Sexual Purity as a Single Christian: A Path From Impurity

i am one of those who have been in the sexual pit. i’ve always thought that i could never turn my back from it, but it’s not true. It’s God’s perfect, beautiful and faithful love that has pulled me out and restored me. i just wanna encourage those who went through the same situation, to be selfless and to reach out to those who are experiencing it. it makes a huge impact to see someone reaching out to you…let’s live a life of love…

I have also struggled with sexual immorality in more ways than one for the past 13 years of my life and I am only twenty years old. I am a college student and feel like I am in Babylon – the pressures and temptations are so overwhelming here each night is an unbelievable battle to stay away from sin..and many nights I have failed myself. I have given myself to many and I have never had a boyfriend. My fear and hatred of the feelings of loneliness hold so strong in me that when I get that phone call at 2 am from my “friend with benefits” guy I have to go. I jump at the opportunity of spending one night with someone – for someone to want me even if it is just for the night is so amazing and unbelievable to me. This guy I know does not actually like me. I realize this and yet I still go to him. My desires are strong in lust but it is the horrible feeling of emptiness and loneliness that really makes me go to him.
I know what is right and what should be. I know that it is God’s love that I need and seek. It is his love that will fill my heart and all the holes I’ve torn in it and given away to lovers. I know he can make me whole again. But I don’t understand. I obviously don’t understand because I don’t stop doing what I am doing. I don’t feel the spiritual satisfaction of God’s love as much as I can feel the instantaneous relief of the physical “love”. I am struggling with this in the worst way right now. I have reached out for help but I don’t feel I am doing my part. I still have all the wants and desires as I have always had. This struggle is horrible and I feel as if it is killing me. I pray for strength and for God’s love to fill me up so that I may not feel these wants and desires. I do not know how to get out of this alone. I have such a strong hold on earthly things. I feel as if the only way to get through this is with someone else. I pray for God to send me a husband that may help me and guide me to understanding and having a healthy relationship and stearing me away from my impurity. But I fear God does not see me as ready for that now…and possibly ever. I know there are consequences to my actions and I fear most of all that God will not send me a husband but instead my greatest fear will be lived that I will be alone.
I hope some sense can by made of this. My thoughts are running wild in every direction. I’m fighting a battle in my mind and in my heart and I am very fearful of my own strength being far too fragile and weak to win this battle – maybe I will win it today and get through today and tonight but tomorrow is a new day and another battle. My strength is being drained from me.

Hi everybody,

i’m a sinner like you. And i certainly do fall into terrible sexual immorality like viewing pornography, indulge in sexual imaginations/fantasies, as well as masturbate. Worst still, i know Scriptures. And it is true few years back, i did doubt that i was even not born-again. Like what you guys mention, “what’s the point of asking for forgiveness if i’m going to commit this sins later/in future?” And in time past, my understanding of genuine repentance is like that of King David, after his adultery with Bathsheba and never to commit adultery again. [something like “go and sin no more” as the Lord Jesus told the woman who caught in the act of adultery]

This year, i’m 20, i had pornography influence since before the age of 6 but after age of 4 iirc. and a lot of sexual immoral experience except fornication. Where as adultery, i did it in the mind (see Matthew 5-7, Sermon on the mount). No matter what sin great or small, is still sin. At the age of 15, went to a fundamentalist church and attended service/sunday schools. Being taught not to commit fornication many times, abstain from all appearance of evil and many more, yet still fall into sin as sometimes i want, i urge or resign to temptation.

Kate: strength and victory comes from God. But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31)

When we think we are alone, often time is we lack trust and believe. Jesus Christ gave the great commission in Matthew 28 ending 3 verses. He said “and lo, I am with you alway, even until the end of the world.” Although visibly we are unable to see physically the Lord Jesus Christ, nevertheless his presence can be felt if we are close to him.

Grace: Men are already condemned if not for the Lord Jesus Christ (in John 3:17-18) We need to thank God all the more that we are saved.

With regards to this quote, ‘ask God for forgiveness but keep doing it again and again, and feeling like there is little point in asking for forgiveness when I know that I may do so again.’ as cited above.

-Although i may be wrong in my explanation, but i just would like to suggest something that is, before we pray, we should ask ourselves that are we earnestly willing to change? little by little, one step at a time? Is there anything that we are holding back? (as according to 2cor 6:14-7:1) is there a change in our attitude towards sin? The answer to these questions may not be answered immediately, but is there a desire to answer them in your life? Many a times the problem lies in “do we trust in prayer? or do we pray believing in Jesus’s name?”

God would love to hear our prayers more than we want to pray. There is a commandment, Pray without ceasing 1 Thessalonians 5:17. By fulfilling this commandments certainly help us to get rid of our vain thoughts and our faithlessness. Remember the Parable of the prodigal son? Luke 15:11 onwards, how the father when he receive his son who went away(or so called “wasted”), rejoice. Our heavenly Father is the same, he would joy and rejoice for our return to him.

And lastly the things that touch me most is found in Jeremiah 3:22a. Return, ye backsliding children and I will heal your backslidings.

This is the faithfulness of God wanting us to go back to him.

Certainly for my case, even after knowing these Scriptures and once upon a time touched me, yet i still fall and capitulate into sins of masturbations and pornography due to not praying without ceasing (both formally and informally). And by keep on committing such active sins, it certainly makes me think that i’m unable to serve in various ministries as my life hasn’t been proven in my total submission to God. Although i know one thing that is we are all unworthy to serve God, it is by God’s grace that we serve him. nevertheless my walk with God isn’t good.

Even as i typed my comments i do feel miserable as i’m not right with God at this point in time. May God forgive us for his mercies’ sake.

This comment of mind is never to condemn or look down but to tell you that, you’re not alone.

Verses quoted from King James Bible
In Christ with love,
Samuel

Hi guyz!!
Regarding sexual impurity, aAfter I read Kate and Grace’s replies, I was in tears…because I feel the shame they are feeling..I really do, because i too am a sinner…I have been sinner for too many years of my life..and the sad part is,iv been trying to leave my sinful life,but it just keeps on calling me back!!!…i am tired of carrying this sinful baggage on my shoulders…How do i stop this behaviour?…why do we so sin much?…
Dee

In regard to sexual impurity. I would like to agree with Samuel and a lot that he shared is true, and one of the things as single believers is to remember the scripture in Isaiah 41:10 where it says “Do not be afraid, for I am with you, dont be discouraged for I am your God, I will strengthen you and help you, I will hold you up with my victorious right hand” remember brothers and sisters that God is true to His word and He is a present help in trouble, so please dont get discouraged and feel like you have failed God, remember He knows what we are going to do before we do it, yet His love for us does not change, so when you fail and fall “Repent” He is just and faithful to forgive dont feel like you have repented so many times that you dont want to repent anymore, dont let the devil lie to you, the Blood of Jesus has made it possible for us to come to Him and ask for forgiveness as many times as we have to until we understand His love for us and get to the place where we dont do it anymore. Remember you have a Helper the Holy Spirit that helps us in our weaknesses so call on the His help and do not stay silent. A silent believer is a defeated believer so be open and honest with God about what you are going through. We are able to overcome because of Jesus. Stay encouraged.

Sister in Christ
CeeKay

Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about 7 months now and we are both strong Christians. We have talked about our sexual sin and how we need to keep our eyes on Gods plan, but being very attracted to eachother is really hard. not just physicaly attracted but also emotionaly, spiritualy. we are not having intercourse, but even touching over the clothes is something that we feel like we shouldnt be doing. We talk about marriage and how much easier we feel it would be because we dont struggle with wondering thoughts about other people. our biggest stuggle is physical stuff with eachother. we will mess up and then ask for forgiveness and then everything will be good for a few weeks but then we would get some alone time and at the time we both want it, but afterward we feel horible. is there some advice on how to flee from our sexual sin?? i care about this girl to much to lose her over sexual sin.
thanks

I’m so happy that I found this site.
I’m a 27 year old single male, I got saved a year ago.( Everything that is bad I think I have done it from Fonication,Drugs,crimes you name it.)God came into my life and changed it completely. The LORD called me to minister his word for his glory.
But even do I Pray ,recieve revalations, evangelize,preach,baptized in the Holy Spirit and fire. I fall into sexual inmorality (masturbation to be exact).I go true days were I ask the Lord why did He choose me for this? His Mercy and His Love goes way beyond our understanding. Corinthians 1:27
27But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.

I acknowledge that disobedience is the cause of myself falling into sin because the Holy Spirit calles me to pray and I act like I don’t know is the LORD calling me.
Ephesians 4:30
30And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

Before giving my life to Christ,I got married for the “wrong reason”. Still legaly married but separated (we both cheated on each other. I don’t want to be with her no more,I love her and care for her but as far as getting back toghether I just can’t do it, I don’t like her as a wife.
I Struggle with lonelines, I pray to GOD for a saved women, Im tired of falling into sin(masturbation) My urges get so stong that i have actually orgasom without touching myself, I can’t even have a conversation with a woman without sexual desires coming to mi mind; and for some reason after becoming a Christian the “wrong females” come to me , I run from females because I know is Satan that send these females to me and wants me to fall into fornication,sometimes in groups. But yet I’m afraid to end up by myself with out kids.
I’m afraid of falling after what JESUS has done for me.(Philippians 2:7-8)
Please pray for me!

I must be the worst christian guy because I’ve come from such a good family background and really given my life to God from an early age. God has given me a lot too. But I have done so many bad things and for all I know I will probably do them again. I regularly pay for sex. It started out once after my girlfriend broke up I was devastated and wanted to do the worst thing to myself that I could. And over time it became a way to deal with hurt and pain. But now its the only way I know to release my sexual charge. I’m also on prozac which seems to intensify my appetite (both for food and sex). Its hard in your mid-20s when the urges are so strong. I don’t have a girlfriend that I can even think about and I don’t think a girl will ever want to marry me. Even I try to live the single celibant life but can’t. I don’t know what to do. Obviously I ask for forgiveness but then a month later I sin again. Television doesn’t help all the commercials use sex. And friends just encourage me to be promiscious. The only good thing is that one of my female friends started hanging out. She’s very beautiful (both inside and outside) and I could control myself if I had hope that there was a future for us but I don’t think there is 🙁 I just don’t want to sin and let Jesus down anymore.

In regard to sexual impurity and singles, the bible says that some things come by fasting as well as prayer. So I have seen that fasting helps with self control. Thank God the blood covers us and we do not have to live in condemnation because we are in Christ. I will fast and pray for all of us that continue in this struggle. I hope to hear from those who are successful with controlling sexual urges. It is funny I was delivered from smoking and I cannot smoke a cigarette. I wonder will I ever get to the point well I cannot commit fornication or adultery???? Or will it always be a self control type of thing? Any one out there in which the desire for sex has been taken away until your wedding day??

Well, i’m a born again christian who has been struggling with sexual sins since from a very young age. I’ve been reading and relating to each and every one of you. I’ve grown to except my life the way it is. I’ve tried everything, prayer, therapy and etc but still, i keep heating back to same spot. But someday i know that God will deliver me as he did in many other challenges i’ve faced.

But a prayer from all of you guyz would help so much!

indeed, in line with sexual impurity, there is no temptation which can seize you except what is common to man… i’m also struggling with this area.. the thing that i want to do, is so difficult, but the thing which i know i shouldn’t do, i keep doing.. just a few hours ago, i fell with my gf. nothing too serious, but.. it’s just something i hope won’t happen again. felt a little disappointed and responsible. on one hand, i don’t want my relationship to revolve around just one facet of the relationship, but on the other.. i am always cheeky, and i feel that it’s one of my attractive quality, without being cheeky and daring, she wouldn’t find me attractive anymore. i guess that’s the deeper issue i am struggling with, insecurity

As an older single Christian man, and have never been married, I can relate to alot of your frustrations, I have been walking with the Lord now for over 12 years, and will soon be 48 years old.
I used to be addicted to porn, and sleeping around and masturbation, and do struggle with loneliness at times, but I believe with all my heart and soul, that the Lord is waiting for me, to bless me in His more than perfect timing for a mate. I worry about my age, but know His timing is perfect, and not to worry about my future as a single.
I have been walking in purity now for a long time, and committed to serving in the children’s ministry at the church I attend, which is a strong accountability partner for me, plus I have other Christians praying for me, and holding me accountable.
You must fight off all sexual immorality, with the Lords help and others who are also committed to purity, because the reward of waiting until marriage, far outweight me abusing the gift of sexuality God has given to me.
I talk this time to grow closer to Him, serve Him whole heartedly, and fellowship with other believers, and look forward to using His great gift and treasure of sexuality in a strong Christian marriage someday.
So don’t despair, I have waited almost 48 years now, and just starting to realize it’s about God, not me, and as I seek first His kingdom, He will provide.
I am praying for all of you, and encourage you to hang in there help is on the way.:):)

Hello guys. My fiance and I also struggled with sexual impurity for years already and we are both Christians as well. We broke up several years back and that left a great scar in me, I had a harder time moving on that time due to the intimacy we had. Years later, we’re back together and I thought then that since this is the 2nd time, this is really God’s timing and leading for us. We were engaged 2 months ago and I was indeed thrilled how things are working out for us. Since we are to be married, I allowed intimacy again since he reasoned we are to be married soon. Then just this month, he called off the wedding. I’m too shocked and confused and felt so cheated on. Should i just take all these events as coming from God or should I still try to save the relationship? Pls pray for me.

Hi! There’s no doubt that this struggle of sexual impurity tops satan’s favorite to deceive and lure people. I pray that more fragile minds and hearts will be enlightened and their eyes be opened from the enemy’s trap. It is stealing us joy and God’s wonderful plan and purpose for our lives. If we will not get serious and fight this deceit it is as if we are allowing satan to rule us and let him steal best things God originally designed for us to have, to have peace, joy, and an abundant life living to the full. God loves us so much, He is just waiting for us to repent, be serious about this, He can’t wait to give us the blessings any longer, all He need is for us to come to Him and completely surrender confess and turn away from this trap. God bless you all!! you can do it with God’s grace! It is never too late to make a decision to once again give yourself a chance as God is loving and patient, He is the God of second chances for those sincere and truthfull hearts! Shine for Jesus!!!!

So, I have noticed that there are a lot of christian relationships that have fallen into sin. This really shocked me because I thought I was alone in this topic. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active and I know that God forgives me but I just keep doing it still. We’re both in a christian university and we’ve been dating for 1 year and 7 months. My big question is what to do with the relationship? My boyfriend is such an AMAZING guy with all of the qualities I have looked for in a future husband. We are best friends and he brings me up spiritually, however, we are in this sin.. Does God want me to leave him because of this sin or am I supposed to keep trying? I want to do God’s will but I also don’t want to give up my best friend and regret it. I know that once you have committed such sin (especially with how many times we have) , it is almost impossible to turn the relationship around but should I still be trying? I want to marry this man so badly. Please help me with some advice.

I feel your pain and I understand your setuation. It is not an easy passage. Life sometimes pushes us to such narrow passage than hinders us to use our accumulated wisdom. At times, we need a “”donkey”” to communicate with us. However pacient will do the trick. Do not give in for dispaire let pacient inspire you. I hope this new person is not using you-it is an abuse of trust. Abuse also breeds abuse. May be out of fear you are giving in to another abuser. Do you want that? I do not think so. Since you are not thinking and seeing clearly at this point, pray and wait. The Lord has someone there for you. A better lover is there. If you be pacient then he will be there!!! May the Lord Jesus Christ

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Single 39 female, 13 years since baptized. But, masturbation has been making me struggle and feel terrible in the last 6 years. I just did not battle with it at all the first 7 years as a Christian even I was sexually active b4 converted. God really turned it off then.

I know it has been more of a control issue when I am stressed, angry or dissapointed. I think lately I am allowing it much more often and in wilder ways than b4. Certainly I have read all the scriptures around it and about the body as our temple. But I feel is TRUSTING the Lord what I should work on.

I hate when I hear Crhistians and worst if they are counsellors and prechers saying it is ok bc “singles need a way to let go and it is better than getting involed w/somebody…”

For me it is a practice that exercises and strength my rebeliousness, selfishness, isolation, and deceitfulnes of feeling-thinking I could get satisfaction by myself and I do not need anybody. I think-feel it just takes me farther from learning experience what love, patience and giving means. I just do not want to become a person like that. But I also feel too weak to excersise everyday, fast or keep looking for whom may help. To weak to fight it, and keep trying to prevent it (I do not watch TV any more) but sometimes my body just aches for it.

Am I too legalistic? I know God forgives me and loves me, … butI do not think that is the issue.

Thank you so much for this. I’ve been struggling with masturbation over the past year and a half. I feel so terrible and guilty. I always tell myself and tell God I won’t ever do it again, but I said that… 10 months ago, and I say it again and again. I feel dreadful for being so disobedient and keeping it all to myself. This made me feel better and made me want to endeavor towards the ultimate goal of never doing again. Thank you again. In Christ.

Hi my name is Hope and i just wanted to let you guys know that EVERYONE sins encluding preachers, teachers, pastors, christians, … But that doesnt mean you can’t know the lord and take in his word. I am a christian and have been one for years and yet i still fall under the sin of masterbating, cursing, and even having the wants of having sex….but thats when i have to be strong put it behind me and just say No. God loves you dont ever forget and when you feel ashamed or guilty ask for his forgiveness he hears you. I myself have found myself getting better at just saying No…its hard but if i can do it so can u dnt quit stay strong and most importantly go to the lord.

I have not done any sexual intercourse with someone but I still feel that I am not pure and I feel so terrible because I’ve been engage in pornography such as reading sex stories and I know that It’s not good and I feel very ashamed of my self because I was a Sunday School teacher in our church before and I everybody thinks that I’m such a good person but they don’t know that I am really struggling inside. Actually I was able to stop engaging my self in doing such things for like 3 months and now this week I did it again and I feel so scared to God because He might be very angry to me and maybe He feels very disappointed to me. I really want to stop doing this I want to be clean and pure. Lord, I am so sorry for engaging my self in pornography, please help me to stop doing this and Lord please help me to become a better person. I am asking that you will give me a strong will to say no to the urges of temptation. Lord please help me….

I am so tired of fighting sexual urges and battling with this issue. I was a very strong Christian until I fell in love with someone who did not believe. I waited for so long to meet someone but I never did until I was well into my late twenties. I still truly love this woman with all my heart but I broke up with her because we had sex and I felt too guilty about everything. She was one of my best friends and I feel that religion has messed up everything in my life. I ended up a complete wreck because of this. All I have now in my life is loneliness and I feel like I cannot be celibate until I am married. I am tired of waiting and I am angry with God. It is easy to say that you are going to wait until marriage when you are 18, but when you are going into your THIRTIES it just feels impossible!!!!!! Everyone else I know who does not believe in God is enjoying their young lives and young bodies and having sex all the time while I am the one who is totally depressed and a complete wreck. Why is this? Aren’t Christians supposed to feel peace, love and joy in their lives. I agree with Tired who commented above that it is too much to deal with some times. I really feel like I should just walk away from this stupid faith and never come back but I have tried to do that and I can’t. I can’t live without God but I am struggling to live as a Christian. Most of my friends are married by now and they cannot understand me. I get so depressed some times that I just want to kill myself. I just don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like being a Christian just isn’t worth it anymore.

To all: I to have struggled with some of these sins as mentioned above. But I am sad but not defeated in my struggle to put an end to these sins. Some God has taken from me, some remain. I think some remain to remind me that I am a sinner and I will die a sinner. But a saved sinner. All christians sins are forgiven ALL past, present and future. Praise Jesus! We are all in a process of santification. That means God is at work in your life showing you your sins through the Holy Spirit. Thats who is convicting you of your sin. Thats why you fill ashamed. Stay the course and God will free you, just stay the course. Fight the fight. And even if you die today your sins are forgiven. Praise Jesus! See Jesus is more concerned about the condition of your heart than if you can obey all he wills for you. If you could do all that then who needs jesus. So stay the course and remember your going to heaven not because you you can keep all Gods commands, but because your already pure in Gods eyes. That doesn’t give you the licence to sin, and what true christian would want to. Stay in the battle and when you die God could say to you “Well done my good and faithful servent”. God is perfect you are not.

katsel4 – In reply to your post I just wanted to give my own viewpoint. Firstly, God actually created our bodies and he created sex. He created it to be a beautiful thing and it surely is! In fact, God told us to go forth and multiply so it is not something that God created to be misconceived as being bad, or disguisting. I think you know that though! but just stating that point in the lead up to my second point. My second point is that affection is the language of love expressed through the body. Holding someones hand, says “I’m with you”, a hug could say “You’re safe with me”. A simple sign of affection expressed by the body says more than words possibly could in many cases! This brings me to sex before marriage. Sex is the most intimate sign of affection you can give to another. It is self giving, it is saying “I am absolutely completely yours” When not in the context of marriage, you have to ask oneself, am I therefore telling a lie with my body, because I am not married to this person and am therefore not committing myself to them for the rest of my life. A general rule of thumb is that you should only be as physically affectionate with someone as you are willing to commit. That means anything from no kissing on the first date if you’re not even sure if you can commit to a second date to no sex before marriage if you feel you can’t commit to that person for the rest of your life.

God bless you and keep you.

Thank you thank you thank you for theses posts. JUST A WARNING!- MY STORY IS VERY SHAMEFUL: I have been struggling with sexual impurity for years. I slept with a married man wen i was 17. Then I slept with the brother of a guy I was seeing thinking it would ! I have been struggling with pornpgraphy addiction for about 2 years. Pornograpy is such a awful and serious sin because it is very difficult to escape from. I felf sooooo sick when after watching it (ESPECIALLY since im a woman in my 20s). and then promis I wont do it again, and then of course I fail. Also I wouldnt want to pray to God after because of the shame. My excuse for watching it was that ‘I havent slept with anyone since I was 17 so this is ok’. But its not because it SEPERATES us from GOD. GOD created sex. He knew that we would love it; thats why he made conditions as to how it is appropriate. It should ONLY be done within a MARRIED communion, where a commitment is made with each other’s body.

Inside myself I knew that what I was doing was wrong and that I needed to change. I then started to put myself right with God and get to know Jesus all over again. Because without Jesus, we will all be lost and completely done for. I have started reading a book called MESSAGES TO YOUNG PEOPLE by ELLEN G WHITE. and it teches about the importance of SELF CONTROL of the BODY as well as the MIND! It also taught me that when u sin, you CAN still PRAY, and tell God about your sin no matter how unworthy u feel.I have also started reading the Bible again and I have began to remember that God really does LOVE us all ( sooooooo much that he sent his only Son, our Lord Jesus Christ to die on our behalf and face humiliation and ridecule so we didnt have to). And JESUS has soooooooo much love for alll of us: He loves us (the sinner) but hates our wrong actions (the sin). I am learning each day to have self control over my mind and body and i havent watched pornograpy for so long that I dont even want to remember the last time.

So after this long ramble, I wanna say that we can all be free of any sexual impurity on 4 oconditions; 1. CONFESS TO GOD OUR SINS 2. CHANGE OUR MIND ABOUT WANTING TO SIN 3.ASK JESUS DAILY TO HELP US TO RESIST TEMPTATION (because HE knows how hard temptation can be) 4. READ THE BIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Sandj,

It is so refreshing to hear your committment to waiting until you are married to have intercourse. This is a wonderful decision you have made that you will never regret. It seems that you have had struggles in some other areas, but that does not erase the accomplishment you have in protecting the most important part of your sexual purity. I can understand how impossible it must feel to confess these things to a priest.

Confession and repentance is essential to our forgiveness, Christians have different opionions on what form this takes on. Without entering into an area of philosophical debate on the subject I will focus on what holds true for all Christian, regardless of denomination.

God Himself, and He alone, takes away sin. (Lev. 4:21; Num. 5:7; 2 Sam. 12:13: Ps. 32:5, 38:19; 51:5,19) It is Jesus’ blood on the cross that saves us and that alone. Not deeds, or good works, not any religious rituals. When we try to add those things into the mix, we are saying that his crucifixtion wasn’t sufficient.

Think of it this way. When God created Adam and Eve they were right with God. They lived in the garden of Eden and enjoyed all the benifits of being in God’s grace. They were disobedient and brought sin into the world. Then they were seperate from God. The Old Testament is full of rituals, sacrifices and Pharisees.

That is why mankind needed a savior.

When Jesus died for our sins he restored our relationship to God. We are no longer seperate from God. We have complete access to God through Jesus Christ.

The bible tells us if we confess our sins to God, and repent we are forgiven. “If My people, who are called by My name, shall humble themselves, pray, seek, crave, and require of necessity My face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land. (2 Chronicles 7: 14)

I hope you can be comforted in this promise that God has given to us.

God Bless,

Jodi

Look, sexual sin is a killer. I’m only 13 and God is doing amazing things in my life. Im the leader of a bible study, currently changing peoples lives, just I see just some of the things God is doing for me. Then this sin is killing me. Before I found christ I was addicted to masturbation and porn. Then when I became a Christian it became worse. Im so lost and scared and I dont even know what to say. Im so scared that my life may be ruined by this that im helplessly telling you what my problem is and Im stuck. Im only 13 what do I do? Every time I think im free it comes up again. And I dont even feel shameful anymore because I have abandoned Gods forgiveness and sexual sinned knowing id be forgiven and it was really messed up. I want to change the world I love helping people but what most people dont realize about me is that my heart is aching for love and peace and freedom. I need help. All I do is help others but I just cant seem to help myself. What do I do?

Bry,

You SAID it right,

“Walk in the Spirit, and YOU WILL NOT gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” Gal 5:16

Yet easier said than done. Bry he or she got it so right, it’s all about your focus, sinful lust is focused on self fullfillment while godly love is focused on how you can please Him, and you can only please Him when you walk in the Spirit.

Keeping yourself pure…

“In view of God’s mercy . . . offer your body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship.” Romans 12:1

…is actually TRUE WORSHIP! View it as such, don’t see temptation as a painful time when you must deny yourself of carnal fullfillment, view temptation as an opportunity to love and worship God, and so with joy offer yourself to God and rejoice because you have been given the priviledge to honor him with your body, mind and heart.

“”If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever— the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Before long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.”
John 14:15-21

You are all children of God through faith in Jesus Christ, you have been born of the Spirit, you are a New Creation, you have God on the inside living in you and you live in Him, you are His temple, His house, your spirit has union with His Spirit, walk pure so that you can keep in step with Him, not just sexually but in every area, God has great plans for us, don’t allow yourself to be cheated out of his perfect will.

BUT if you stumble RETURN to Him immidiately, HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH, YOU HAVE NO IDEA, IF YOU COULD ONLY SEE, if you mess up HE DOESN’T HATE YOU, just keep trying, check your heart, we all stumble, we all feel like the worst of sinners BUT WHERE THERE IS SIN GOD’S GRACE SUPER-ABOUNDS. Grace to cover you, grace to heal you and grace to give you strength to resist temptation and it all starts by changing the way you think about these things and by believing that you do have the power to conquer all things.

Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We havent had sex and plan on waiting until marriage, but we still sin in other ways. It is just so hard having been together for 5 years and saying no to those feelings. I recently have been getting these werid feelings about if I should be with him or not. I don’t know if they are from God and I am afriad to ignore them. It is just every time I get them they make me feel so depressed and afraid. I really love my boyfriend and don;t want to end it. but I don’t konw how else to get rid of the feelings. Is it God? Is there a way to save this relationship and still stay pure. We are both christians very much in love, he just wants to wait until after college to get married. I am afraid I stay out of temptation that long. Help? Advice?

So I just stumbled across this site…quite thankful I did. I am a Christian I cant even say I fell in to sexual sin I knowingly walked right into it. I went through a period of rebellion and got into a none committed sexual relationship with a friend. After almost a year I couldn’t stand my life without Jesus anymore and I wanted all my mess ups to go away. I went and confided in a friend and my pastors wife. Then going on their advice I went to talked to the ex who was my very dear friend and told her. My name and sin got spread around my church. I loved my church it was home and safe and now a year later, I am still struggling with the sexual relationship, and because of the shame of what I did being spread around my church I can’t stomach to go. I feel defeated before I even get out of the gate. I know God can give me strength to get this relationship out of my life but I feel so alone and I am so afraid to talk to anyone now because of what happened when I did. I feel blind sided, chewed up and spit out and I dont know where to turn.

Hi,
I hope someone can help me. I was introduced to “that stuff” at a very early age and have been struggling with for a long time. Sometimes I am able to stop for a while but it eventually comes back and I struggle again. I am early 20’s and ive had 5 accountability partners all of which have failed to keep me axcountable. Now I can’t blame sin on them but how can I come back a second time and ask for accountability again. I just started a paid position at my church and am really struggling at the moment. Please someone help me, I am in tears and can’t stand it anymore. Sometimes I just wish Jesus would take me away from all this struggle. Sometimes I wish I could end my struggle myself. Please someone help me, I don’t know what to do anymore. Someone please help me!

i am 42 years old and single. i desire to lead a good life. i have many friends but i have no trust in them. i am cheated by them.
i have no one to share my feelings. afraid to say. i am finding difficult to overcome my sexual feelings. i need your concern to overcome my feelings.

Hello to everyone!
My name is Jules and I am a born-again Christian, I saw Simon and ‘struggle’ s comments and i wanted to let you guys know that If you wanna chat to someone going through a similar thing let me know! I would be glad to pass on my email details and we can pray for each other and encourage each other in the everyday struggles. To Simon, I know how you feel, I find it even harder been a girl, usually girls arent percieved in that way and it’s a daily struggle, failed yesterday but today will try to be strong!
Gomme a shout whenever.
God bless.
x

I feel so horrible, shameful, guilty. A few years back I was in a “weekend fling” with someone, it lasted maybe 3 weeks. He called one day and said he went to his Dr. and was told he had a STD, And he wanted me to see my Dr. to be sure I am ok. I will say it was considerate of him to call and tell me. I went to my Dr and got a checkup, I did not have a STD, I was fine. I thank God. and from then on, I stopped the fling and told my self no more, God’s Grace was with me and promised I would act on sexual impurity anymore. Well, very recently I was hanging out with someone I met. Said no in begining, sometime later after not talking in a while, we met up, and I knowingly stepped into sexual sin. Afterwards, I went home and even now I feel so shameful, guilty, awful, and fearful, I know God forgives and will never leave us, but I feel alone, and would he forgive me? I also am afraid this will affect my family, loveones, will my sin hurt them too and will they be punish? physically, mentally? I just feel I cant face God, Thank you for this site I hope someone can help me. Help us all who are struggling with same issues.

I am so thankful God brought me to this site. I thought I was all alone in this struggle for sexual purity. I can relate and have felt exactly the same way many of you have. Jesus saved me 3 yrs ago from my old life and gave me new life in Him, but I have fallen into sexual sin time after time. I have asked for forgiveness and do ok for a little while and then before you know it , I have fallen again. Last night I was planning to go see a guy that I am seeing with no intentions to have sex, infact I was praying before I went that the Lord would keep me strong and I was thinking of scriptures in my mind… Flee sexual imorality… the only thing is even though all of this… I did not flee, we had sex and the sad thing is the whole time Im thinking this is wrong, we should stop, God is seeing this right now and I didnt. Everytime this has happened I feel defeated, like how could God still love me, I feel filthy and disgusting. I sense my heart hardening and feel that I can not even ask for forgiveness, that Gods mercy has ran out for me. I look back and see that before giving into having sex God has provided me with chances to escape (there is a vs in the bible about that with evey temtation God will provide a way of escape) but I knowingly ignored those chances, and then I feel even worse, and I should! When I woke up this morning I felt emotionless and numb to my sin. I felt so alone, I know I am sinning against God and I need Him! I need Help! So I googled because I needed to know I wasnt the only one stuggling with this. I came acoss this site and tears streamed down my face as I read each comment, I can honestly say the Lord used each persons stuggle to bring me to my knees and confess my sin and ask God for forgiveness….. AGAIN. I also read a comment about confessing your sin to others so they can pray for you and you can be healed. To anyone who reads this I desparately need you to lift me up in your prayers! As I feel I can not even share this with my own family or my church family. It has been a terrible secret and a heavy burden. Thankyou to my brothers and sisters in Christ who understand and have given me words that I needed to read and words of encouragement. So Im leaving this vs: Romans 8:38-39 And I am convinced that NOTHING can ever separate us from God’s Love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today, nor our worries about tomorrow- NOT EVEN THE POWERS OF HELL CAN SEPARATE US FROM GOD’s LOVE. No power in the sky above or the earth below-indeed nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God which is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

prayer or faith without action is dead. I’m strugglin with dis sin too but i knw keepin myself occupied with oda things of interest can really help (it’s helpin me). Find good n motivatn frends you can spend quality time wit, develop new hoppies, find things dat make you happy like shoppin, dressin up, bakin, cookin or host of others. Find out you talent and gifts n be the best in smtin. idleness most times lure us to sin. task ur brain….dnt let sin be d only tin dat gives u pleasure

You people think you got it bad, ha! I’m a sssssinner saved by grace. I was a dealer in the MS casinos for 13 years, I’m a homosexual, I was a drunk for most of my life, experimented with drugs, smoked, cheated on my partner, stole, lied, took peoples money for fun, exploited their fears and pretended I cared about them, negative, hateful, cynical, rebellious against any form of authority, especially cops. But I gave my heart to Jesus when I was very young and deep inside in the midst of my sinful life I knew I had a calling and it wouldn’t leave me alone, it nagged at me and convicted me continually until I could no longer drown it out. Thank God he has delivered me from my sin and given me a whole new existance. I still have to keep my eyes on Jesus though because Satan is out there just waiting on a chance to drag me back down to hell. It is a fight people but with God we are more than conquerors. Don’t let the lies of Satan defeat you again, rebuke him anytime he trys to tell you its too late, or you’re too bad or not good enough, if its a feeling of condemnation its from Satan, not God, rebuke it out loud so the devil can hear you. don’t fear him, he is already defeated thanks to what Jesus did at the cross. And after you rebuke him out loud, repeat this scripture out loud, God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 With love to all my brothers and sisters in Christ.

Please help me in prayer.i find it difficult to stop masturbation