If you are a single Christian waiting on God for your soul mate, dealing with feelings of rejection can be very difficult! I was recently talking to a young man, who after months of searching for a potential Christian dating partner online using eHarmony and Christian Mingle to no avail, developed strong feelings for a young woman who had recently started going to his church. They became friends, however, when he told her about his feelings for her, she told him that she can’t see them being more than friends. This Christian single guy told me that he is having a very difficult time getting the feelings to go away. The most frustrating part of his situation is that the feeling of rejection is preventing him from connecting with other girls that he meets! If you have ever had feelings for somebody that didn’t return them to you, then you can probably relate to this guy! The following Christian dating tips will help you get over the feeling of rejection, and get back on the right track with God and the opposite sex!
Dealing With Rejection- Put Your Faith In God’s Timing
Although from your point of view it may seem like the perfect time to start dating the perfect person, but keep in mind that if you are a child of God, he not only loves you more than you can comprehend, but He has a perfect plan for your life! God knows the future and sees everything from a MUCH broader perspective than you ever will. A big part of out Christian walk is learning to put our faith and trust in God’s timing instead of our timing! This verse pretty much says it all about God’s reasoning and timing:
Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes.He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God. – 1 Corinthians 4:5
It is never good to jump to conclusions about a relationship that seems to be developing very slowly – or not at all. Keep in mind that we don’t always recognize why we are put in certain situations, and how God is using the circumstance for ourselves AND for others…in His perfect timeframe!
Dealing With Rejection- Rethink the Circumstances
When you have strong feelings for somebody, it is hard to analyse the reason for the feelings. Take some time to reflect on the person you have feelings for, and examine why you feel the way you feel. It can be easy to fall for somebody for reasons that we shouldn’t. you should ask yourself the following questions: