Looking for self-care ideas for Christian singles? Being single during the holidays can feel like you’re the odd ornament on an otherwise perfectly curated tree. But guess what? You’re not alone. (Literally, Jesus is always with you. Can I get an amen?) ?
Whether you’re navigating Christmas as a solo flier or dodging mistletoe like it’s a dodgeball tournament, there’s one thing you can absolutely own this season: self-care. So, grab your peppermint mocha, cozy up in that onesie, and let’s talk about making the holidays your most joyful, peaceful, and fun-filled time yet.
1. Deck the Halls (Your Way)
Who says holiday decorations are reserved for families or Pinterest queens? Channel your inner Bob Ross and create a winter wonderland that’s uniquely you. Hang fairy lights, craft some DIY ornaments, or splurge on that bougie scented candle that smells like a cedar forest blessed by angels.
Better yet, turn it into a spiritual activity. Play some classic Christmas hymns (hello, “O Holy Night”) and reflect on the true reason for the season. Bonus: decorating is a great way to avoid answering Aunt Marge’s favorite question, “Still no boyfriend, huh?”
2. Master the Art of Saying “No”
Being single often means people assume you’re free for everything. Office party? “Surely you can help decorate!” Church bake sale? “You’ve got plenty of time!” Family dinner? “Bring the green bean casserole!”
No, Karen. Just no.
Practice setting boundaries. Politely decline invitations that don’t bring you joy or drain your mental energy. Say “yes” only to things that align with your values or sound genuinely fun. And remember, even Jesus retreated from the crowd to recharge. If He can take a breather, so can you.
3. Treat Yo’ Self: Holiday Edition
Got your eye on that luxurious blanket or the overpriced skincare set? This is your official permission slip to indulge. Singles often save a fortune by not having to buy “couple gifts,” so why not redirect that budget to yourself?
Here’s a pro tip: Wrap the gift, write yourself a sweet card (“To: Me, From: Future Spouse—Just kidding, it’s you”), and open it on Christmas morning. You’ll feel like Oprah gifting herself a car.
4. Host a “Jesus and Jammies” Night
Instead of staring at your Netflix queue, invite a few single friends over for a cozy night in. Make it a potluck where everyone brings their favorite comfort food. Cue up some Christmas classics, or, for a faith-based twist, watch “The Nativity Story.”
Don’t forget to pause and read Luke 2 together. Reflecting on Christ’s birth is the perfect reminder that even the King of Kings arrived in this world under humble, quiet circumstances. Talk about relatable.
5. Plan a Solo Adventure
Nothing screams “boss-level independence” like traveling solo during the holidays. Whether it’s a quick road trip to see Christmas lights or a weekend staycation at a charming B&B, a change of scenery can work wonders.
If you’re feeling extra adventurous, check out a winter retreat offered by your church or Christian organizations. Who knows? You might meet someone who also loves hot cocoa and Isaiah 9:6. Just saying. ?
6. Rediscover Your Hobbies
Remember that watercolor kit collecting dust or the guitar you swore you’d learn to play? Now’s the time to dive back in. Hobbies are more than just time-fillers—they’re a way to worship the Creator by embracing the creativity He’s placed in you.
And if your hobby is baking, even better! Whip up a batch of cookies and deliver them to neighbors, the elderly, or the cute barista who gives you extra whipped cream. (We see you, sly evangelist.)
7. Set Goals for the New Year
While everyone else is writing vague resolutions like “exercise more,” you can be intentional about creating goals that truly matter. Start with a spiritual focus:
- How can I grow closer to God this year?
- What Bible study or devotional should I dive into?
- How can I serve others with my time or talents?
Being single gives you the flexibility to explore these goals without the distractions of family commitments. It’s like Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7:32—singleness can be a gift for undivided devotion to the Lord. (Yes, Paul was single too. You’re in good company!)
8. Volunteer and Spread the Love
Feeling lonely? Serve someone else. The holidays are the perfect time to reflect Christ’s love by volunteering. Pack meals for the hungry, visit a nursing home, or help your church with their Christmas outreach program.
There’s something deeply fulfilling about being the hands and feet of Jesus. Plus, giving back can put your own struggles into perspective. Suddenly, the fact that you don’t have a date to the Christmas Eve service seems a lot less important.
9. Create a Gratitude List
Yes, the holidays can amplify the feeling of “I’m the only single person left on Earth.” But instead of wallowing in self-pity (been there, done that), make a list of things you’re grateful for.
Include everything:
- “My hilarious group chat with friends.”
- “The barista who gave me free peppermint syrup.”
- “Jesus saving my life every single day.”
Gratitude has a way of flipping the script on loneliness. Suddenly, you realize how much you already have—even without a significant other.
10. Lean into Your Faith
Christmas is, at its core, about Emmanuel—“God with us.” While the world might glamorize romantic love during the holidays, we have the ultimate love story: a God who came down to dwell with us.
Take time to pray, meditate on Scripture, and journal your thoughts. If you feel the sting of loneliness, pour it out to God. He’s not afraid of your emotions, and His love is infinitely comforting. Remember Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
11. Laugh About It
Let’s be real: some holiday moments are just plain awkward. Like when your little cousin asks if you’re “forever alone” or when the church prayer circle casually includes “that God will send you a husband in His perfect timing.”
Instead of rolling your eyes, laugh. Humor is a fantastic coping mechanism, and honestly, some of these moments will make for hilarious stories later. (Or at least great content for your single-gals group chat.)
12. Reflect on God’s Plans for You
Jeremiah 29:11 is a favorite for a reason: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Being single doesn’t mean your life is on pause. It’s a season with its own unique joys, challenges, and opportunities for growth. Trust that God’s timing is perfect—even when it doesn’t match your holiday wishlist.
13. Self Care Ideas For Singles Conclusion
Make the most of December by ending it on a high note. Go to that candlelight service, send handwritten cards to friends, and call your grandma (she’ll love it). Step into the New Year feeling like the amazing, whole, God-loved person you are.
Remember: Your worth isn’t defined by your relationship status. It’s defined by the One who created you, loves you, and calls you His own. Now go ahead and slay this holiday season like the Christmas queen (or king) you are!
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