Let’s be real: being a single Christian can feel like a lifelong membership to the Waiting Room Club, where the chairs are a little too hard, the magazines are way outdated, and the receptionist keeps saying, “He’ll be with you shortly.” We wait, we pray, and sometimes we even feel a little bit lost. So, if you’re feeling the pinch (or maybe even the pain) of being a single Christian, this article is for you. We’ll dive into some biblical advice, practical tips, and maybe even a few laughs to help you get through this season with your faith (and humor) intact.
1. Embrace the Single Season as a Gift (Yes, Really!)
As counterintuitive as it sounds, singleness is often described as a gift in the Bible. Paul himself said in 1 Corinthians 7:7, “I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” So while marriage is indeed a blessing, Paul suggests that singleness can be too. Being single can open doors to unique experiences, growth, and even ministry opportunities that married people might not have. It’s a time for self-discovery and to grow closer to God, without the distractions and obligations that come with a spouse and kids.
The pain of singleness often comes from wanting something that seems elusive, but instead of focusing on what you don’t have, try reframing it to think about what you do have in this season. It’s like a period of “divine preparation” — a time when God might be doing something profound within you.
2. Let Yourself Feel the Feels (No Spiritual Bypassing Here)
As Christians, we sometimes feel like we need to put on a brave face and say things like, “I’m waiting on the Lord’s timing!” But deep down, it’s okay to admit that singleness can be lonely and confusing. God never asks us to stuff our emotions or pretend everything’s fine when it isn’t. The Psalms are filled with raw, honest emotions, and David, “a man after God’s own heart,” was never shy about expressing his despair and frustrations.
So if you’re having a rough day, don’t feel guilty about it. Talk to God, be honest with yourself, and let your emotions have their moment. Painful as it may be, admitting our struggles to God often opens the door for Him to comfort us. Matthew 5:4 reminds us, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” When you allow yourself to be real with God, you create space for Him to heal and restore you.
3. Surround Yourself with Life-Giving Friendships
While your single status might make you feel like a “third wheel” sometimes, remember that being single doesn’t mean you have to be alone. The Bible constantly emphasizes the importance of community, like in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: “Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Friendships, especially with other believers, can be a powerful source of encouragement and laughter (yes, laughter!) during tough times.
Make time to build friendships that lift you up, where you can share your dreams, struggles, and victories. Whether it’s joining a small group, finding a mentor, or just having that friend who brings snacks and terrible jokes, friends can help make this season a little easier.
4. Be Cautious About Dating Apps (Swipe Right on Discernment)
In the age of dating apps, it’s easy to feel like “God’s plan” is just a swipe away. While these platforms can connect you with people you wouldn’t meet otherwise, proceed with caution. Rushing into a relationship or lowering your standards can lead to heartache and detours from God’s best.
Proverbs 4:23 warns, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Being discerning doesn’t mean you can’t try online dating — it just means you need to prayerfully consider each connection. Remember that not everyone on a Christian dating site is necessarily walking closely with God. Be patient, don’t compromise, and let God guide your steps as you navigate this complex digital world.
5. Pursue Your Passions and Purpose
One of the biggest myths about singleness is that life begins after marriage, as if your real purpose is on hold until you have a ring on your finger. That’s far from the truth! You are a complete and whole person as you are, with unique gifts, dreams, and a purpose.
Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Instead of waiting to “become complete” in a relationship, use this time to discover who you are and what God has planned for you. Volunteer, start that passion project, or maybe even go on a mission trip. This is your time to shine and grow into the person God created you to be.
6. Learn to Laugh (Yes, Even at Yourself)
Sometimes the best remedy for loneliness and pain is a good laugh. Proverbs 17:22 reminds us, “A cheerful heart is good medicine.” Laugh at the awkward moments, the well-meaning but cringey advice from married friends, and even the things you used to worry about. Humor has a way of lifting our spirits and giving us perspective.
There will always be people who ask, “So, when are you getting married?” or offer unsolicited advice about your love life. Instead of getting frustrated, try to find the humor in it. It’s amazing how much lighter life feels when we can laugh at the things we can’t control.
7. Remember That God’s Timing is Perfect
It can be hard to trust God’s timing when you’re already tired of waiting. But let’s look at Romans 8:28: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” God’s timeline might not align with ours, but He promises that His plans are for our ultimate good.
Remember the story of Sarah and Abraham, who waited for years for God’s promise of a child. Their story wasn’t without mistakes, but ultimately, God fulfilled His promise. If God has put the desire for marriage in your heart, trust that He sees you, and He knows the timing that’s best.
8. Grow Closer to God in the Waiting
Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Instead of viewing singleness as a waiting room, think of it as an invitation to grow closer to God. Use this time to deepen your faith, immerse yourself in Scripture, and cultivate a relationship with Him that will be the bedrock of any future relationship.
Marriage doesn’t make you closer to God, and being single doesn’t distance you from Him. But how you use this season to nurture your spiritual growth will influence everything that comes next.
9. Serve Others (The Secret Remedy for Loneliness)
One of the best ways to combat loneliness is to serve others. Jesus constantly modeled a life of service and serving others not only blesses them but also fills your own heart with joy and purpose. Find a ministry, volunteer at a shelter, or offer your time and skills to those in need. You’d be amazed at how much fulfillment comes from giving to others, and you might even meet like-minded people along the way.
10. Don’t Forget: You Are Enough
At the end of the day, it’s easy to feel like singleness defines you, but remember that your worth comes from God, not your relationship status. Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” God sees you, loves you, and calls you enough just as you are.
Singleness might be a tough season, but it’s also one filled with opportunities to grow, laugh, serve, and trust in God’s timing. So, take a deep breath, laugh at the awkwardness, and keep pressing forward. God’s got a beautiful plan for you — whether it involves a relationship or not. And until then, you’ve got a purpose, a family of believers, and a God who loves you deeply. Keep that chin up, and maybe keep a few good jokes on hand for the journey.
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