What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

christuan single girls What do Christian single girls look for in a single Christian guy when contemplating a soulmate or marriage partner? This question always seems to percolate in any singles groups I have ever attended or led. We found some online surveys about Christian single girls (ages 18-70) you may find quite interesting.

Christian Single Girls and Men

Okay guys, so you’re no babe magnet? Don’t worry about it because the good news here is that single Christian girls of all ages appear to put physical attraction behind four other qualities that you may have. If you don’t have any of these, you may want to consider becoming a eunuch. 🙂

Qualities Christian Single Girls Want

Here are the top five qualities single Christian girls look for in a Christian single guy:

  1. Christian single women want a guy who is passionate about his Lord. Nothing is more attractive to a single Christian girl than a guy who is in love with Jesus, and passionate about following Him. A guy sold out for Jesus lets the single Christian girl know that he is not afraid of big commitments as in, ahem…marriage. I can’t believe I just wrote the “M” word.
  2. Christian single girls put a high value on a guy who can honestly share feelings. She wants to be able to trust that her potential husband is a man of his word, and faithful to her. It also doesn’t hurt that he is not afraid to cry while watching sad movies. Look, most of us have been burned by fakers and liars, and it hurts big time. For some of you guys who do have a problem in this area, I suggest listening to that old Billy Joel tune, Honesty, and doing a Bible word study on the word.
  3. Christian single girls are attracted to a guy with a good sense of humor. Life has lots of bumps in the road, and a sense of humor will help her keep perspective on what is really important (Col. 3:1) when the going gets tough. Plus, these kind of folks are just fun to be around.
  4. Single Christian girls are looking for a guy who can provide a stable environment. Translation: A single woman finds a man appealing who has a steady job and loving relationships with his immediate family members. This shows the single Christian girl that the guy is dependable, consistent and able to provide for a family. This issue of provision is extremely important for a any single woman looking for a mate. Look, we’re not talking Donald Trump here, okay? As my one Christian single girlfriend says, “If he has an operating driver’s license and a job, that’s good enough for me.”
  5. Coming in at fifth place is the issue of physical attractiveness. Christian single girls relay that it’s important (but not most important) that they be somewhat physically attracted to the man they marry. In other words, when a single Christian girl looks upon you, she should find “something” appealing about you physically. You may not be a Brad Pitt, but you almost certainly have at least one feature that is above average in appearance.

Well, guys, there you have it. Whether you meet someone through an online Christian Dating/Matchmaking site or church singles group, what Christian single girls want in a guy remains the same.

Are you a Christian single girl or guy with a different take on the issue? Feel free to submit your dating comments.

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    • tc

      Truth be mind they want the same thngs men want: security; adventure; breakfast in bed; told how spectacular they are; & they want to be turned on; they want to get off.

      • soter

        A passage in the bible says that the disciple of Jesus cannot worship both God and money.

        That means the true believers and follower of God is going to be put God first and his calling. Money and the accumulation thereof and the provision of a life of comfort is going to come in second place. When a man is married to his wife, his interest in God is divided. That means even if a man burns with passion and needs a wife, his interests and loyalties to God will be divided.

        This means that the Christian women seeking a man to provide a good home, is not going to find the same commitment to good home-making, as the man who puts the pursuit of money above the pursuit of God.

        Good Christian women would rather have a less devout wealthy man, than a more devout poor Christian man.
        At the end of the day, money pays the bills and as we all know it is money which is the biggest factor in a collapsed marriage and possibly also because a spiritual union is not something which involves slipping a ring on a person’s finger and exchanging wedding vows. That is a secular wedding.

        Long before secular weddings were even dreamed up by men, men and women were meeting, becoming joined spiritually through intimacy and friendship and then sleeping together. This was taking place long long before money was even conceived.

        • Shanice

          I’d personally have a man who is On Fire for jesus and we struggle for money and luxuries because the struggle will keep us grounded and dependent on God. I’d listen to God, let him guide you as he knows us better than we know ourselves.
          The worst thing that can happen is that we die of starvation and I doubt God would do that without reason. If you are saved money means nothing. To be married and loved by christ and by your Husband (or Wife) is and amazing Gift. If you have faith in Christ then you know Money means nothing. God loves all of us. So much. I desire a husband and to me all the points above are in order to what I desire, as well as for me personally, my husband must want a large family. But that is for God to bless me with these desires. And i’d be blessed no matter what.
          We all have different roles to play in life, In the kingdom of God and in Marriage.
          ‘Be not so evenly yoked with unbelievers’ II corinthians I believe.
          It is all our own choice, Free will.

          I dont believe this is for an elder woman, as I’m 19 years of age. We are in the world not of the world’ Listen to Christ.
          May God Bless you all.

          • Thomas

            Are most Christian women this picky and shallow?

            It’s no wonder men are no longer going to church……

            • H. Mickey Gill


              It’s also no wonder why a lot of men stopped looking for a non-existent soulmate.

              • Josh

                I completely agree. I’ve lived in the Christian community all my life, and the majority of Christian girls are pretty much exact matches to this, including my sister.

                • Jason

                  Men don’t want to be in a sex less marriage or relationship. Trying to oppose your views of sex on men will end up in dissapointment just as much as his on yours. I have christian values but the way the church teaches sex is to extreme for most people to handle. If you love your partner you should be able to express your feeling without having a guilt trip like your doing something bad. You would not have been born if your parents did not have sex!

                  • Darren

                    This is non-sense!!!!!

                    I’m a guy that fits all of these criteria and can offer so much more and yet never during my 5 years of Christian walk have I had a Christian girl interested in me, or even just give me a chance.

                    I served the Lord wholeheartedly, despite all hardships, never compromised (unlike others who still have sex outside marriage), actively involved in ministry and serve in the background and never receive any credit.

                    The funny thing is I had no shortage of interest from non-Christian girls before I was saved, they just see me as a funny and genuine guy. Since I got saved, I have chosen not to date non-Christian girls , then I had absolutely no luck with any so called “Christian” girls. I even met an amazing girl at one time who is incredibly beautiful and genuinely interested in who I am, I didn’t pursue the opportunity only because she wasn’t actively involved in church anymore. I have since regretted and repented accordingly, I understand now I should get off my high horse and look at non-Christian girls from now on.

                    Apparently Christian girls like guys who have got the “whole package”, especially looks and being “out there”, attractive guys serving in the worship team never had shortage of interest from girls. I on the other hand have chosen to serve in ministries in the background, never got noticed, I serve to honor the Lord, not to put myself under the spotlight. And 5 years onward, every single friend (most of them younger than me) in my circle is either married, engaged, or dating. I got absolutely nowhere. What gives?

                    Christian girls are SHALLOW, that’s the truth. So wake up ladies!!!!!

                    • Random Commenter

                      Actually, the real issue is that our society has become shallow since the 1950’s due to mass marketing and crass consumerism. Thus, the emphasis on the exteranal (physical appearance, $ and perception) as opposed to the internal (moral values/integrity and work ethic).

                      • honeyleila

                        I can agree to a lot of these things, but in the end I want someone who has a sincere heart & open to God & listen to his voice. I struggle though to find. Someone I’ve usually been dating the wrong type of male usually just one who won’t be able to marry me..I’ve dated persian men(from Iran) & usually that seems to be a problem when they can’t be with me or take me seriously it just hurts that they are willing to put time into a relationship & for what.maybe I’m attracted to the culture a lot.the christian boys from my church tend to just play games or are scared of marriege..anyhow I gave up on love & am just trying to find my heart & trust in God .. it will take a while untill God heals my heart from scars

                        • T. Maccarthy Kpaan

                          i am a christian guy, and frankly speaking all the girls that have come my way have been giving me hell. so for now i have decided to remain as i am till the right person can come. i luv singing and playing the piano eventhou i am still learning it. and i need a christian girl who will understand me and respect God with fear. thanks for your tips

                          • wonder777

                            shoot darrren thats excatly what i feel like.
                            most of them are miserable in thier 30’s and 40’s with kids from a guy they were with and it didnt workmout. most ive seen drink or smoke, and have no values other than to be with thier girlfrinds.anfd hang out with losers.
                            if there was one like dawn wells, or shirly temple out there,that liiked to dress and likes to be with you ?
                            than where is she anyway?

                            • Rahul

                              There are plenty of single Christian women at my church. I have been asked out by single moms, divorcees, and women who are older or heavier then me – but I refused them all. The regular Christian women are too picky…I’ll probably get a wife from overseas.

                              • David

                                From my personal experiences and everyone I have known either personally or elsewhere, I believe 100% that #4 above is all-consuming therefore, without it the rest are only temptations especially IF the Christian woman is both highly educated with Prestige plus attractive. People > a MAJOR problem with our western culture ever since droves of students began flocking to Universities starting in the late 60s is this…during those few to several years from say 18 through late 20s when MEN’s hormones are raging and trump all else, men need a woman often in despair for not just tactility but Occupational MOTIVATION to their hero! Ladies at the same age do not feel the same urgency for well “sex” nor having a child and so, feelings-wise they are much able to cope without needing a male to motivate them through post-secondary education. Their lies the huge problem for decades now in that most all Universities have more ladies then men (Christians included), who then graduate expecting to marry above themselves Economically speaking which is unbelievably impractical. There is nothing worse than attending a church service as I did today and see single ladies there of middle age whom when you talk with them, out comes very quickly for example, “I did my graduate or poste graduate at” blah blah blah “oh, did you attend University and what do you do?” I thought we are suppose to be in church for worshipping Jesus and HE certainly was not impressed (as a low life hmm Carpenter?) with SCHOLARS (i.e. Judas) or the High Priests. Read your Bible ladies and then you will cancel out #4 above according to Jesus’ words w.r.t. ALL materialism.

                                • Zechariah T. Morsay

                                  I am a man of God, I have lost my wife seven month now I am looking for another God fearing woman. For ministry needs a backup of a very strong influential woman full of courage and hope.some one that will make me happy when I am down like now, I promise to do likewise. God I am waiting

                                  • Katie

                                    Im looking for a guy that can date over txt only and only a country boy…no city guys! If u have kik feel free to kik me!!
                                    Username: redneckforever099
                                    Feel free im up till 12:00-12:30ish

                                    • Isaac

                                      If you keep to Gods standard to a relationship and Marriage and devote to each other without ever entering in selfish desires that destroy trust and cause pain. Jesus was the perfect representation of a bridegroom and passionate about us and his Father GOD…. Why notuse those principles and act more than talk about what a man and a womens role to a working Marriage relationship. Some messages here are humans way of thinking…on how a relationship goes…cause they talk about how he or she was unfaithful…….Unfaithful start in the faith…..the faith in God we have we come out in our walk and in the marriage…..but if a man or women starts to desire other things that bring a block to the marriage……The faith in the relationship starts to break apart…..Trusting in God ….following his principles….and both work hard at the relationship….it cant fail…….what fails is stupidity…thinking you dont need God or daily fighting for your partner…in prayer……daily conversating with eath other…daily doing things together…..that keeps a marrige going strong…..this femineme crap is not in the bible……and is the one cause of men leaveing relationship cause the women does not pray…does not allow him to lead as the bible says men to to lead his family…..Men strive on fighting…and will fight for what they want….but take that athority from him and….he fails!….. KEPP TO GODS STANDARDS AND PRINCIPLES LIKE its your last day and have passion about serving God with all men and women……and watch even the dead relationship will get restored…..but both need to work on it!

                                      • Mark

                                        When I found this article I was hoping to find out what Christian girls are actually wanting/expecting.
                                        I once new this girl who went to church, 3 Bible studies, and to the outside looked like everything their church says a Christian guy should pursue. She wasn’t out of my league in looks, we had a lot of the same interests. After the 3rd time she turned me down I backed off thinking we were friends. 2-3 months later she came to me asking to see if there was a way she could date my non Christian roommate.
                                        She knew the answer, she knew better, and she knew that I liked her. Through all of that she cared no more of me than a doormat to wipe her feet on her way to a place she knew she wasn’t supposed to go.
                                        I held my composure and told her the truth. I did my best to avoid her after this but the day she came to me asking for money on a mission’s trip I exploded in anger telling her just how heartless she was. This and me being stood up by unapologetic Christian girls on multiple occasions
                                        That and me not even having half as much trouble with non Christian girls, has lead me to stop pursuing Christian girls for the last 3 years. I do believe that Christians should only pursue other Christians, but acting as hypocritical, self righteous, entitled, harpies not only hurts you and those around you, it doesn’t provide glory to God where you should. (disclaimer: I have never been angry at a woman for respectfully telling me no.)

                                        • 4Tifier

                                          Looks like I’m in the same boat as you guys…

                                          I once knew this single Christian girl at my church. She crossed off everything I was looking for in a potential partner; goes to church, good with kids, smart, modest, and even was fit with blonde hair, blue eyes and pale skin (which is my physical preference).

                                          However, I never once felt attracted to her. I thought this was just out of nervousness, but that never changed despite how many times I talked to her.

                                          We never dated, but I’m glad I didn’t, because I found out that she was a low-key gold digger who was only interested in me (and her past BF of 4 1/2 years) for our potential to become rich and successful men.

                                          I was very disappointed by this, but I learned a valuable lesson; I can easily find a girl who can cross off everything on my superficial list, but it all means nothing if she does not have God at the center of her life.

                                          However, this does not mean that I am innocent either. I have kept God’s word and stayed pure for a potential future marriage, yet I have had times where I was only interested in girls for their physical appearances and nothing more. This is something that I am only now overcoming since this makes me just as shallow as these gold-digger girls.

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