dont really proccess that it is flirting and so i dont flirt back. im kinda shy and there are a lot of girls at my school and they are way more straight forward than me so now they have the guys that originally all looked liked me i guess from your page. what should i do?
-confused
Alicia
i think that all guys are so hard to figure out
Jodi
Dear Alicia,
Everyone has a differernt idea about what flirting truly is. It can be very obvious or hardly noticable at all. When a guy talks to you, just try to have a natural conversation. See where it goes. I think that when sparks are there you will know it. You will automatically be more aware of your conversation, your body language. That is flirting! You don’t have to think about it, orchestrate it. If he makes you feel like smiling, give him your best smile. Let God shine through you and guys will see that. It is hard to resist when it is sincere.
God Bless,
Jodi
rika
I always have had such a hard time reading guys, they seem to be flirting holding eye contact for long ex. this guy emails alot , holds eye contact, very shy, fidgety when we are in a group always adjusting his clothes, but at same time emailing a friend of mine, not as much as to me……he always asks about her when she’s not with me , whats up with that?????????
Akina
there is this guy in my class that sometimes stares at me and then when i try to talk to him he act likes he doesn’t like me at all. like when we walk in the hall(not together) i walked up to him and asked him a HW question for math and after he answered he sped up like he was trying to get away from me. does he like me or not? and when we leave the lunch room he speeds up to get out when the bell rings. What is that?
Anitha
i like this guy who goes to my church but havent spoke to him. I did smile at him as a hint and he did catch it!! but when he comes to church he has this good smile and sits either infront of me or behind me. once he had one of his friend with him and said that i like him and so did he say the same to another guy too!! also the same day he made an eye contact with me if u wil take it that way!! bcause it was like he lookind at me directly so i guess it was an eye contact. but please tell me if he likes me or not thanxs
Lindsay Fless
Okay well i know this amazing guy and i really think he likes me is there any sure way to kno if he is planning on asking me out? he called me and when i asked him wut he was thinking about he said me…i was realy flattered and i really really really like him but i wonder he if he considers asking me out….when his friends say something about me being his gf he always says she is not my gf but is that because he dosnt want me to be or because it embarrasses him??
Lindsay Shaffer
There’s this guy who is 14. He has a girlfriend who is my best friends. He was flirting with me! I felt bad. He wanted to make his girlfriend jealous by touching my face. Then he touched my face and he was lik “I’m just saying but your face is REALLY soft. ” Im just lik okay??? then he wrote his name all over my arm. He even asked me to sit by him when we were eating at church! What I can’t believe is that he may lik me and I’m only 11(lots of ppl say I look mature for my age), and he know it!! He is trying to cover it up by dating I should date his friends. One of them asked me out. I’m like well would your other friend like me? Hes like I know he would. I’m like why? And he said. Ummmm wellllll he has this thing for blondes. ( sounding lik he knew he made a mistake).
Ok so any suggestions???
In your opinion, does he lik me?
Theotherwhitemeat
This dude seems WAY too open. Not to burst your bubble, but dudes generaly try to conceal affection. (I do!) Thos could mean that he’s using you. (or hes the perfect open minded person.) The last remark is a sad attempt to learn about the other girl. Definatly usin you. Sorry hon.
Miss Clueless
I am really confused about this guy… I really really like him. Lastnyt My bestie, Her Boyfriend (who is this guy’s bestfriend), Him and I went on a double date… When we met he’s bestfriend said that i looked very pretty… However this guy didnt even comment on me. But when we were walking he finally said that i looked really beautiful and he didnt comment coz evry1 was tellin me that i looked great… When we were in the cafe he suddenly gives me he’s bracelet and says “never say that i didnt give u anything” and Later when we were walkin he touched my sleeve for nthn n said that cute sleeve n he pulled he’s sleeves up… and when we were walkin past a flower shop he even took me in and asked me and my bestie to go out but my bestie didnt so we all came out… when i was walkin on the road he seem to guide me alot and said i dont look while i m walkin on the road and said he will cry if i died and later when we playin truth or dare, we were sitting alone and he held my hand at that moment i thought that he felt sumthing for me… But m really confused now because he wrote this on he’s fb status “i luv u! dont say i never said dat to u!” well alot of pple commented on it… i didnt coment coz i dnt want my heart to be broken… he’s cuz even knws who it is for and when a friend asked him who it is for he wrote “its not for evry1 its for “to whom it may concern”… I am really confused… please help me out :'(
confused -- irk but I like him
I met the most amazing guy that ever blew my mind last night due to alot of drama that I escaped from and a koolaid stained dress…. I was looking for napkins and suprise, suprise. I found him. We talked the rest of the night, everyone said I looked gorgeous and he shyly told me I looked pretty, and exchanged numbers and hugs. He texted me later that night saying he was very glad he met me tonight and that i looked beautiful…. and whenever we see each other it’s shy glances cause i’m shy and he’s shy. I’m thinking of making of move. But i’m scared…. help?!
I cant stop thinking about him…. and I try every oppurtunity to stop and talk to him. Should I ask him this weekend to go somewhere.. even though we just met? Although all my friends say he really likes me— I can’t read him and I don’t want to misinterpret him. I figured this weekend i’m going to tell him I feel something between us and if he takes it then I guess we’ll go from there. I want to be bold !
Lucky Man
Here’s my question:
I have a girlfriend currently, but there is this guy who keeps on flirting with her and I’m pretty sure he likes her.
I’ve caught him staring at her multiple times from across the room and when IWASN’T AT CHURCH LAST NIGHT, the first thing he did was walk across the way to talk to my girlfriend….am I just paranoid?
Or do you agree with me?
korrea
boys will like a girl for who the girl is really inside its true
love
i have some guy friends that flirt with me all the time so i know how it feels its just crazy!!!!!!!
Melissa
Ok, theres this guy at mu church, he’s been going the for about 3 months now but i know that he’s christian. i REALLY LIKE him, he’s on my homeschool football team that i cheer lead for and goes to my youth. and after youth all of us kida were playin lazor tag and hima nd another boy were team captains. Id never played lazor tag before and he knew i sucked at it. but he picked my first on his team anyway. and then right after i died he looked at me and was liek “..oh..well i died to its ok”. i really wanna know if he likes me or not, i just cant tell. he does alot of the stuff mentioned but i still dont know.and he talks to me all the time on FB when’s he’s bored adn stuff, even thought theres tons of other ppl he could talk to!! – helpp meee
Christine
Hi Melissa!
Keep talking to this guy, keep your conversations flowing. If he does like you, you wanna make him feel comfortable to ask you for a date.
Keep God in the center and pray about it. 🙂
IL Christian Guy
The list of 5 things is a pretty good Top 5 list, but there are lots of other ways to let someone know you like them.
I am in my late 20’s. In high school I was very shy and extended eye contact and smiling was the way I would let someone know I liked them. I would blush and get embraced if I did talk to a young woman I liked. Touching someone’s are or hair was also a way I would express my attraction. I would find excused to be around them or sit next to them in class. As I matured I became bolder with my expressions of attraction, but even then I would sometimes get tongue tied and be unable to express my feelings of attraction, not just being friendly.
Long story short, EVERY GUY IS DIFFERNT. Make sure he is a strong Christian and his beliefs are similar to yours. Be honest with each other. Spend time getting to know him, his friends and his family. PLEASE be careful of how you dress. We may be Christians but the temptations are strong. Dress elegant, attractively but also be conservative. I guarantee we will still think you are attractive without you having to show as much skin as you can. We are physically attracted to women, but a Christian guy will be looking for the woman inside as well. A pleasant smile, a great laugh and a positive attitude will go way farther in a relationship than a stunning dress.
Please wait till marriage. I know it is a very tough road, but a key to abstinence is to not put yourself in a situation where you will be too tempted. Set boundaries. Talk about it with each other and if you are afraid you will go too far or start down that path, STOP. Go on group dates and don’t get into bad situations. Use the resources available to you. Talk to your youth group leaders and college pastors if you need more help. They are there to assist you, they are there for you. If you have the same strong beliefs you can be romantic, share your emotions and some physical kissing and cuddling without it getting out of control.
To all the people wondering if someone is interested in you. ASK THEM. I know this is VERY VERY VERY hard at times. It has been hard for me all of my life, but it is better to know rather than wonder. I would advise talking to them about their faith, friends and family. You will get to know more about them from daily interactions and hearing stories about their life. Are you just attracted to them physically or is the person inside just as attractive? Ask them out to group events like bowling, mini golf or cookouts and see if you get along as well as you hope you will. This will sometimes lead to one of you asking the other one out on a date with just the two of us. Take your time and get to know them before you start seriously dating each other.
If you can’t bring yourself to ask them yourself send a trusted friend to ask probing questions and find out if they like you while also letting them know you like them. Write a letter, seriously. Write it down and handing it to them works, just keep it short and sweet, a page or less. No ten page letter…not at first at least. Be bold and give them your number, ask them for theirs and be sure to set up a time to talk within the next week. Ask him if he would like to join you and your friends for something.
Lindsay Fless and others: If you are hanging out and on the borderline of BF/GF and one of you says you are just friend… you may be. However, they may not be sure where that line is. They may want to cross it with you and start a relationship. Again, talk to them about it. Ask your church leaders for help. Talk to your friends. I would highly advise talk to a young couple at your church who are recently married or are in a long term relationship. They will be willing to help and God will make sure the right people are in your life to answer your questions. God Bless you in your search.
t.money
help me! there is this boy i like in my english class. he is a big flirt. i sit infront of him at lunch. he likes to just take something on my tray that i didn;t eat, put his hand on my hand. and if i sit beside him he pokes or tickles me. and if i c him in the hallway he likes to give me a hugg, now i know it sounds like he does like me ut he also flirts with other girls but mostly talks to me. so does he like me.
Jo.M
Too many guys (and girls) give the wrong impression about level of interest in someone and it sounds like the guy who is over other girls as well is plainly playing or just trying to fill a hole in his heart or pamper his ego so he feels better about himself.
guard your heart until you are truly ready for a steady commited relationship because flirting is really insincere and a way of trying to get someone to like you rather than expressing like for someone-there is a difference:)
Please don’t let yourself be caught up in what this guy is doing as it looks like he is also pushing some spacial and physical boundaries so put the fence up a little and only let the right guy get in at the right time:) all the best in life and love -from NZ
Anne
There is a guy that I really like that goes to my school. He is a christian and his desire to do what God wants in his life is so overwhelming its amazing! Not to mention he is super good looking. All in all he is the perfect guy. We have been hanging out a lot lately and he is always laughing at my jokes, looking at me from across the room, and calls me by my full name which no one else does. I have prayed about what to do and whether this is someone I should invest my heart in. I have liked guys before, but have told them no when they asked me out because they were either a). not a christian or b). I prayed about it and I felt the Lord telling me no. I I have an overwhelming peace about our relationship and feel like this is the person God wants me to be with. There’s only one problem: he is my brother’s room mate. My mom feels as though he may treat me different from every other girl because I am his room mates sister. Could this be true? I just get so many signals from him everytime I see him, but I don’t know that he would ever make the first move in the relationship becuase of the room mate situation. What should I do?
Char
So I have known this guy for about 8 months now and for the past 3 months we have been really close as friends and being honest with each other and making healthy boundaries with each other. But I have always been super attracted to him and he does all the signs you mentioned above, but he’s the kind of guy that hasnt dated and wont date unless there the one. Hes really careful with how he treats girls but has a lot of friends that are girls which doesnt bother me at all. But he is confusing sometimes, like he will hangout with me a lot and then maybe like 2 days go by with no texting or calling or hanging out. Sometimes he looks at me with his eyes and I feel like he likes me and wants more but he wont do anything about. Or sometimes he talks about his future girl friend in front of me and our friends and it makes me feel a little sad Im not gonna lie. He blesses me a lot and encourages me to be better and stretches me out of my comfort zone which I like but some of my friends dont approve of me liking him. He’s always making sure how my day was and talking to me about God and asking me what I think about certain things about God and life. He talks to me about his family but has never introduced me to them when they have visited him. One time he did something completely out of the normal, he put his hand on top of mine and asked if he was hot and I said he was lukewarm(trying to be funny) but he has never touched me like that. Normally hes very careful, cuz one time he accidently touched my leg for a second and flipped out and blushed. Im not sure If Im even making sense right now but Im just not sure what to do other than just give to God. Does anyone has any insight on this at all or can you give me some honesty on this please. Thank you!
Amanda Michelle
I really like this guy at My church we had a really long conversation about jesus and our faiths. He told me that I was a warrior and that the way I reach out to people is amazing. He also made the statement that he loves my love for christ and we talked about realationships..he said he’s shy when he likes a girl..he’s shy around me a lot..but I’m not sure if he likes me? I want to be in a relationship w him but how do I make it to a point that he knows I like him without making it pushy?
Zoe
Hi I’m 12 and I’ve known this guy since year 2 and were both n year 8 and I had a crush on him for 2 years but I can’t tell if he likes me back in maths he talks to me and looks into my eyes and sometimes on my bus he’s would look at me waited to I saw him looking at me then look away so does he Los me or not also last year he kept saying nice stuff to me
luv zoe
Anonymous
There is this guy in my school not the same class though who is really cute and super shy. He rarely talks to anyone and I’ve never seen him with any girl. But whenever we cross each other he always looks at me also, sometimes we exchange sweet glances. He sometimes also smiles at me. Does he like me? If so how can I approach him? We don’t have any common class and I’ve never talked to him. And I don’t want anyone to know about my crush. What to do? Please help!
Dan
Theirs more to life than flirting.
When confronted with a situation the mind reacts
, so when you say that a guy will stand up straight or shuffle
His feet when confronted, it’s no intention of his
Only his subconscious kicking in, because when
Confronted by a beautiful woman a guys last thoughts
Are self-conscious, he’s only reverting to his pay attention
And stare mode which comes naturally to men.
Even when you think were not listening we are.
Because all men really want is to know how
That beautiful, thoughtful, and dangerous deep thinking creature
called female maintains perfection.
steve
eye contact is no proof any one likes you they could just be being friendlyto rely on it soley is foolish the flesh in a christian veiw point is used of the eyes and lust which can be devilish , seek first gods kingdom and his will and do it if he wants you to be married im sure he will tell you and plant you together in the same ministry as he did with adam and eve he planted them in the garden he also said those who get married will have a lot of trouble are you ready for that.true love always gives lust wants god always punishes for fornication so hohour him keep yourself pure for the masters use if in doupt pray and fast and wait for gods perfect timing.
Garrett Grace
I’m 16 and I’m about to turn 17 and I’ve never been in a relationship in my life I really don’t think anyone has really been interested. And if they were I wouldn’t have noticed anyways. Unless they told me, I’m a really shy person around people I like, and I’m also unsociable. I really don’t know what to do when I’m around guys like that, my heart starts racing and the back of my throat hurts when he talks to me. which doesn’t happen much. I just feel like it’s silly to flirt, probly because I’ve never done it and I don’t know how.
Louise
I guy I work with is showing these body language flirting signs but how much does he want to be with me/fancy me etc??
He smiles everytime we talk, laughs and repeats things as he laughs at things I say, cracks his knuckles (which I hate) and when I cringed, he laughed and cracked his wrists, knees and neck. He was speaking to the other girls the other evening and I was out of sight but in earshot, as he left he turnedaround and smiled at me when he went out the door. He also seems to only talk to me at lunchtimes even though others are around but not much but better than nothing. He has started stroking his chin when I’m there but not looking at me, he doesn’t move if I lean in to him and he always seems happy if I’m working with him, even though another girl has worked with him and said he wasn’t that happy. Please can you email me with a verdict as my website is playing up, thanks
Kareen
Well, there’s this wonderful man that is 40 and I’m 43. I think he likes me, but I’m not sure. For starts we are both ministers and we always end up sitting next to each other at church or communion. I don’t care where or when we always sit next to each other. We were at a singles outing and he came over and began to talk to us, but was very focused towards me he came over and butted in on the conversation and was asking me questions about my kids and he kept putting his hand on my shoulders, it was so endearing. One day after church was over he came up to me to say hello, he hugged me really tight and kissed me on the cheek. When I looked to see if he kissed anyone else I noticed that he didn’t kiss anyone else. He always huggs me and ask me if i’m ok. Now he has 3 kids and I do too, but I don’t care that he has kids…I am so interested in him, but he wont tell me if he’s interested in me or not. I just wanna know if you think he likes me I can’t tell, but all the signs are there!
Katrina
Hi guys, I want to ask some questions pretty much unrelated to this post. Please let me say first that I mean no disrespect, and mean merely to shed some lights on things (for myself also). I am NOT trolling, and I’m certainly not asking these questions in vain.
So here goes.
1) Is the system of Christian dating “services” supported by the Bible? I know many verses can be seen in different interpretive lights, but what is your take on it? Can I have some verses to show your opinion?
2) What is your definition of a “good Christian guy/girl”? What does this mean? Does he have a close relationship with Christ, and is that all that is meant by it? What if his words are not followed by his actions? What if he has the perfect, shining example of a great Christian guy (working for Global Missions Outreach, cute, smart, funny) and spends late nights up looking at porn? In other words, my brother–as well as several other guys who I’ve had deeper talks with. (Background: I am a straight girl in college, and I grew up in as conservative Christian society as you can get. Christian camp, constant Church monetary/time/effort contributions and several missions trips. It could be argued that from the outside, I am the perfect model of a good Christian girl.) Essentially, by this question I’m asking: what makes a good Christian guy/girl in your opinion, and how is that supported Biblically?
3) Why does this website sound so much like a high school locker room? “If you can’t bring yourself to ask them yourself send a trusted friend to ask probing questions and find out if they like you while also letting them know you like them”? What message is that sending to the questioner? What is that saying about the writer?
Please don’t tell me I will burn in hell. The robber beside Jesus was “morally” a worse person than me, although in real terms, we have “all sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”