Well, the holiday season is upon us again. Surviving the holidays as a single person can be tough. As single women and men dreading yet another holiday season alone, you’re probably struggling or thinking about:
- Where you’re going to spend the holidays to avoid depression and loneliness
- How unfair it is that another Christmas is coming, and you’re still single
- What you’re gonna tell or do to those annoying relatives who ask you again why you’re not yet married.
The holiday season is often seen as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. However, for many single Christians, it can also be a challenging and lonely time. The emphasis on family gatherings, romantic relationships, and holiday traditions can sometimes make you feel left out. But fear not! With the right mindset and strategies, you can not only survive but thrive during the holidays as a single Christian.
surviving the Holiday Blues Survival Guide
As you reflect upon how to approach the potential for holiday blues this season, it’s important to celebrate in a way you feel comfortable as a single person, whether you are dating or not. As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and Christmas pagan hype, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you:
Holiday Do’s for Singles
Focus on the birth of our dear Lord and Saviour, Jesus, as the focal point of your holiday. Not to employ an overused cliche, but He is, after all, the Reason for the season. If you have never heard the Good News about Jesus, you can read here about how to become a child of God. Jesus loves you so much!
Do remember that as a single you have the same need and right to enjoy this holiday season as any other couple or family does. So if you want to decorate your home or apartment, do it up well! How you choose to spend the holidays is your personal choice, not that of those around you. Before being cajoled by friends and family members to attend this event or that party, ask yourself if this is really what you want to do. Will it make you feel more lonely and depressed? Will it bring others AND you some measure of joy?
As a single person, set level expectations for the holidays. Have fun in the way you see fit, but don’t allow the world to pressure you into unrealistic expectations of what the holiday time should bring. That way, if things don’t go that way, there will be less disappointment and hurt.
Jesus said “it’s more blessed to give than to receive.” So, make this Christmas a time of service to others instead of focusing on your own needs and wants as a single person. Doing things such as feeding the poor or visiting the sick will not only help you put the holidays into their proper perspective, it will cause your spirits to soar! We guarantee it.
If you have not already done so, find a Christian singles group or church in your area where you can find and give support to other singles during the holidays. If you’re not part of any group, why not throw a holiday bash for other single friends you know?
Make sure to count every blessing the Lord has granted to you in the past. The holidays are an excellent opportunity to reflect on the blessings in your life. As a single Christian, you can focus on the gratitude you feel for your relationship with God, your friends, and your church community. Take time to count your blessings and thank God for the abundance of love and support in your life.
Holiday Don’ts for Singles
Avoid using too much alcohol (Ephesians 5:18) to cope with holiday stress because this tends to make one depressed.
As singles, we tend to overbook ourselves to the point of exhaustion. Make sure you don’t do this this holiday season, but give yourself plenty of downtime to relax and rest. Fatigue can lead to negative thought patterns.
Don’t spend all your holiday time with family members and other couples, but split the time to be with your single friends as well. This will help you keep a more positive perspective while enjoying everybody’s company
Overall, however, if you choose to celebrate the Christmas or New Year Holidays, remember to be safe, trust in God’s promises for your future (Jeremiah 29:11) and have fun! Happy Holidays!
Surviving the holidays alone as a single Christian is not only possible but can be a season of personal growth and spiritual enrichment. By embracing gratitude, creating meaningful traditions, staying active in your church community, reaching out to others, practicing self-care, and deepening your faith, you can find joy and purpose during this special time of the year. Remember that you are not alone, and God’s love and presence are with you every step of the way.
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