Lets face it: We live in a society that promoting the idea that marriage (if you even want to get married, that is) should be put off until you have 3 college degrees, an established career and steady income. The concept of being single isn’t foreign at all, in fact the media is portraying it as being the norm. Singles are being shouted at by our society that a life focused on bettering yourself, materialism and casual sex is better than settling down in marriage ESPECIALLY if you are young and unestablished. At first glance, remaining single while you focus on a career and education may seem like the logical thing to do. However, when you take a deeper look into what is happening to our society and compare it to what God’s Word has to say about marriage, it might cause you to think again about putting off mariage.
God created man with a strong sex drive – and not just for procreation, but also to enjoy intimacy and affection with each other. He put the desire for sexual union with the opposite gender in us from the very beginning.
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24.
That is just the way we are wired as humans, and when we try to change the established order of what God intended, it only leads to pain! Marriage and sex were created by God for man to thrive the way God intended. It is no surprise that two virgins marrying each other is almost unheard of these days. Never before in the history of man kind has there been a push to abstain from marriage! Interestingly enough, 1 Timothy 4:3 states that one of the signs of the last days is the “forbidding of marriage”, an “idea taught by demons!”
“The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3 They forbid people to marry……” -1Timothy 4:1-3
He goes on to say that:
“everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving” 1Timothy 4:4
Considering how popular the ideology of abandoning marriage for lives of casual sex and single-parent families is becoming, I think we as Christians really need to seek the Lords will on this issue! The enemy wants to pervert God’s plan for humanity as much as possible, and as his children, we are called to be set apart as holy to the Lord.
If the enemy wants to trap us and tempt our weak flesh, and our desire for marriage and sexual union is God given, we need to be diligent and prayerful in this area or we may injure out spirits with sinful relationships. 1 Corinthians 7:9 says that it is better to marry than to burn with lust.
I understand that many people reading this article may have the desire to get married and are waiting on God for their spouse. That is a totally different situation than purposely deciding not to get married. The point I’m making is that we need to let God be sovereign over our lives and we need to surrender our future to his will.