As singles, we sometimes think that our lives are in balance and we have things under control. Suddenly, however, we find the rug pulled out from under us.
I can finally pay those bills each month that I used to dread. My relationship with my family has been restored. My heart is at peace and I can feel complete without having a partner at my side. Then a large gust of wind comes along and all of the things that we struggled so hard to get into place are scattered.
How will I have the strength to pick up all these pieces again? What did I do wrong, or not do that I find myself seemingly back to where I first started? Did I disappoint God? Did He forget that I was here?
These are questions we all as single Christians may ask as we search for some explanation for our crisis. Part of our human condition is that we can’t understand the big picture in God’s entire plan. Our vision is limited and short-sighted. We can only focus on what is directly in front of us at the time.
If you looked at a large tapestry up close, it would seem like a bunch of jumbled-up threads without any sense of order. Step back a few feet and your eyes would behold the beauty of a magnificent work of art.
Only God can see our lives as that magnificent work of art and know that all that jumbled-up messiness is woven together into a beautiful creation. Romans 8:28 tells us that all things work together for good. That is fine, you may say, but how do I deal with my jumbled-up mess and have faith in God’s promise in the meantime?
Fortunately, we are not left without a resource to navigate this life. We have God’s word and guidance in His word. First, we must be assured in God’s unconditional love for us as His children. The trials we face in this life are not punishment for anything we have done. That is not the nature of our God. There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1)
You may feel like you have already suffered so much. You have turned to God, repented for your sins so why are you forced to suffer more? Jesus promised eternal salvation for all who believe in Him, he never said that it was going to be an easy road.
Our faith in God will give us the strength to endure these times. God is faithful; he will not let you experience a crisis, beyond what you can bear. He will give you a way out so you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
One of the biggest things I have learned about why God allows us to be tested in this world is to bring us closer to Him. We tend to put God on the back burner until we need Him. We check in weekly just to say “Hi, things are good and everything is pretty under control down here”
Are they really good? Do you have things under control or are you allowing God to be in control? Maybe God is just trying to get your attention. We are all God’s children. He wants to be part of our lives each and every day.
As a Christian single going through storms of life pray continuously and give thanks in your circumstances (1 Thessalonians) that doesn’t mean that God expects us to be thankful FOR the storm we are in. We are just called to remember that we serve an awesome God who will deliver us out of the storm and restore us to Him.