Are you one of the thousands of people waiting on God for a spouse? It’s a delightful mix of faith, prayer, a touch of confusion, and maybe the occasional “Lord, did You hear me?” moment. As Christian singles, we know the Bible has a lot to say about patience, trust, and the whole shebang when it comes to waiting on God’s timing. So let’s dive into this exciting (and sometimes amusing) rollercoaster ride of waiting on God to provide a spouse, sprinkled with humor, warmth, and biblical wisdom. Buckle up—it’s going to be a heartwarming, encouraging, and slightly hilarious journey.
1. The “I Am Ready, Where Are They?” Phase
You’ve prayed. You’ve fasted. You’ve read every Christian book on relationships that your local bookstore offers. In fact, you may even have highlighted every verse in the Bible remotely related to love and marriage. And yet… nothing. No heavenly nudge, no parting of the skies, and no mysterious figure saying, “I’m your Boaz” or “I’m your Ruth.”
It can be easy to feel like God has somehow misplaced your prayer request. Or perhaps He’s waiting for the perfect moment that just seems to be a little late. But don’t worry—God’s timing is perfect (Isaiah 40:31). He’s never late, and while it may feel like you’re in a holding pattern, this season of waiting is actually preparing you for something bigger than you can imagine.
2. “Single, But Not Alone”—Jesus is Still the Main Character
Here’s something to remember while you’re waiting: You’re not alone! The Bible constantly reminds us of this comforting truth. One of the best things about being a Christian single is the deeper intimacy we can have with God during this season. You’re not just waiting for a spouse; you’re getting to know your Savior in a more profound way.
Romans 8:28 assures us that “in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” The time you’re spending with God right now? It’s not wasted. He’s working in you and preparing you for that future relationship—growing you in wisdom, character, and faith.
3. The Friends Who Offer Questionable Advice
Ah, friends—those well-meaning, God-loving, advice-giving treasures in our lives. Some of them might offer their wisdom with the best intentions, like telling you, “Just stop looking, and that’s when they’ll show up!” Or, “Maybe God is calling you to singleness forever.” Cue your shocked expression. ?
Let’s be clear: God works in mysterious ways, yes, but that doesn’t mean you should be ready to make any drastic decisions based on someone’s advice during an afternoon coffee chat. God’s plan is uniquely crafted for each of us, and He doesn’t need anyone’s well-meaning advice to speed up His timing.
In fact, Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” It’s a reminder that we don’t need to get caught up in everyone else’s opinions or advice. Let God be the one guiding you in this season.
4. God’s Best Takes Time (And It’s Worth It)
Here’s the thing: waiting on God for a spouse doesn’t mean you’ve been forgotten. Think of it more like you’re in God’s workshop. He’s molding and shaping both you and your future spouse, ensuring that when the two of you meet, you’re not just ready for each other, but for the kind of marriage that glorifies Him.
Remember Abraham and Sarah? God promised them a child, but it didn’t happen overnight. They waited a good long while before Isaac finally arrived (Genesis 21). Patience was key then, and it’s key now. When God brings your future spouse into your life, it’ll be worth every moment of waiting.
5. Prayers of Desperation Turn into Prayers of Trust
If you’ve ever prayed something like, “Lord, please just send anyone—literally anyone—at this point,” you’re not alone. We’ve all had those moments of exasperation where we’re just so done with the waiting process. But over time, God transforms those desperate prayers into prayers of trust.
Philippians 4:6-7 is a great reminder: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” It encourages us to hand over our anxieties and trust God with our hearts.
Sure, we may start with prayers that resemble frantic texts to heaven, but God gently shifts our focus from the “when” to the “who.” Who is God making us into during this season? And who is He preparing for us?
Top 5 Tips for Waiting on God for a Spouse
Now that we’ve walked through the funny and faithful ups and downs of waiting, let’s dive into some practical tips for thriving in this season of singleness.
1. Focus on Your Relationship with God This is your time to strengthen your walk with Jesus. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have (a spouse), focus on what you do have—an amazing opportunity to deepen your relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 tells us, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
2. Pray with Expectation, Not Desperation Praying for a spouse should be an exercise in trust, not stress. Pray with the assurance that God hears you and has good plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust that He is working behind the scenes.
3. Don’t Put Your Life on Hold Just because you’re waiting doesn’t mean life should be at a standstill. Pursue your passions, grow in your career, travel, serve in your church—live your life to the fullest. When the time is right, your spouse will join you in that journey.
4. Surround Yourself with an Encouraging Community Community is vital. Surround yourself with friends who can pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
5. Trust God’s Timing—It’s Always Perfect Finally, rest in the fact that God’s timing is perfect. It may not align with your desired timeline, but trust that when He moves, it will be the perfect time. Isaiah 60:22 says, “When the time is right, I, the Lord, will make it happen.”
So as you wait, remember—you’re not alone. God is with you every step of the way, preparing you and your future spouse for something truly amazing. And when it happens, all those moments of waiting will make perfect sense.
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