Most Christian single women and men we surveyed feel that many girls seem to prefer to date “bad guys”. Yup, hands down most single girls (Christians included) would rather date Jack Sparrow, the pirate, than Richie Cunningham, the Happy Days all-around good guy.
One depressed single Christian guy (I’m assuming he’s a good one) lamented: “I just don’t get it. Here I am, a sensitive, passionate Christian with a caring heart and a good job, but I can’t find a date if my life depended on it. Yet, some strange dude on a Harley pulls into town, and he gets any girl he wants.” Some we spoke to even went so far as to say that lots of women are addicted to bad guys.
So what exactly is a bad guy? One single girl put it this way: “A bad guy is a guy your parents and friends would freak out over. He’s also someone you know in your heart is bad for you spiritually, emotionally and possibly even physically, but you just can’t resist him.” Does that sound like a vampire attraction thing, or what!
Christian Single Girls On Bad Guys
Single girls who prefer bad guys described them this way:
They are exciting and unpredictable
They are bold, brash and extremely self-confident
They are strong and protective
They are sexy and dangerous all at the same time
They don’t come across as needy and desperate like a lot of other guys
If you really think about it, some of the qualities listed above are decent things to look for in a guy. So why are bad guys so bad for girls? The problem lies in the fact that even though bad guys’ collective qualities make them not boring, they also make them self-absorbent. Some would also label them “jerks“, or possibly even abusive daters.
The bottom line is that this kind of single guy is unable to meet all of the things Christian single girls want and need in a guy. They may offer a girl protection, but be unable to provide financial and emotional support; They may make for a sexy and exciting date but lack the consistency and communication skills necessary for a long-term relationship and/or marriage.
Help For Single Girls Who Date Bad Guys
If you are a single Christian girl on the verge of dating or presently dating someone you believe to be a bad guy, finding out why is the first step toward saving yourself more pain. Ask yourself the following:
Do you feel you don’t deserve any better relationship?
Do you continually feel a need to change guys for the better?
Do you fear emotionally intimate relationships and commitment?
Do you find yourself repeating a pattern of abusive relationships?
Finally, seeking advice from close Christian friends, good a Christian counseling service or pastor, may help guide you toward making better dating decisions in the future.