The following is a heart plea from a single girl looking for Christian help fighting sin:
Hi All. I’m a 23 year old “christian” single female who needs help fighting sin. I never ever imagined in the whole two years that I’ve struggled with masturbation that there are other Christian teens and young single adults facing the exact same issues. I’m a virgin, by definition, but it gets so hard at times.
I haven’t really wanted to have sex before marriage out of personal choice even though I was presented with the opportunity, but when it comes to masturbation, it’s like a whole different force completely takes over all logic and sense. I love God, and I want to be clean, of this because it’s holding me back. It’s as though God refuses to remove this cup, and I struggle with sex sin daily. There are weeks when it doesn’t bother me, because I’ve repented and I’m desperate for God’s forgiveness. But than there are those days when it just takes over. It hurts so badly, cause I feel like I have no self control as a single person over it…and it’s like I’m playing games with God, because I repent and ask for forgiveness and than a few days later i’m doing it all over again. I feel like I’m suffering from a terminal disease. The dealing with guilt is so immense and yet, I can’t stop myself.
I really need Christian help fighting sin because I recently feel the need to watch pornography, to kinda get with the times, you know. I am the most terrible sinner and I hate myself for it, and yet it’s a cycle that does not seem to end. I am so desperate right now, because temptation is looming…I wish that I could hold on to something, but I would die if anyone found out, because people see me as capable of no wrong, I want to scream out that I am the worst of sinners, and yet I can’t because I’m afraid of a tainted image.
I live with different masks for different days, I’m so tired of it, I just want to be real, and accepted with this mess, that I caused…It’s such a relief to just be myself here. I just want this to end. Will it ever end? Or am I doomed to live in guilt and regret, and fear that I could die and go to hell at any moment.
Do you need Christian help fighting sin? Do you have Christian relationship advice for this writer?
Hmmm!! I struggled with exactly the same issue for many years and your prayer will be answered – God is intervening to assist you – rest assured that this will happen. Just stay close to him in prayer.
To have the faith in God that you do at 23 yrs is truly a blessing. You need to be happy about this – that you actually have faith is His first gift to assist your difficulty. Please dont be down on yourself – Christianity is not a faith of Guilt. It is a life of continuing and growing relationship with God.
Sure you have one “problem” area which you are working on. But think of all the other blessings you have – friends, family, free country, convenient life, food to eat, beautiful scenery, peaceful locations.
Just take time to talk to him every day as a friend and father. You will be amazed at how he defends you from this “weakness” – and if you fall again, pick yourself up – dust yourself off any try harder. (I am catholic and I found reconciliation is a true miracle in this respect).
Rest assured I do understand you problem as I have struggled with it too – and over come it.
I had the same problem with you since Im 10 years old. I came to know the Lord when I was 23 years old. Since then, I have committed to remain pure until marriage. I still did for 2 years, but I did it less and less. I prayed to God many times and he finally helped me overcome this habit. Everytime when the desire for sex comes, I think about how wonderful it is to save all desiring feeling for my wedding and also try to think about my desire for purity. When the desire for purity is stronger, you will not want to masturbate. God bless you.
I feel your pain… I have been struggling with the same battle for a year ever since I have decided to devote My life to Christ and with hold from sex until Im married. It’s a struggle expecially when you have people around you that believe you are perfect. But in fact we are not perfect. Some sins are easy to shake off and some hang on to ur coat and no matter how much you try to shake it…. It’s still there…
So no matter how many times you fall short of Gods glory just repeat to yourself ” today I will rise up and take the authority by supermposing the will of God over the will and all activity of the enemy…the eyes of my spirit will function with 20/20 vision, my ears stay in tune to the frequency of faith bc at this day and time I will no longer conform to the likings of this world… I will rely only on the food of wisdom from my God… For wisdom is my counselor, the holy spirit is my consultant and Jesus Christ is my advocate.
I promise to you that each day will get better and that with time that fleshy sin will soon be forgotten. But just know that if you fall, God will be there to pick you up by your boot straps and guide you to the path of righteousness….
I hope this helps and just know you are not alone in this struggle… God Bless you beloved
All the best,
I just fell into this sin and your story inspired me..I do believe that God is a loving and MERCIFUL God. I am 19 years old and have been struggling with this since I was 10 years old as well. I don’t know how I’m going to move out of this stage but I WILL. Look, all I’m really trying to say here is that you have to believe you Can change this sinful part of your life if you really want to move on from this. We can do it. And it won’t take a day either.
Sin is tied to the way we think. Satan will never force sin on you but he gives you thoughts to think about first. When you think thoughts sin is conceived and later born. In psychology it says : Thoughts leads to feelings and feelings lead to action (T=F=A). I would like you to listen to two messages titled ‘Christianity vs Psychology’ and ‘Temptation is tied to thought’. My email is email@example.com
There is a way to avoid temptation and sin for good 🙂
So, you “feel the need to watch pornography”, eh? Believe it or not, you’re in a great place! What?! You heard me. Not a typo, either. That’s right……you’re in a GREAT place! Alot of people will not even acknowledge this is a problem in their lives. But you….you reached out! Just that small action alone tells the world that you love Jesus and the things of God. Can I share something with you that my Lord showed me? I read through Matthew CH 4 (Jesus tempted in the wilderness. Fasting for 40 days & nights. He was indeed hungry!)….”During that time the devil came and said to him, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become loaves of bread.” But, Jesus told him, “No! The Scriptures say, ‘People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God'”. The temptation here was based on a legitimate need (hunger, in this case) with the devil’s solution being the quick, easy way (“tell these stones to become loaves of bread”). The devil really has no shame. He is always ready to exploit weaknesses in those that belong to God. Sex is a legitimate need, even if you’re single! Satisfying sexual needs outside of what you know God wants for you is in essence “turning stones into loaves of bread”. Living by every word that comes out of the mouth of God is the real lesson here! Focus on God! Rely on Him! Shifting the focus away from you is the key!! These things then become much, MUCH easier to deal with! You are so very important to Him that He already knows ALL about you! Your wants, needs, even the inner-most secret desires. He also wants you to grow in Him, but sometimes it’s not at all easy (narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life – Matt 7: 14). Shortly afterwards in Matthew CH 5, Jesus goes on to give the Sermon on the Mount. “God blesses those who are poor and realize their need for him, for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.” Realizing your need (I need help! This sexual temptation overwhelms me!) here is “poorness” of spirit indeed! “…..God blesses you when people mock you (“So, whaddaya mean you won’t go to the strip club with us tonight?”) and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. Be happy about it! Be very (or, exceedingly) glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven! The devil doesn’t need to tempt those who aren’t God’s (those guys are on auto-pilot). But he has a desperate need to tempt, decieve and draw you away from Jesus! Temptation for believers is a great road sign! That means there’s a fork in the road and you have a choice to make! Get into the Word! Talk to Him about it! He will help you on a customized, personal level! You can trust Jesus “In whom are hid all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.” (Col 2:3). I know this was really long, but if you got this far, it is my most sincere hope that this helps you and you’re able to praise God and live in perfect love and victory as a result! You really are in a GREAT place!