Many singles have a difficult time dealing with loneliness. This is especially true in cases where the single person had suffered a recent dating relationship break up, divorce or sudden loss of a loved one. Whatever the reason for loneliness, some singles feel as if their whole existence has become an empty and meaningless experience.
My dear brothers and sisters, if you are suffering this kind of lonliness, there are several practical steps you can take to help ease your pain.
5 Steps for Defeating Loneliness
Remember that God Knows Your Pain
Sometimes we feel no one understands the loneliness we are suffering. But you are not alone in your loneliness because the Lord is with you. More than that, Jesus Himself suffered loneliness and rejection, and because of that is able to empathize and sympathize with your suffering (Hebrew 4:15,16). Go to Him in prayer, and He will meet you in your need.
Keep Busy by Finding a Personal Hobby or Interest
When we experience loneliness, it’s easy to want to isolate ourselves and go into a shell. But this only makes our loneliness and depression worse.
Instead of retreating, make a schedule of your day, and chalk in some enjoyable activities to fill in your free time. Be creative, and try something new and exciting. You may not “feel” like doing this at first, but positive feelings will soon flow from your actions.
Volunteer Your Time at a Charitable Organization
One of the best medicines for loneliness is ministering to others who are in need. I don’t understand it, but a certain level of healing occurs when we take our eyes off of ourselves, and reach out to others who are hurting.
There are a huge number of worthwhile charitable organizations in the world. Volunteering at such places as a homeless shelter, World Vision, the Salvation Army or say, Habitat for Humanity, is a great way to show Jesus’ love in practical ways. It also helps takes our minds off our own problems while bringing us much needed contact with other people. It’s a win-win proposition.
Join a Christian Support Group
We all need a little help from time to time. Christian singles groups offer many benefits including great fellowship, spiritual guidance and loving support from singles who are probably going through similar struggles with loneliness. Many singles have also met their special soulmates through these types of groups. Finding one in your area of the world is as easy as doing a Google search. At Christian dating Service PLUS, we are actually in the process of listing every known Christian singles group under the sun, so if you have such a group let us know. 🙂
If you have special needs, such as you have just suffered a divorce, or have lost a loved one, www.divorcecare.com and www.griefshare.org are international programs where you may find help.
Keep Perspective on Your Loneliness
Finally, remember that everyone experiences loneliness, whether they are married, single, young or old. It’s simply a part of life. As the Scripture states: “There is a time and place for everything under the sun.” The important thing to recall is that, in the vast majority of cases, loneliness is a temporary experience. The Lord will provide you with all you need in regard to a relationship. Hang in there because He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
Furthermore, as Christians, we know that He works all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). Therefore, in the long run, loneliness can be a blessing in disguise if it causes us to run into the arms of God and makes us more thankful for the little things in life. Oftentimes, God meets us in special ways through our loneliness.
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hi ive been married and divorced and i can tell u that loneliness has little to do with being single, i felt desperate loneliness while married and i found shelter in the arms of God, i still do now that i’m single again, but I ask the Saviour to help me
I felt so lonely when my loved one left, nothing was able to fill that place , but when i came back to God , i felt better. pray for me that one day my loved one should come back
Sheeba I am so sorry your husband left you but sometimes we need to grow and our spouses get in the way. You need to ask God what he wants. God has the last word, does God want you and your husband to get back. What we want and what God wants for us is not always the same.