What Christian Single Girls Want in a Guy

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What do Christian single girls look for in a single Christian guy when contemplating a soulmate or marriage partner? This question always seems to percolate in any singles groups I have ever attended or led. We found some online surveys about Christian single girls (ages 18-70) you may find quite interesting.

Okay guys, so you’re no babe magnet? Don’t worry about it because the good news here is that single Christian girls of all ages appear to put physical attraction behind four other qualities that you may have. If you don’t have any of these, you may want to consider becoming a eunuch.

Top Dating Qualities Christian Girls Want

Here are the top five qualities single Christian girls look for in a Christian single guy:

1. Christian single women want a guy who is passionate about his Lord. Nothing is more attractive to a single Christian girl than a guy who is in love with Jesus, and passionate about following Him. A guy sold out for Jesus lets the single Christian girl know that he is not afraid of big commitments as in, ahem…marriage. I can’t believe I just wrote the “M” word.
2. Christian single girls put a high value on a guy who can honestly share feelings. She wants to be able to trust that her potential husband is a man of his word, and faithful to her. It also doesn’t hurt that he is not afraid to cry while watching sad movies. Look, most of us have been burned by fakers and liars, and it hurts big time. For some of you guys who do have a problem in this area, I suggest listening to that old Billy Joel tune, Honesty, and doing a Bible word study on the word.
3. Christian single girls are attracted to a guy with a good sense of humor. Life has lots of bumps in the road, and a sense of humor will help her keep perspective on what is really important (Col. 3:1) when the going gets tough. Plus, these kind of folks are just fun to be around.
4. Single Christian girls are looking for a guy who can provide a stable environment. Translation: A single woman finds a man appealing who has a steady job and loving relationships with his immediate family members. This shows the single Christian girl that the guy is dependable, consistent and able to provide for a family. This issue of provision is extremely important for a any single woman looking for a mate. Look, we’re not talking Donald Trump here, okay? As my one Christian single girlfriend says, “If he has an operating driver’s license and a job, that’s good enough for me.”
5. Coming in at fifth place is the issue of physical attractiveness. Christian single girls relay that it’s important (but not most important) that they be somewhat physically attracted to the man they marry. In other words, when a single Christian girl looks upon you, she should find “something” appealing about you physically. You may not be a Brad Pitt, but you almost certainly have at least one feature that is above average in appearance.

Well, guys, there you have it. Whether you meet someone through an online Christian Dating/Matchmaking site or church singles group, what Christian single girls want in a guy remains the same.

Are you a Christian single girl or guy with a different take on the issue? Feel free to submit your dating comments.

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True Love Signs-How to Tell if it’s True Love or Lust

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Is is true love or simple physical attraction and lust? What are true love signs for Christian singles dating? How do you know you’ve found your “true love” of a life time? Whether your relationship began in person or online thru a site like Eharmony this article may help

Is It True Love?

The following true love prerequisites will help you gauge whether or not this person is “the one”:

True Love: The relationship causes both parties to grow closer to Jesus

True Love: There is implicit trust and no fear of being vulnerable

True Love: The couple has great communication with each other

True Love: Neither party doubts the truthfulness of the other

True Love: True love waits for sexual intimacy. Intense physical
attraction, but neither party defrauds the other (1 Thes. 4:6,7)

True Love: When there are disagreements (if you never had any, someone’s
not being real), the daters have learned how to argue,
but still remain close

True Love: There is no jealousy or controlling behavior.

True Love: Family members and friends confirm and approve of the dating relationship.

Closing True Love Thoughts

Of course, the above is not an exhaustive list of true love signs, but is useful in helping singles assess the potential of a true love match.

Is there such a thing as one true love, or can there be a number of “true loves” in one’e life?

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