I get a lot of emails asking questions like: “How do I make my Christian dating relationship last? When you’re dating in the Christian single scene with marriage as the goal, you’re essentially trying to find someone who’s not just your better half but your better three-quarters. It’s about finding that partner with whom you can not only share your favorite Bible verses but also your Wi-Fi password. So, how do you make a relationship last in such a setting? Let’s dive into this not-so-mystical quest with a light-hearted look at love, faith, and everything in between!
1. Keep the Faith, and the Fun
First things first, keep God at the center—it’s a staple in Christian dating. But let’s not forget, God also created humor. Think of your relationship as a duo at a comedy club on open mic night. Sometimes, you’re the audience; sometimes, you’re the comedian. The key is to laugh together, and at yourselves, often. This keeps the journey light and the spirit uplifted.
2. Pray Together, Stay Together
They say a couple that prays together stays together. Whether it’s morning devotions or evening reflections, make this a bonding ritual. It’s not just about seeking guidance (although that’s a big part of it), but also about building an intimate space where you can share your hopes, fears, and the occasional “God, why can’t he just pick up his socks?”
3. Communication: Divine Intervention Not Required
While it’s great to pray for a sign, when it comes to communication, divine intervention is usually not on speed dial. Be open about your feelings, desires, and expectations. Remember, the Apostle Paul wasn’t shy with his letters, and neither should you be in expressing your thoughts and feelings—just maybe with fewer shipwrecks and snakebites.
4. Forgiveness: More Refreshing Than Sunday Brunch
Let’s be honest, forgiving someone can sometimes feel tougher than choosing between pancakes and waffles at Sunday brunch. However, forgiveness is crucial. You’re both human, and mistakes are like bad sermons; they happen. The beauty is in learning to move past them, not in keeping score.
5. Date Night: Holy and Wholesome
Keep the flame alive with regular date nights. These don’t always have to be dinner and a movie. Try volunteering together, exploring a biblical museum, or participating in a church event. It’s about making memories in meaningful ways. Think of it as building your own little ark – just hopefully with fewer animals to clean up after.
6. Meet the Flock: Community Engagement
In Christian dating, it’s often about more than just two people. Get involved with each other’s church communities. It’s a great way to understand each other’s spiritual support systems and, bonus, you get to show off your significant other’s bake sale skills.
7. Boundaries: Holy Lines in the Holy Sand
Set clear boundaries early on. Discuss your comfort levels with different aspects of the relationship, from physical boundaries to how much time you spend together. Remember, even Moses had to lay down some ground rules.
8. Future Planning: Noah’s Ark Style
Think about the future. Where do you see yourselves after the “I dos”? Planning ahead can be both practical and exciting. It’s like building your very own ark. No need for flood forecasts, but planning for a future together can make it seem all the more real and attainable.
9. Keep Learning and Growing
Just like Sunday school, there’s always something new to learn about each other. Attend workshops, read books, and engage in conversations that challenge and grow your faith and relationship. It’s about evolving both spiritually and emotionally.
10. Above All, Love
At the end of the day, let love be the guiding principle. As 1 Corinthians 13 beautifully puts it, love is patient, kind, and doesn’t envy (not even that couple that always seems to have it together at church potlucks). Embrace your journey together with all its imperfections and grace.
Navigating Christian dating with the goal of marriage can seem daunting, but remember, it’s about building a foundation that both faith and love can stand firmly upon. And as you walk this path, keep in mind that it’s okay to have a little fun along the way. After all, even Jesus enjoyed a good wedding.
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