Conversation starters skills are a must if you don’t want to bore your Christian single date half to death. Almost every Christian single person has had that sinking feeling that they were losing their date’s interest while conversing with them in person or thru an online dating site like Eharmony
Singles with good conversation starters and communication skills are successful at keeping their dates fascinated and involved because they do two simple things very well:
- They avoid so-called conversation starters that bore or annoy him or her
- They develop their own conversation-starter skills with their date by determining what makes them perk up
Conversation Starters Tips: What To Avoid-Or at Least Go Easy On
One of the purposes of dating is to have conversations with the other person to determine whether or not the other person is your true love or dating match.
While it’s important to have easy-flowing conversation starters, take care when speaking with your date about the following topics:
Don’t Hog the Ball!
We all hated that when we were kids, and as single adults, we hate it when someone hogs a conversation. Remember, a good conversation starts with a dialogue, not a monologue. That means allowing your date to get in some of his or her thoughts as well.
Ever meet a person who asks you how you are doing, but then before you can open your mouth they spend the next 10 minutes droning on about their stuff? The bottom line is it’s boring and annoying all rolled into one, so don’t do it, okay? ?
Health Issues
If you’re thinking this is a good conversation starter, forgettaboutit! While you may gain some sympathy in the short run, as a hypochondriac I can tell you from experience that you will inevitably turn your date off as you rattle off your litany of ills.
Of course, serious health concerns can and should be shared at the proper time, but do we really need to know about the runs you had last night? You get the point.
Ex Anythings
Nothing bores a date quicker, but this failed “conversation starter” is a perennial favorite of many, to their own demise. Not only is this a major turn-off, it gives the impression they are dealing with a rebound dater. Bad. Very bad.
The Bible
I may get stoned for this, so if you don’t see this site tomorrow you know what happened. Look, incessant Bible-quoting during a date is boring and obnoxious. Now I’m not talking about heartfelt sharing about your faith, or deep and interesting theological discussions that bring up the Scriptures.
I am speaking about the stooges who have to pepper in Bible quotations during every conversation. Here’s an example: “Praise the Lord, this food tastes great. Hey, could you pass that salt? Speaking of salt, did you know in Matthew 5:13 Jesus states that you are the salt of the earth?” Please don’t…it’s not attractive.
Gossip
Ever been around someone who had negative things to say about someone else when they weren’t around? Human nature being what it is, you may be tempted to use gossip as a conversation starter with your date. Don’t do it. Besides being unpleasing to the Lord, your date may begin to wonder what kinds of things you tell others about her when she’s not around. Get it?
No single person, male or female, has it all together when it comes to conversation starters. If you don’t confident in this area, just remember to learn how to start a conversation with the opposite sex in the learning process.
One particular person concerned about dating conversation topics wrote the following: “I feel so much anxiety when there is silence between me and her. How do I keep a conversation going with my new date?” Now in the past, we’ve given some conversation starter tips for dating, and have even written about what dating conversation topics to avoid with a date. However, we thought it would be interesting to take the opposite approach and list the top Christian dating conversation topics according to singles.
Top Christian Dating Conversation Topics
The following dating conversation topic you can discuss with your date that will be sure to keep the conversation going:
- His/Her plans or dreams for the future
- How they came to faith in Christ
- Passions, interests, or fun things He or She likes to do
- His/Her family
- What He/She finds attractive in the opposite sex
Did you notice that the above conversation dating topics were not about YOU? As someone once told me, one of the best ways to have good communication with single Christians of the opposite sex is to let them know that you sincerely care about them and what they have to say. The dating conversation topics will take care of themselves if you try putting the following verse into practice:
Bible Verse of Day
~Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others~Philippians 2:3
Are you a Christian single with something to share about dating and conversation starters?
One Comment
Dan
You know alot of people when first divorced will give old war stories of their Ex, only to hear “Well there is two sides to every story”. So save yourself the experience.