Recognizing signs of flirting from Christian single gals is an important skill to master if you’re a guy are interested in dating. One clueless single Christian guy (every church has a few) told me he didn’t think he needed to know the signs of flirting because he didn’t think Christian girls flirted. Yeah, okay.
Signs of Flirting Women
Since most gals give subtle signs of flirting, it’s important for a guy, especially if they’re love shy or lacking in confidence, to know he has a fighting chance of dating them, and not face rejection. Quite frankly, the fragile male ego would have a hard time with this.
Analyzing Signs of Flirting
Men, the following signs of flirting will help you how to tell if a girl is flirting with you. However, there are a few flirting tip disclaimers here.
First, they taught us in seminary never to build a theology based on one Bible verse. Likewise, great care needs to be taken here not to get too excited when you observe just one sign of flirting in a woman. What are we saying? These signs of flirting should be looked at cumulatively.
Secondly, make observations how the single girl of interest treats other men around her. If she treats everyone the same way, she may just have a flirtatious personality, and not necessarily have any special feelings for you.
Top Signs of Flirting
Is a fist bump a sign of flirting? Is a high five a sign of flirting? Well, without further ado, here are some of the top signs of flirting some of our readers have come up with:
Sign #1:
She repeatedly glances in your direction
Say you’re in a christian singles group. Is she looking your way every time you take a peek her way? Prolonged eye contact is a pretty strong sign of flirting. Just look behind you to make sure she’s not spying some other hunk sitting right behind you!
Sign #2
She goes out of her way to “bump” into you
My one friend met his wife this way. She always found a way to cross paths with him, even if she had no reason to be in area.
Sign #3
You keep seeing that smiling face
If a girl is frequently smiling at you , it’s a good indication that she enjoys hanging around. Smiling back at her will disarm any fear she may have about pursuing the matter.
Sign #4:
She laughs at your stupid jokes
This is a good indication you have her interest, but just go easy on the one liners. 🙂
Sign #5:
She approaches you in conversation
A sure-fire sign of flirting, this also means she is not the shy type. Warning: Now that you have her attention, don’t blow it by not knowing how to keep a conversation going strong.
Sign #6
She gives you a compliment
Since deep down most men are really insecure cravers of attention , women interested in dating would do much better if they threw more compliments a guy’s way.
Sign #7
She shows other positive body language signs
Body language is a powerful tool women use when flirting with a man, and most know how to use this to their advantage. Social scientists tell us 97% of communication is nonverbal in nature, so it’s very important for a guy to catch some of these signs of flirting:
- twirling a finger through her hair as she looks your way
- winking
- discreet touching of your arm or knee
- moving and leaning toward you when speaking
- uncrossed arms and legs when facing you in conversation.
Overall, learning the above signs of flirting is only the first step toward successful dating. The next step includes facing any fears you may have about actually reaching out and asking the single girl out.
Are you a Christian single who wants to share flirting tips, or a different take on flirting altogether?
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39 Comments
Steven babcoc
I have a girl in my class and she keeps looking my way and when I turn around to see what shes doing she turns really fast to see the board. And Sometimes she puts her arm on my arm telling she needs a armrest I could never tell if that was flirting.
Ryne L
There is a girl i like, and I really need to know if she is interested in me. We hang out with a group of friends all the time, She is always smiling when i talk to her, and she makes fun of me sometimes, but then she laughs at it, like she wasnt serious. i need to know
Rachael
ok boys I have to say both of those signs are that the girl likes you I should know I’m a girl 🙂
the lonely one
theres this girl i really like but i dont know if she likes me. We were bowling and shed always sit beside me and put her arm aorund me and they she kissed my cheek but then she always says that shes just kidding but then shes always smiling at me, Waht goin on? plus whats the best way to ask her out
josh
to “the lonely one”:
the next time she kisses you on your cheek, just say, “do you want to go out with me?”
Jen
to lonely one:
In regard to signs of flirting, maybe she noticed that she gave a flirt sign and she didn’t really want you to know yet and she could have possibly been embarrassed so she could’ve covered the flirtingt up by saying she was joking when really she’s not. And to get a reaction out of you to see if you like her or if you care.
I’d probably do that just with holding hands haha. “pretend” or “accidentally” hold their hand. 🙂
girls can be difficult haha i’m a girl 😀
does she smile a lot when you talk to her or when she hears your name? or does she stare into your eyes for about 3-4 secs. then look away and look back to see if you’re looking?
then she obviously likes you! you might even make her crazy!!
ASK HER OUT!…even better flirt back and kiss her cheek and say just kidding! it’ll DRIVE HER CRAZY and she’ll want you even if she doesn’t!!!
trust me,i’m a girl! 😉
ty
hey theres this girl i swim with.
I asked her 2 a movie, she said yes, but then she couldnt go. (I konw she wasnt lieing because she initially said yes to going to a movie but an hour before her parents made her go to a family party and she still wants to see it with me.) Theres this other guy i swim with but she talks to me a lot more, and if he leaves she says bye but she follows me when I leave. She said im a great listener and smiles a lot at me. But I don’t know if she likes me cuz I told her I liked her and she blushed, smiled, and said “ok.” I dont know if i went 2 fast and creeped her out or if I just caught her off guard (she blushed, like really red.) Girl help please?
Crew
How #@%ed up is this? I’m 29 and still single because I was waiting for a christian girl to come along. I was always a little shy, and that didn’t help much, also I didn’t want to drop my standards and just “settle” for some cheap hook-up slut, beacause stupidly, I always assumed God had someone he’d made just for me and was going to bring her across my path somehow in his divine timing and we would get married and live happily ever after..
Then one day I woke up and I was 29, most of my friends were married or in long term relationships and decent suitable single christian girls had gone the way of the dinosaur. Most of the availabe women my age left now are either messed-up, divorcees, too young or ex hook-up sluts.
My advice to you young guys reading this? Find the girl of your dreams and marry her whilst your still young and love is still magic! DO IT NOW! Don’t wait.. I did, and will regret it for the rest of my life.
Vinod
Yeah Man Crew that’s really true .. but then the only hope is it is never too late.. 29 Age is okay .. Almost the same as mine … So keep it up 😉
Eduardo
I have a question…actually I need some urgent help. A girl I know..recently started talking to me after 2 years no contact. She seemed very interested to know me over the internet ( how i was doing..what i was doing) and complimented me about a lot. She invited me to a New Year’s party…even paid for my bus ticket ( it was 10 bucks), and gave her my ###. However, I don’t know if these are signs she may be interested…or just nice. She’s a Christian…she said she loved Jesus on her myspace page lol…I need some help.
John
I work with a woman who is 15 yrs older than me. Despite that, I’m really attracted to her. She is recently divorced, but seems very flirtatious around me. She’s a kind person at heart; does anything possible for me. If I need something from her, she always does it, saying she’s never too busy. When we talk she smiles a lot, laughs a lot (even when I’m not trying to be funny) and she’s told me about her personal life (nothing sexual, mostly financial and school related). I put her down as a reference for an upcoming job interview and she told me she’ll pray for me and hopes I get it. How nice is too nice?
f
ok so there is this girl in my class. she is always mean to me like period always mean. she always has something to say about me. but today it was weird we were reading this play its sorta like ten things i hate about you and in the play the couple is fighting. i have a partner and it is not her. so anyway a group was preforming the script and they couple was fighting so i look up at her and she is mouthing th play to me. i was like woah then i started mouthing back and then she like bites the air at me and i thought she was being mean again so i repeat the gesture. then she just stares at me for like 2 seconds and licks her lips at me with a straight face then she stares for a little bit longer then looks away. i am confused i do not no what this means or really what just happened fro that matter plz help me. high schooler in need.
danny boy
there’s a girl i like since 4th grade were in 8th grade now . She knows that i like & we are friends and when we talk or say hi to each other she’s always fixing her hair ,like fixing or fixing or shirt & pants & book bag. What should i do or tell her?
She said that she’s gonna give something for birthday. she said that it would be good and i would enjoy it
what does it mean?
me
Crew, what the crap are you talking about? It’s not too late for you as much as it might seem it and don’t give up waiting because eventually you WILL find someone and it’ll be worth it…come on have some faith cause there are plenty of christian girls, good chrisitian girls out there you just have to find them…believe me im one and i know there are more
Carlin
Interesting article, and I will personally vouch for most of these tips as they worked for me in flirting with girls. The only thing I have issue with is this.
“Smiling back at her will disarm any fear she may have about pursuing the matter.”
Be careful, smile too much and you are a complete doofus. What works for me is acting a bit more casual and indifferent, because then you come across as confident and not seeking her approval. These are manly qualities that girls are universally attracted to. Any guy who has smiled and complimented to much only to find themselves in the dreaded “friend zone” knows what I’m talking about.
Risk
I hang out with my group of Christian friends all the time, there is a girl in the group I am crazy about. She denies to my other friends who r girls that she likes me over msn and facebook, but I’m not sure because she laughs at my jokes even when they are not meant to be funny, when we talk she gives me this look that is pretty awesome, I sometimes catch her looking at me with this look that makes me go crazy and she kicks me or pokes me then blames it on Someone else despite the fact I watched her do it. I won’t ask her out because I need to be sure first. Someone help me see if she likes me or not please!?
David
man, guys, muster up some courage and just ask the girl. just ask her if she has any feelings for you. Even if you guys need to use the lame old: Can you define our relationship? line Do it. Edison invented the light bulb while there were people everyday just sitting in the dark with a candle going man i wish there was something to light up the room at night. Go find your light bulb that lights up your life. The girl who can lift your spirits. The girl who you know deep down inside that she is the one. Rejection is a part of life. Don’t be afraid of it but also be mindful of it. Rejections will come no matter what. Understand her situation and just move on with life. One girl’s rejection isn’t the most important thing in life. It’s the one girl’s acceptance that matters the most in our lives. Men and boys, happy hunting.
Anthony
there are these three new girls that just started coming to my church. one of them is really paying attention to me and she smiles and looks at me alot! but yet, she is a very funny girl so i can’t tell if she really likes me or not. will an EXPERIENCED girl please give me some advice?
Didier
So this beautiful girl, I’ve liked for over a year, became close friends with me over the past 6 months. In April we had a long talk, that resulted in us having mutual feelings that we weren’t going to pursue at that point in time, but that we still liked each other and that her mother that I was something else! After the school year wrapped up, I went home 1000 miles away, thinking we were close friends. So I called her often, every 2 days or so, to just get voice mail. Slowly I backed down to once a week. and an occasional Facebook message, that she would not respond to. Now I’ve come to find that she thinks Im creepy or scary for calling her!?!?! What the heck happened!?!?! We went from praying together, and talking every day to this!?! what do y’all think?
David Author
Hate to say it, my bro, but it seems she’s just another dysfunctional chick masquerading as a mature single Christian girl. Cut your loses and move on, thanking God the flirting did not go on for too long…
Ellie
COME ON, MEN! Grow-up. The only ones excused here are the few of you who are still in grade school (but you should pay attention for future reference).
It is not this difficult. Do you really want a relationship? One that can lead to a partnership between you, a Godly woman, and God. Step up to the plate. There are hundreds of thousands of beautiful women just waiting for you to grow-up. They are falling for the non-Christian shlump and riding off into the unequally yolked sunset. Do you know why? He is the only one who has asked them out in the last year.
Women are just as impatient for the Happily Ever After as you are. Most have seen their friends’ get married and are aware of the work that goes into it. They are the women of Proverbs 31, because they have studied it. They want to be a loving Godly wife to you.
We are looking for a man who will lead our family spiritually and otherwise. The first hint of a man who can provide this is when he musters the strength, courage and determination to ASK THE GIRL OUT!
First. What do you want? Do you want a fling like the hellbound chump next to you? Do you want to be married so that you can compare notes with friends, feel loved and accepted, go on romantic vacations and join the Young Marrieds Bible Study? OR Have you taken the time to think of yourself with sober judgement and become a man who is worthy of marring a daughter of Christ.
ShimmerB
Advice to guys:
Like Hitch says: Any guy can sweep any girl off her feet, he just needs the right broom.
Now the right broom is GUTS. Comm’on guys, I’m telling you!
I’m an attractive woman, but so far, no good guys have had the guts to say anything interesting to me. Not even, “You look great!” cause they’re afraid. The only guy that has impressed me is a (kinda pychotic) guy who isn’t even good looking, but he’s got enough guts to say stuff like, “Even if you have lovely eyes…” or “…the most beautiful woman trading the stock market”
I may not like him but the fact that he’s got some guts earns my respect. Girls may wrinkle their noses or brush it off, but deep down inside–they LIKE it!!! So go use that broom!
Cheers,
ShimmerB
Linda
COME ON guys!! ASK HER OUT IF YOU ARE REALLY INTERESTED IN HER.
All the flirting signs are right. I should know them since I am a GIRL. In my case,I really like a guy in my church.( he’s 2 years younger than me) I’ve been using these flirting signs WITHOUT knowing that’s flirting :p. The only thing I’ve been waiting for is HIM ASKING ME OUT.
Anthony
Ok so I stumbled across this site looking to find some good christian pointers, found them but was then disgusted by the lack of spine some of you guys have!
Don’t settle for mediocrity, for second best of fear of being left on the shelf. God’s plan and timing are both perfect, there’s no point trying to beat God at his game he’s more devious than you can ever imagine.
What you need to do is change your focus, stop looking around you and look up. God’s in control of everything and i know letting him be in control is a lot easier to read than to practice.
If you are not happy in yourself and your walk with God what makes you think that someone else will give you that happiness and walk your walk for you. Sure you’ll be happy for a while but what happens when the novelty wears off?
Anyway this is probably not the next place for this… rant.. but seriously guys grow some… lol
As to the flirting thing, the best thing you can do if you think someone is flirting with you is to talk to an accountability partner so they are aware of what’s happening and are able to advise accordingly. Yeah it may be that she is the one, but they’ll also be able to give advice (no matter how hard it sounds, or how unfair it may feel) as to the best steps to take.
The new girl in church needs to learn to be able to lean on God before leaning on you.
The new guy in church needs to be so on fire for God, don’t forget he’s gotta be accountable for your walk when infront of the big G.
Looks are important but don’t base your whole decision to date someone soley on the fact they look good in a swimsuit… time changes people,,, youthful looks fade…
anyway i hope this helps people, I know it’s certainly helped me some.
Shy
Amen Anthony.
Honestly guys, if you’re attracted to someone and even SUSPECT that they share the same feelings, just ask them out! (of course, assuming that you know each other a bit and its isn’t just some silly infatuation or lust…)
I’m quite a shy guy, I’ve only asked someone out once, earlier this year. They said yes, then the next day they sent me an email saying no… seriously this might seem like the worst that can happen but its really not that bad: I’m glad I asked her cause now at least I know how she feels.
I’ll be praying for you all.
Your bro in Christ
katie
you know what i do when i like a guy. i always ask him who he likes. why? because i hope that one day he’ll finally say “you”. just go and tell the girl you like her if you think she likes you. and if the person you like asks you who you like, tell them “you” because thats what a lot of girls want to hear.
Clueless...
Ok, so theres this girl I known for about a year now, well two months of that since we used to work together but I quit. Now we both go to the same school, I see her doing all these signs and I am positive she wants to date me… except I have no idea on how to ask her to be my girlfriend since I have never had one. Anyone have any tips? You can post them here and I will check back regularly. Thanks in advance!
tom
There is this girl 2 years younger than me. I am 22. I live about an hour and 20 mins away from her college. We have been talking everyday for the last 2-3 months. When we finally met, we spent 5 hours together. 3-3 1/2 hours walking around campus and then 1 1/2-2 hours spent visiting with her friend. The walk was great. I could sense she kinda wanted me to hold her hand, but at other times she didn’t and since it was our first meeting with each other, i decided not to hold her hand while we walked. Well since then our conversations have been shorter and the topics of our conversations have kinda been repeating themselves since we’ve already asked each other about our past and also we have school work to do as well. We text everyday and try and chat when we have time. She has a really busy schedule the next few weeks and I try to make plans to go down and see her, but she doesn’t seem as excited as she was a few days after we had met. It’s been almost 2 weeks since we first met in person. I’ve told her I like her and I can make her laugh pretty much at will, but it seems like we’re getting to the point where…is this it? is this what it will be like? Should we take a break for awhile just so then we can collect our thoughts and just focus on school and see if we still have feelings after a few days. I compliment her about once a week or so just by saying it’s nice talking with you and i’m glad I have this opportunity to talk with you in my boring class or something like that. She hasn’t told me flat out she likes me and i don’t want to rush anything because i feel she would rather take it slow and steady since we don’t go to the same college and such. I have told her I will be transferring to her college next fall and she seemed somewhat excited, but I don’t know if she’s confused or if she’s just unsure. I’m thinking she’s unsure of the situation because she has only gotten to know me through the internet really(my good friend introduced me to her). Also, her best friend is a little concerned about my character and i know that has to play a role and i know that this girl talks about me to her best friend so i know she likes me, but since they don’t know that i’ve been 100% honest with both of them the whole time…it’s almost like i’m too good to be true kind of thing. how do I fix that image to where they know it’s the real me?
Alexander
Okay so my best friend i have known for about 6 years but we’ve been seperated for a year now, so we were hanging out last night for my birthday. She starts to look around my room and says it has not changed since the last time she came over. Then she smiles and remembers all the things we did like making a tent out of my bed. She goes on to say how we used wrestled and how she always came out on top. while shes talking i get the idea to take advantage of her not paying attention and jump on her. She started to smile and screamed that it wasnt fair and i was cheating.she fell off my bed and i grabbed her waist and she giggled. i swear her face was tinted red but i quickly got the idea out of my head. I jumped on her two more times and got the same reaction. I dont know if I was flirting or not. later when we went to eat we were sitting in the van and i looked over at her she looked at me and and smiled and i looked away fast.when we went inside my parents said we could have our own table. the entire time she kept raking her nails across the napkins and she started to rip another in pieces. Then i let her look at my phone and she went through all my messages not that i cared or anything, i think she was trying to figure out if any of my texts were about her. she decided to call her friend because she wanted to go to the basketball game and was begging me to go with her becuase her friend would leave her. by the time we left the game was over so i promised i would make it up to her. When we got back home i got on my laptop. She got up and looked at my computer screen and when i asked her what she said she thought i was playing games. she went back to my bed and hugged my pillow. I cant tell if shes flirting with me or am i crazy! Am I crazy?
Willian
There is a girl in my class and my friend said that I want to go out with her and she said that that is cute and since then she is always sitting in the table in front of me and in the tables at the side of me and she keeps looking at me does she likes me?
anthony
i have a girl in my class and she has a boyfriend, like i talk to her but she always trys to sit next to me and we talk the whole lesson.
any tips?
Jose
Well there is a girl my class and she neverd talked to me until i got my braces the next day she starts talkin to me.She sits by me durin passin period and says i look hot with braces.
Carsten
There is this really nice girl at school, we are both in 8th grade. I don’t have the courage to ask her out because I am scared of that kind of rejection. Can someone give me some advice on how to overcome this fear? PLEASE HELP!!!
richard
@tom
just swallow whatever pride, hyperness, bitterness and talk to her about somthing sensitive girls seem to trust someone who can be sensitive around them but i see its been along time since your post i hope it went well/is going well
Josh
There is this one girl I’ve been friends with since 9th grade were now in 11th grade and she just broke up with her boyfriend of 3 months (her first real relationship) because he was cheating on her. And dont get me wrong i like her a lot but she put me in the “friend zone” last school year and I dont know if she still considers me still in there, but lately she always smiles when she sees me, bumps into me when were talking in the school halls, and making direct eye contact, laughs at all my jokes, and smiles when she comes into first period and smiles when she sees me, and always go out of her way to talk to me. I love her and know everything about her. What do you guys think is she flirting or what?
teapot
Josh if you don’t think she’s flirting there’s some thing wrong she ovesly likes you but is iver to shy or she wants you to notis her and ask her out don’t take my word for it im not a 100 posent many 70 75 posent.
p.s. sorry about my spelling im not very good.
Gabe
So there is this girl I got to church with and I like her she has shown a few signs of flirting but others i don’t know if she is flirting or not. One night she was at my house and we were out side and I layed my head on the hood of the car to look at the stars and I looked over and she was lying next to me looking at me with a big smile. We often exchange looks at church and one night she asked me if I liked her but she didn’t tell me if she likes me or not. I do have her number she gave it to me without hesitation I also told her she was pretty a couple times. And she asked me if I had a facebook. When ever I talk to her we both turn red and she smiles ALOT. I text her often and she replys
Does she like me and what should I do next
JONATHAN
Pls do a christian girl like a guy when she tells personal stuff .want to make a move but confused if she likes me.
Brody wallen
There’s this girl that I really like but I can’t tell if she likes me because she left me on read a couple times, but after talking to her friends they all say that she does that to everyone and I kinda get it… she also asked if we could get coffee sometime, but we never did so we changed it to a different day. One more thing we are dancing partners and we are physically close while dancing but idk if it really means anything. She also said, “I’m so glad that we are starting to be good friends” like bruh why is this so hard ?