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Christian Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys

Most Christian single women and men we surveyed feel that many girls seem to prefer to date “bad guys”. Yup, hands down most single girls (Christians included) would rather date Jack Sparrow, the pirate, than Richie Cunningham, the Happy Days all-around good guy. One depressed single Christian guy (I’m assuming he’s a good one) lamented: “I just don’t get it. Here I am, a sensitive, passionate Christian with a caring heart and a good job, but I can’t find a…
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Love-Shy Singles: How to Overcome Shyness

Are you one of those love-shy singles who doesn’t date because you’re timid? Wish you knew how to overcome shyness? If you do, don’t be bashful about it because you’re in good company. According to Dr. Phillip Zimbardo, a Stanford psychologist, nearly 40% of singles are shy about asking someone out on a date. Love-Shy Singles Description A single person who is shy is often anxious (some have even been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder) or uneasy around the opposite…
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Failed Relationship Advice

When a relationship has failed the first time and you both decide to try again, prepared for some hard work. A number of things can cause Christian marriages to fail, such as infidelity or dishonesty in all forms. But there are times when a couple feels that the relationship deserves a second try or third, fourth and so forth. Failed Relationship Advice The second time around is definitely not going to be like the first time. Your partner can say…

Sex Lessons for Christian Singles

Not what you expected? The following “sex lessons” for singles was submitted by John, a Sunday School teacher of 20-somenting singles: Hi! I am a Sunday school teacher and I teach the age group 19-25 currently I am teaching sex lessons on how to resist the lure of sexual sin. You know God is totally awesome! He created everyone of us with a sex drive  with sexual feelings and he knows the struggles and sexual temptations we face everyday whether…

Married Dating-Avoiding the Trap

The following article on married dating was written by an anonymous Christian single woman who got caught up in the trap of dating a married guy. Although she knew the warning signs of how to tell she was dating a married guy, she shares this here as a warning for those tempted with a married dating relationship: Last year, I was applying for a job and sent my resume to different consultants. I was excited to see a website by…

Christian Dating Guy Sounds Off

The following article is from Eric, a Christian single and one of our Christian Dating Service PLUS! readers addressing why nice Christian single guys have such a hard time finding a nice Christian girl. Respond as you wish: Though I feel that what I have to say might be taken as offensive, especially to those of you who were given the gift of being a female, I hope to offer it as perhaps a different take on this issue. My…

Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women

The following article, Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women, was written by a single Christian woman who is also a mental health professional. The writer thought it important that single Christian men, in their fight against lust and quest for sexual purity in dating relationships, understand how the sexual feelings of Christian single women work: I just want to say to all the Christian men who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do –…

How to Be a Sensible Fool in Love

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love means never having to say you’re sorry unless you don’t heed the advice you are about to read. Don’t be a fool in love!  My friend David runs this site and I asked him if I could pen (who pens anymore in the age of computers?) an article for his readers. Fool in Love Advice In my professional life in the court system, I have observed these 10 truisms many times over the…

Christian Singles Groups and Singles

There are Christian singles groups (although not enough) scattered all over the place. Yet, most Christian singles groups are not making a positive impact on the lives of Christian singles Since we believe singles groups have great potential to minister to singles, one of the goals of Christian Dating Service PLUS! is to help connect folks locally with a singles group. Unfortunately, more and more single Christians report that they are simply bypassing the Christian singles group route entirely. Why…

Dealing With Guilt as a Single Christian

Many single Christians have told us that dealing with guilt is one of the biggest drains on their personal relationships, self-esteem and spiritual lives. The bottom line is that inappropriately dealing with guilt can destroy our lives and those around us. Top Areas Where We Are Dealing With Guilt Dealing with guilt as a single person can come from many different areas of our lives. Dealing with Guilt in our Dating Relationships This is a biggie. Many Christians walk around…

Any Good Books Out There Besides the Good Book?

When you are out there in the dating world, one of the hardest things to do is strike up a conversation with a date. What do you talk about? Is there anything you have in common? If you are a Christian single, you know that you have your love for the Lord and a yearning to find someone to share your walk of life and faith. One topic you might want to talk about is books that you have read…

Black Christian Singles Dating Unbelievers

The following is a Black Christian Singles sound off from a Black Single Christian girl who opts in on the topic of Black Christian singles dating unbelievers. Note that her view does not reflect the view of Christian Dating Service Plus: Honestly, I don’t understand why Black Single Christians would NOT date non-Christians, especially with the low pool of single black Christians in the church today. I also really can’t believe God would say not to date a nonbeliever. I…

Signs of Cheating in a Relationship

The following is not really about signs of cheating in a relationship, but rather the story of one of our Christian single women readers sharing her heartbreak on finding signs of cheating in her relationship. She also offers some some relationship advice when you find signs of cheating in a relationship. Hi All: My name is Ashley, and I would just like to share a glimpse of my story to encourage you all. I am 20 (married at 19) to…

Meet Christian Singles

Many singles want to meet Christian singles of the opposite sex for a relationship leading toward marriage. In fact several have written us for advice on how they can meet Christian singles in their own local area. There is one point I’d like to share before talking about how singles are more likely to meet single Christians worth dating: In order to meet the right Christian single for yourself, you need to get your own house in order. Yeah, I…

Christian Singles Girls Being Unequally Yoked

The following article on Christian single girls being in an unequally yoked dating relationship comes to us from Tracy: I thank the Lord for this site. After choosing to live in sin for the past two years, the Lord has been merciful and has forgiven me, and filled me with his Holy Spirit once again. I was angry with God for being “alone”, and being a single mother. I rebelled, and decided that I was going to be in an…

Single Again: Tips for the Recently Single Woman and Man

If you are recently single-again due to divorce or the death of a husband or wife, you may be experiencing a whole gamut of different emotions including but not limited to: Fear Guilt Rejection Loneliness Anger Sadness Bitterness Discontenment Anxiety Having to suffer through emotions like these puts recently single-again folks in a vulnerable state, where manipulative people can take advantage of them, and poor decisions can be made. In Parent Education classes for newly single-again people, we teach a…

Christian Singles Dating Unbelievers

If you are one of the many Christian singles dating unbelievers, save yourself additional troubles by getting out of the dating relationship as soon as possible. At the very least, the vast majority of Christians who date unbelievers or unsaved singles experience loss of sexual purity, loss of fellowship with the Lord and other believers, and heartache. Additionally, all throughout the Bible God warns us for our own protection not to partner (be unequally yoked) with unbelievers (ex.:2Cor 6:14). History…

Courtship Love or Casual Dating

The casual dating versus courtship love debate rages on in some conservative Christian circles. Ever since Joshua Harris’ bestselling book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye came out, this question has come to the forefront: Should Christian singles interested in the opposite sex practice casual dating or Christian courtship? But let’s pose another question that cuts to the heart of the matter: Which model, casual dating or courtship, has better end results viz-a-viz pre-marital sex, domestic violence, infidelity and divorce rates? Both…

Loneliness and Singles

  Many singles have a difficult time dealing with loneliness. This is especially true in cases where the single person had suffered a recent dating relationship break up, divorce or sudden loss of a loved one. Whatever the reason for loneliness, some singles feel as if their whole existence has become an empty and meaningless experience. My dear brothers and sisters, if you are suffering this kind of lonliness, there are several practical steps you can take to help ease…

How to Spot a Dating Married Man

This dating advice is about How to Spot a Dating Married Man and how to avoid dating married men. Don’t laugh, the sad but true fact according to an MSNBC dating tips survey is that 30% of men using online dating services such as eHarmony are married! Surprised by the number of cheating, married rats? Don’t be. In fact, whether a single woman meets her date through an online dating service, or at off line places like church or the market…

Christian Singles Groups Benefits

Christian Singles Groups can be very benificial to Christian singles. However, not all single Christians who use online Christian personals sites such as eHarmony and online Christian chatrooms regularly attend Christian singles groups. However, there are many reasons why a person may benefit from joining a Christian singles group. Top 5 Reasons to Attend Christian Singles Groups Christian singles groups provide a place to belong. In order to be healthy and enjoy life to the max, people need to feel…

What Christian Single Guys Need in a Wife

  Most Christian single guys are familiar with the proverb: “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing.” Amen! In fact, this is a main reason why many single Christian guys seek out online Christian Dating Services. Since the beginning of time, it’s been a good deal for a single man to have a wife. Remember, in Genesis the Lord said, “It’s not good for man to be alone. I will make him a suitable helpmate.” So when the average…

Relationship Break Ups

Believe it or not, instead of dating issues the topic of relationship break ups takes up most of the mail we receive at Christian Dating Service Plus! I guess the reason for this is that relationship break ups are one of the most painful experiences to endure, right up there with unrequited love. The fact is, relationship breakups cause lots of heartbreak, even when we know it wasn’t a healthy relationship and we probably should have dumped it a while…

What is a Soulmate?

The following article, “What is a Soulmate?” was written by a Christian single girl: There is no such thing as “soul mate” in the sense of there being one person on earth that God has already picked for you and now you are on this journey to find them. On the contrary, there are several possible mates that can fit into your life and help you walk out the purpose God has already ordained for your life. This idea of…

Dating the Wrong Date?

Sometimes Christian singles can feel that they have gotten themselves in a mess when they look at their relationships. Normally your “Dr Phil” would say “get out while you still can”. However, getting out isn’t always the solution, but getting though it may be exactly what your dating relationship needs now. It has been said quite a few times already that communication is the key to a successful relationship. At this point you feel like if you hear that phrase…

Emotional Baggage and Singles

Many single Christians walk around with emotional baggage from failed relationships and other expereinces that they have gone through in their lives. When people hear the term “emotional baggage” they also think of “damaged goods.” since very few singles that I know of want to be in a relationship with someone with emotional baggage, in important that singles in this situation learn to make peace with their past if they desire a serious, positive Christian dating relationship. So what in…

Christian Women Complaints

Christian women complaints? The following article on single Christian women was written by one of our single readers who has used dating sites like eHarmony and Christian Mingle. Any comments girls? “I find that to many Christian women are confused about what values they should be looking for in a Christian man. I think to many Christian women take the word “Christian” vary loosely. Guys will say anything to get a good looking women. There is a shallowness on Bible Theology…

Meeting .Com Single Parent Needs

Never heard of a .com single parent? Well meet my friend Sue. She is a .com single parent with two kids in the home, two jobs to pay the bills and no time to relax (let alone date) in the fast paced communication age in which she lives. Sound familiar? Meeting .com single parents’ needs can be daunting considering the sheer number of issues. Additionally, although U.S. Census estimates claim that 59 percent of kids will live in a single…

Christian Ladies Night Out Ideas

The following Christian ladies night out ideas were written by a single Christian female tired on hiatus from  the dating scene: As a Christian single woman, it shouldn’t be all about looking for a date.  I have found that waiting for that dating match can be a tedious and draining experience. My thought here is one needs a break fro time to time in any endeavor. The best way I have found to “recharge my batteries” is to spend time…

Christian Single Gives Dating Advice

Many people feel that it is difficult to find Christian singles. However it is actually very easy no matter how old you are or how badly you want a relationship. Christian singles can be found everywhere. If you want to meet Christian singles, then look at church, school, or even online. You wont have to look hard at all to meet Christian singles around your area. Church is obviously a great place to meet Christian singles. Get into a small…

Another Rebound Dating Debacle

The following  article was by one of our readers: I entered into a rebound relationship with a woman who had only been divorced for 3 months after 16 years of marriage. Very stupid move on my part. She assured me that they had been separated for 18 months and she was completely over him. Not only that, but she was the one to initiate the divorce, so I really did think she was ready for a new relationship. She pursued…

Navigating Life’s Storms as a Single Person

As singles we sometimes think that our lives are in balance and we have things under control. Suddenly, however, we find the rug is pulled out from under us. I can finally pay those bills each month that I used to dread. My relationship with my family has been restored. My heart is at peace and I can feel complete without having a partner at my side. Then a large gust of wind comes along and all of the things…

Keys For a Healthy Marriage Relationship

Working in Family Court I’ve seen lots of unhealthy dating and marriage relationships. Let me add unhappy dating and marriage relationships. Not surprisingly, a University of Wisconsin stud revealed that over 90% of our future happiness is related to the kind of mate we choose to date or marry. As Christian singles, we know our true joy, which is eternal, remains in the Lord. However, our happiness, based on transient circumstances, can definitely be affected by poor relationship choices. With…

Christian Singles Dealing With A Broken Heart

Are you a Christian single suffering from a broken heart?  Lets face it: at one point or another, EVERYBODY gets their heart broken from a lost relationship.  Speaking from personal experience, heartbreak is one of the most bitter and painful experiences one can go through.  Everybody I talk to about it says the same thing.  As painful as it can be, the good news is that a broken heart never lasts forever!  While the healing process takes different amounts of…

Dating Game-Waiting Game

Waiting for that perfect Christian dating match is not always fun, but often feels like some sort of cosmic waiting game. Problem is in our busy lives we don’t have very much patience to wait on things. Funny though, how we will always wait for things that are important to us. We will wait by the phone for our new love interest to call or a report from the doctor’s office. We wait in line to get into the newest…

Christian Help Fighting Sin

The following is a heart plea from a single girl looking for Christian help fighting sin: Hi All. I’m a 23 year old “christian” single female who needs help fighting sin. I never ever imagined in the whole two years that I’ve struggled with masturbation that there are other Christian teens and young single adults facing the exact same issues. I’m a virgin, by definition, but it gets so hard at times. I haven’t really wanted to have sex before…